Doubts

So, I have 6 months to go and something happened last night that is making me seriously rethink everything.

I told FH I don't think I can go thru with the wedding but he is insisting that he'll make everything better and to please not cancel.

I don't know what I should do. My heart says stick it out but my head says call it off now.

i am so sorry to hear this-- why do you think 'your head ' is saying call it off?

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Posted by Espo22

well what is making you have doubts? is it just cold feet or is there actually some issues that concern you?

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There is an issue that concerns me.

My rational thinking is saying that something is wrong and everything should be done and over with. I love him so much that my heart is saying stick with it and try to get through it.

I would really really think everything through. Its better to call off now then after its all said and done
I would have a huge sit down with FH and discuss why you are feeling this way

Good luck

What's going on? If there are issues like the previous posted stated that you think can't be worked out...or your love has changed for him then I'd say take a step back and rethink things.. you don't want to end up getting divorced and you need to be fair to FH either...

Im so sorry to hear that!!!

I'm not sure what you're situation is, but I think you should stick it out!! Wedding planning is very stressful and it may cause you to lose sight of the love you and FH share bc you are constantly overwhelmed with 'The Wedding'! I wish you the best! We are all here for you!

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Posted by wifetobe
you don't want to end up getting divorced and you need to be fair to FH either...

Im so sorry to hear that!!!

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she said in the OP that her 'fh is going to make things better' - It might be a problem with him

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Posted by Maria31



I'm not sure what you're situation is, but I think you should stick it out!! Wedding planning is very stressful and it may cause you to lose sight of the love you and FH share bc you are constantly overwhelmed with 'The Wedding'! I wish you the best! We are all here for you!

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Sorry, I just read the other posts...
If there is a serious issue at hand, then you should definitely step back and re-evaluate everything!

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Posted by MSeed

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Posted by Espo22

well what is making you have doubts? is it just cold feet or is there actually some issues that concern you?

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There is an issue that concerns me.

My rational thinking is saying that something is wrong and everything should be done and over with. I love him so much that my heart is saying stick with it and try to get through it.

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well have you tried fixing this issue? seems like maybe something serious is still bothering you. If there is a problem then talk to your fh, see if you two can work out and how to move past it.

Oh Nooooo!!!! What happened? That's a Hard call to make without details!!! Awww....Honey I'm soooo sorrryyyy!!!!

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Posted by irishgrl1017

I would really really think everything through. Its better to call off now then after its all said and done
I would have a huge sit down with FH and discuss why you are feeling this way

Good luck

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I've been speaking to him nonstop since 11 o'clock last night. Nothing seems to be resolved.

The wedding stresses are not the reason I have doubts. I have been stressed for awhile but it hasn't effected out relationship.

I understand that you want to keep your issue private. But whether or not you stick this out depends on what the 'issue' is.

For example, if he were abusive in any way, you get out of there this second. If he has been cheating on you for a year, pack your stuff and leave. If he does not ever want to have children and you do, that won't be changed by time and it's better to end the relationship now.

But, if it's that you don't feel that 'spark' you used to, or that he's been promising to go back to college and make more money but is being lazy, etc., that's stuff you can talk over, go to counseling for, work through over time. And the close proximity of the wedding might make it seem like an unfixable doom you're heading towards, when it's really just magnified by wedding panic.

So I say, figure out of the issue is 'fixable' and if you're just panicking because the wedding is so near, or if it's a defect in his character that you shouldn't have to live with.

Good luck.

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Posted by MSeed

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Posted by irishgrl1017

I would really really think everything through. Its better to call off now then after its all said and done
I would have a huge sit down with FH and discuss why you are feeling this way

Good luck

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I've been speaking to him nonstop since 11 o'clock last night. Nothing seems to be resolved.

The wedding stresses are not the reason I have doubts. I have been stressed for awhile but it hasn't effected out relationship.

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If you want to talk it out with some one.. please FM me. I would be willing to listen

i'm so sorry to hear this

if there's an issue that you feel can't be fixed, it would be better to cancel now, and save yourself and FH the grief of a divorce. it'll be hard no matter when it happens. you said FH says he insists he'll make things better. could you maybe postpone the wedding to see if he can hold true to that?

this is a tough one. i'm so sorry.