Flowers are driving me nuts! This was the last thing I thought I'd ever have to stress about. But FH and his mother are pissing me off. She offered to pay for the flowers (which is super generous of her), so FH and I tried to keep it as low as possible, which meant I had to go for low cp's...totally fine with that.
When I told FMIL that we were doing lows, she didn't like it all and wasn't impressed and thinks highs are better and blah blah blah blah. And so suddenly FH finally decides to take interest and insist on highs too. I explained to them that it was going to cost A LOT more, but they told me to find out anyway. Well highs are going to cost an extra $700, which is over the budget FMIL set for us. She tells FH that she'll pay for what she said she would but that we'll have to pay for the rest. ***! She was the one that insisted we get high cp's to begin with. We didn't budget for flowers because she said she would pay for it. But now FH is convinced that low cp's aren't going to look right, when he was totally okay with it before his mom ever said anything. Now I don't know where the hell we're going to get the extra money from Argggh!!!
Lsorrent
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Why not alternate highs with lows? You can do both and probably stick within your budget.
whispersamethyst
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I actually mentioned that to FMIL, but she said no because people sitting at the low cp tables will get offended, meaning their family. During my e-party, they were fighting over the little vases that held one rose...
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i say you stick to your guns and your budget and have the low cps.
you need to re-convince your FH that it's silly to spend the extra money on flowers. If your FMIL wants high cp's so badly, she can pay for them herself, but you will not be doing it.
ps: i like low cp's more than high ... nothing against the high ones, i just like being able to see people across the table ... also, with high ones, you can't take home the entire high cp (usually, guests would just take the top where the flowers are, but not the vase itself) ... make sure your FH and FMIL understand that.
good luck!
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
i say you stick to your guns and your budget and have the low cps.
you need to re-convince your FH that it's silly to spend the extra money on flowers. If your FMIL wants high cp's so badly, she can pay for them herself, but you will not be doing it.
ps: i like low cp's more than high ... nothing against the high ones, i just like being able to see people across the table ... also, with high ones, you can't take home the entire high cp (usually, guests would just take the top where the flowers are, but not the vase itself) ... make sure your FH and FMIL understand that.
good luck!
Thanks! I didn't know that about the high cp's. I will definitely mention it to them.
anneandchris
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I actually mentioned that to FMIL, but she said no because people sitting at the low cp tables will get offended, meaning their family. During my e-party, they were fighting over the little vases that held one rose...
I had both and NO ONE was offended. Honestly the people who noticed (my girl friends and women in my family) LOVED the way both looked in the room.
If it is the free vase they want tell them to go to Michael's and buy themselves one.