about going to family functions??? I just got into a mini-argument with him because we got invited to my cousins baby's bris on Saturday and FH had a dentists appointment that he already rescheduled. My issue is that he reschedules once before cause he was too tired. Now all of a sudden its SO important to go to his dentist appointment. My family has only seen him a handful of time and weve been together 6 years!!! I never give him a hard time to go to any of his family events. There arent many, but I go to every one. Whenever I tell him theres a family party to go to, we always get into an argument cause he tries to find a way not to go. Its just annoying. Anyone else's FH do this?
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
just gotta make him go!
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
me too! I had an X that was the same way.
FH loves going to family functions-
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
just gotta make him go!
I just wish for once he would say, OKAY, and shut up. Instead its like pulling teeth (no pun intended in this case) And then he doesnt see my side and instead says Im starting an argument. Its so frustrating!!!! Now he says, 'Fine Ill go, cause you made me feel bad' Funny cause he always make me feel bad when he gives me a hard time.
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
just gotta make him go!
I just wish for once he would say, OKAY, and shut up. Instead its like pulling teeth (no pun intended in this case) And then he doesnt see my side and instead says Im starting an argument. Its so frustrating!!!! Now he says, 'Fine Ill go, cause you made me feel bad' Funny cause he always make me feel bad when he gives me a hard time.
I used to be like that with FH cuz i felt like an outsider......maybe he feels left out...
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
me too! I had an X that was the same way.
FH loves going to family functions-
Im about to make him my ex!
But I should make one important point, FH lost his parents at an early age. From a psychological standpoint, I think it hurts him to be around family events because he didnt get to have a normal family like most people. So sometimes I feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt. But he cant make an excuse EVERY time!
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ugh FH doesnt want to go to anything- he uses work as an excuse all the time! and hte annoying thing is that i go to HIS family functions WITHOUT him when he is working but he complains about coming to mine WITH me
he better get it it out of his system bc when we have kids everyone is going to want to see them and we are going to have to be more social, work or no work!
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My FH always comes to my family events(i think he goes for the food though) lol
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ugh FH doesnt want to go to anything- he uses work as an excuse all the time! and hte annoying thing is that i go to HIS family functions WITHOUT him when he is working but he complains about coming to mine WITH me
he better get it it out of his system bc when we have kids everyone is going to want to see them and we are going to have to be more social, work or no work!
Sounds EXACTLY like my situation. I tell him all the time he's gonna have to be more social, sooner or later.
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for us its the opposite, his family has alot of family functions and i go to all of them so when its my family i dont want to hear it from him lol...but just explain to him in a sincere way how much this means to you and you would like for him to get to know your family better
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we are the opposite.....i give FH a hard time about going to his family events!
its so bad but i really dont like hanging out with my own family so why would i want to hang out with his? i know it sounds so horrible but sometimes it feels like a chore......also my parents are not here and his family can be a little bit of a Brady Bunch Family and its kind of annoying - to me they are very suffocating with hugs and kisses and all that i love you stuff and it can get obnoxious - especially when my family is not like that at all and it makes me miss how normal they are to me and that i miss them and wish i was with them instead of FH's family.....
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
me too! I had an X that was the same way.
FH loves going to family functions-
Im about to make him my ex!
But I should make one important point, FH lost his parents at an early age. From a psychological standpoint, I think it hurts him to be around family events because he didnt get to have a normal family like most people. So sometimes I feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt. But he cant make an excuse EVERY time!
i am the same way as your FH - i still have my parents but they moved away - and i stayed. so i am pretty sure that has something to do with why i never want to attend his family functions.....
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for us its the opposite, his family has alot of family functions and i go to all of them so when its my family i dont want to hear it from him lol...but just explain to him in a sincere way how much this means to you and you would like for him to get to know your family better
I TRY the sincere route! He always has an excuse!!!! ALWAYS!! There's just no winning with him. Now were arguing and its my only day off for us to spend time together and it started out rough. It shouldnt have even come to this. Thats what annoys me, and to him, I STARTED IT.
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
me too! I had an X that was the same way.
FH loves going to family functions-
Im about to make him my ex!
But I should make one important point, FH lost his parents at an early age. From a psychological standpoint, I think it hurts him to be around family events because he didnt get to have a normal family like most people. So sometimes I feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt. But he cant make an excuse EVERY time!
That can defintley play a part, although from a pscyhological standpoint, I would think he would embrace it b/c he never had that in his life.
Talk to him about it.....
When I cancel a doctor's apointment once., I hate to do it again .....I feel bad maybe thats it lol.....
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Neither of us are crazy about family events...mine or his lol
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We are both very close to each other's fam so going to a family function we actually look foward too. UNLESS football is on or he has a draft to attend too, then FH will give me a hard tme. But overall, i cant complain. I would just expalin to him how much family means to you and how you want him apart of there lives.
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
me too! I had an X that was the same way.
FH loves going to family functions-
Im about to make him my ex!
But I should make one important point, FH lost his parents at an early age. From a psychological standpoint, I think it hurts him to be around family events because he didnt get to have a normal family like most people. So sometimes I feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt. But he cant make an excuse EVERY time!
i am the same way as your FH - i still have my parents but they moved away - and i stayed. so i am pretty sure that has something to do with why i never want to attend his family functions.....
Yeah it definitely does. It must make it so hard to be around his fam when you miss yours so much. I do understand that completely. But 6 years of excuses just gets kinda defeating.
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for us its the opposite, his family has alot of family functions and i go to all of them so when its my family i dont want to hear it from him lol...but just explain to him in a sincere way how much this means to you and you would like for him to get to know your family better
I TRY the sincere route! He always has an excuse!!!! ALWAYS!! There's just no winning with him. Now were arguing and its my only day off for us to spend time together and it started out rough. It shouldnt have even come to this. Thats what annoys me, and to him, I STARTED IT.
tell him no sex if he doesnt go
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
me too! I had an X that was the same way.
FH loves going to family functions-
Im about to make him my ex!
But I should make one important point, FH lost his parents at an early age. From a psychological standpoint, I think it hurts him to be around family events because he didnt get to have a normal family like most people. So sometimes I feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt. But he cant make an excuse EVERY time!
i am the same way as your FH - i still have my parents but they moved away - and i stayed. so i am pretty sure that has something to do with why i never want to attend his family functions.....
Yeah it definitely does. It must make it so hard to be around his fam when you miss yours so much. I do understand that completely. But 6 years of excuses just gets kinda defeating.
Yeah but you are right its no excuse. We shouldnt feel sorry for ourselves - and we should suck it up and attend. For the most part we attend everything together BUT I usually complain about it or want to get there late and leave early - why am I so bad!
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not Fh. I had an ex that wouldnt go with me to family events and i HATED it.
me too! I had an X that was the same way.
FH loves going to family functions-
Im about to make him my ex!
But I should make one important point, FH lost his parents at an early age. From a psychological standpoint, I think it hurts him to be around family events because he didnt get to have a normal family like most people. So sometimes I feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt. But he cant make an excuse EVERY time!
That can defintley play a part, although from a pscyhological standpoint, I would think he would embrace it b/c he never had that in his life.
Talk to him about it.....
When I cancel a doctor's apointment once., I hate to do it again .....I feel bad maybe thats it lol.....
I feel like it could go either way. You either embrace my family or push it away cause its too painful. My mom and step-father adore him and its even hard to get him to go to their house for Sunday dinner. And trust me, he doesnt feel bad canceling ANYTHING!!!
