I am a nervous wreck... just found out that I can't get married on June 11th of 2006. We already booked the Carltun (put a deposit down). I am a Catholic marrying a Greek-American, Greek-orthodox guy. We just called St. Paul's Church in Hempstead (which is a Greek-Orthodox church) and inquired about June 11th for our wedding. Guess what they told us?? that we can't get married that day because June 11th (Sunday) is the 50th day of Easter. Don't know exactly what it means since I am Catholic but no Greek-Orthodox church will marry me on that day..... FH doesn't want to convert and get married Catholic (I agreed to that).... What should we do??? We already signed the contract at the Carltun??? Really don't know what to do.... sorry for the post being so long but I needed to get it out......
UPDATE #1
We talked to the Carltun and they have June 4th available which we will take! they were very understanding...We called the church and they are booked on that day! so we called a church in a city and 'reserved' the date. Do you think it is stupid to have the church in a city and the reception on LI? the church will be at 2:00pm, reception at 6:30pm... Now I have to get used to the new wedding date..from June 11th to June 4th....
ChrissynRicky
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Try another GO church - some of them are stricter than the others. My church does not allow (VERY STRICT) any marriages during days of Holy Obligation.
If you're both set on the church, go to the reception hall, explain the situation and I'm sure they'll switch the date for you. Can you move it a week?
Make sure you check w/the church first of alterantaive days - that's what I did first.
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I would def see if there's another GO church that can marry you on that day. But it sounds like they wouldn't since it's a holy day--apparently.
I'm sure if you got other dates the Carltun could move it for you. It's still early and I'm sure they haven't booked up the whole year. Maybe you'll just have to move your date by a couple of weeks.
Don't worry, you're gonna be ok!!!!!!
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Definitely try another church! I had a hard time finding a church and after being laughed at by many, I found a wonderful one.
Another alternative mught be to have a beautiful ceremony at the Carltun...is that an option for you at this point?
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I am not greek but from what I have heard, they are all really strict on what days you can get married. I call the hall, they have plenty of time to rebook and might be willing to switch the day with you simply because you are not leaving them you are just switching to another day and June is such a popular month with 11 months left too book I would be surprised if they didnt.
Or I would consider getting married at the church on your wedding day and if its really important to have the ceremony at the greek church maybe choose another day for that! (thats 2 times you get to wear your dress!)
Good Luck!
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I don't think you FH has to convert to be married in a Catholic church, but if you still want a Greek ceremony, the Carltun may let you re-book.
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Dont panic. We had the same problem being Catholic we originally signed for Memorial Day 2006(Monday)well we couldnt find a catholic church that would marry us on a monday We explained to the North Ritz Club what the church said and they were very helpful in allowing us to change the date to June of 2007. Talk to the Carltun before you panic and if worse comes to worse look for another church. Good Luck!
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Even if you still want to look into other churches, I would call the Carltun immediately and discuss your options with them. There contract was very restricting but they did tell us things can be changed in extreme circumstances. Good luck!
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If you really want that church, find out what days are available and then cross-refernce those dates with the Carltun. Otherwise, have you thought about getting married at your hall? Maybe make it more of a ceremony joining you and your FH rather than a religious ceremony.
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danigirl79
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Since you put a deposit down they may not refund your money but they may be flexible and change the date. See if they will do that. If not, you could always hire a justice of the peace to marry you.
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See if you can change the date with the hall. I was able to do this. It is more per person in my case, but if you or FH is set on that church, select a good date. But first check with the hall to see if you can change w/o consequence.
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Thank you all for the wonderful advice!!!
I feel a little better today.... I was set on the day (June 11) but we are calling the Carltun this morning and we will try to change the date to a week before or a week after.... the week after is Father's day (June 18) would that make a big difference? to get married on Father's day?? I will update after we speak to the Carltun....
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That is great news..good luck and keep us posted!
Ladybug63
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If you have to get married in a GO church I would 1st contact other GO churches and make sure none of them will marry you.
If not I would call your original church and pick a few dates that will work for you.
Then I would call your hall and explain the situation to them. I'm sure they will be accommodating. (Sidebar: When did u sign the contract? In the state of NY you have 72 hours to cancel a contact regardless)
If you don't have to be married in a GO church you can get married in a catholic church. I'm pretty sure only one of you needs to be catholic. You both may just have to go to a few extra preparation classes if that.
It will work out don't stress!!!
P.S I think fathers day is a great day. It would be nice to make that a family day with you and your children in the future (if you decide to have kids)
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I thought there was going to be a problem in my church (there wastnt thank god) but I told the Fox Hollow that there might be, and the BM said that we could move the date if needed. Just keep in mind that you may have to pay more per person. but you cant control that now
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UPDATE!!!
We talked to the Carltun and they have June 4th available which we will take! they were very understanding...We called the church (St. Paul's in Hempstead) and they are booked on that day! so we called a church in a city and 'reserved' the date. Do you think it is stupid to have the church in a city and the reception on LI? the church will be at 2:00pm, reception at 6:30pm... Now I have to get used to the new wedding date..from June 11th to June 4th....::
Bella Blu
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I'm glad you were able to work it out. As far as the church being in the city.....don't worry about that...it's one special day of your life. I have seen other GO weddings where they did the same thing. I will also be getting married in a GO church....so your post is a good reminder for me. Good luck!
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Hi date twin! I'm GO and we are getting married at St. Nicholas. If you decide not to go with the church in the city, there are plenty of beautiful GO churches in Astoria. (closer to LI) like St. Demetrios and St. Catherine & George. Good Luck
vita930
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Hello date twin!! OMG we thought about St. Nicholas in Bayside!!! I was going to call them to find out if they had our new date.....FH doesn't like churches in Astoria..(he is very picky)... so we are very limited to Greek-Orthodox churches... anyone know any other nice Greek churches on LI (Nassau) besides St.Paul's?
