Hey Girls! I kind of need your help right now. I am not sure what is going on with me but I feel so low lately. There have been a couple of issues lately. FH and I have had two minor arguments in the past two weeks and we very rarely argue. Then my boss was in the hospital and being really nasty to all the staff that was here working and carrying him. Then my father, who is a very abusive person, and I have distanced myself from greatly, came to visit this past weekend, which was hard and still has me in a funk. Then I didn't wake up this morning for work. My mom called me this morning at 8:15, when I am normally in the car and I hadn't even gotten out of bed yet because I forgot to set my alarm
Then I get to work a half hour late and find out my closest friend at work was in a head on collision last night and is alright but is home resting as she is very very bruised and scraped and sore. I Just feel like everything is happening at once and I feel very overwhelmed and depressed. We were supposed to go to a friends beach house in VA this weekend but that is canceled due to weather, which I guess is better cuz then FH and I can just relax at home and recoup. I don't know I just don't really feel myself and I am not sure if it is because of all these incidents or if I am just really depressed and in a funk and can't seem to get out of it.
FH and I have been doing a lot of little wedding planning things that we need to do. I called the RD site last night to book and confirm time and number of guests. We are putting the guest list in final form to give to the calligrapher in mid October. We have to put together the invitations and order our rings. A week from today FH and his groomsmen are getting fitted and ordering the tuxes. I got all the supplies for my DIY unity candle so maybe I can work on that this weekend. I am making us a guest book on shutterfly.com with our engagement pictures in it, which is coming out really nicely but I feel like it is getting a bit expensive for just a guest book.
Sorry, I know I am rambling and bless your heart if you are still reading all this jibber jabber. I guess I just needed to get all my thoughts and feelings out and just vent a bit. Am I crazy for being this down in the dumps? Will this pass? I really don't feel myself. And every time I move past what happened one day I wake up and something else happens the next day. I guess I am just looking for some encouraging words. Sorry about this, thanks for reading!
BarbieGrl10
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Awwwww
Sorry to hear- these things happen all at once and it stinks. As for you and FH fighting- FH and I never really fought 'til we got engaged. And we had some really rough fights too but it's normal. It really is. With the stress of wedding planning and other issues, it's bound to happen.
Don't worry. You will get through this- promise. And regarding your friend- thank God she is okay despite the scrapes on bruises. It could have been worse!
And, we are here for you anytime you need to vent!
I agree! This wedding is the cause of all our fights. We neverrrrrrrr fight! I cant wait for it to be over so we can get back to normal!
It's totally understandable to be in a funk right now.... You're going through a lot with in your personal relationships. The situation of your FHs uncle I'm sure is on your mind b/c its hurting your FH sooo much! I totally understand what you are saying about your father.... mine used to do the same to me until I realized that I don't deserve to be treated that way.... I don't allow it to happen anymore.....but now I deal with the guilt of completely cutting him out of my life. All in all it was the best decision for me. So b/t the family situations you have a lot going on!!!!! As for your boss..... He's just being a d*ck! Don't let him upset you! Just play on here with us all day! As far as the alarm..... I do that all the time! LOL! Its b/c your stressed! Relax tonight.... Maybe take a romantic bubble bath with your FH tonight! Thank GOD your co-worker is OK!!!!!!!!!!!! Focus on the positive: Co-worker is OK You have a wonderful FH... even if you fight, at least you have someone to fight with! Maybe its a sign that you had to cancel your weekend trip... who knows... but just roll with it.
Feel better
Jsquared279
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Posted by flairforfashion
Awwwww
Sorry to hear- these things happen all at once and it stinks. As for you and FH fighting- FH and I never really fought 'til we got engaged. And we had some really rough fights too but it's normal. It really is. With the stress of wedding planning and other issues, it's bound to happen.
Don't worry. You will get through this- promise. And regarding your friend- thank God she is okay despite the scrapes on bruises. It could have been worse!
And, we are here for you anytime you need to vent!
I agree! This wedding is the cause of all our fights. We neverrrrrrrr fight! I cant wait for it to be over so we can get back to normal!
It's totally understandable to be in a funk right now.... You're going through a lot with in your personal relationships. The situation of your FHs uncle I'm sure is on your mind b/c its hurting your FH sooo much! I totally understand what you are saying about your father.... mine used to do the same to me until I realized that I don't deserve to be treated that way.... I don't allow it to happen anymore.....but now I deal with the guilt of completely cutting him out of my life. All in all it was the best decision for me. So b/t the family situations you have a lot going on!!!!! As for your boss..... He's just being a d*ck! Don't let him upset you! Just play on here with us all day! As far as the alarm..... I do that all the time! LOL! Its b/c your stressed! Relax tonight.... Maybe take a romantic bubble bath with your FH tonight! Thank GOD your co-worker is OK!!!!!!!!!!!! Focus on the positive: Co-worker is OK You have a wonderful FH... even if you fight, at least you have someone to fight with! Maybe its a sign that you had to cancel your weekend trip... who knows... but just roll with it.
Feel better
Thanks sweetie! I think I will suggest the bubble bat to FH! He will love that!
Yeah I think I just need to be home with him he always makes me feel so much better and we always pray together! Everything is resolved with he and I so that is great! Things are starting to look up! Thanks so much girls!
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You should just take this weekend to relax. Go get a mani and pedi and go for a smoothie or something and just veg in front of the TV with a marathon of your favorite TV show. Don't worry about wedding details, you still have 4 months to go. It sounds like you have a lot going on and just need a minute to not think about anything.
You'll get through it.
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Its going to be ok! Believe me, me and my FH have had more arguments then we ever had since planning our wedding and we both have been feeling down and depressed lately. The stress of all the wedding stuff combined with the normal everyday stress sometimes just becomes overwhelming, but dont worry it will pass even if it doesnt seem like it will! Relax and let everything else go and just enjoy the weekend with your love!!
azailia
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think postive and postive things will find you
MrsZtoBe
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I know this might sound silly but my friend Catherine (who is in her mid-thirties) said it best... never underestimate the power of hormones. It can make you feel off and not yourself and think things are less happy than they are.
That being said, my friend and i always say life is all about peaks and valleys. You will get through this and I am always here to listen.
Chin up!
Mrs B to Be
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everyone hits slow points, i'm sure it just all feels that much more emphasized b/c it all happened together, you'll come out of it and get through....i hope you friend is doing well, and make sure you take time for yourself this weekend.....i think youshould treat yourself to a manicure or something to help you unwind =)
FutureMrsG
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Take the weekend to relax with FH. Things will get better
MrsInglima
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I'm sure it will pass. It seems like a lot of little things have been building up on you and it's normal to feel like something major is happening when you're dealing with so much. Plus the crazy high from planning the wedding is almost over, so you no longer have that constant manic energy anymore. It could also be the weather starting to get a little bit colder. Either way, it's normal to feel down in the dumps sometimes, even if it's for a few weeks. Everyone gets that way! If you need to talk it out, FM me.
Aristotelina
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I know how you are feeling....
It's definitely a mixture of a lot of things, and like someone said, DEFINITELY hormones play a part too! I'm totally PMS'ing right now and I just lost it and cried before because I dropped the dustpan after I ran into the wall with it (don't ask LOL)
Everything smalls, just seems BIG--especially during this precious planning time.
DonnaPWhite1124
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It s*cks because it always seems that when it rains it pours....
