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In your wedding website were the comments FH uncle made removed? I do not know it just seem odd the way his uncle is reacting . Does his uncle accept his lifestyle to be in public about it. Do you think maybe someone in FH side may have suggested that the uncle partner cannot come. I am just throwing a bunch of ideas of this. It just does not make sense on FH uncle part his response.
Posted by Future Mulligan
thats terrible
this uncle better have a good explanation - if he doesnt i'd cut my ties with him - i wouldnt even bother sending him an invitation - but thats just how i am, id cut my nose to spite my face and i know it....
i dont really have any good advicei just feel horrible for your FH, that was rude and uncalled for and it was mean - i dont get it
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Posted by egem523
In your wedding website were the comments FH uncle made removed? I do not know it just seem odd the way his uncle is reacting . Does his uncle accept his lifestyle to be in public about it. Do you think maybe someone in FH side may have suggested that the uncle partner cannot come. I am just throwing a bunch of ideas of this. It just does not make sense on FH uncle part his response.
Posted by littlepixie12
Posted by Jsquared279
I know this is what we thought too. FH did call his Mom as soon as he got the email and his Mom is very shocked. She did say she was going to call him but she was probably going to wait till his Uncle cools down. This uncle is a bit hot headed and emotional.
There is probably a bit more background I should add to this...FH's Uncle is gay and has lived with his life partner for more than 10 years. We love them both and are so happy they have found true love with one another. When we first got engaged we started a wedding website on The Knot. FH's Uncle signed our guest book, instead of words of love and congratulations, his Uncle wrote 'Maybe someday Neal (his partner) and I will be able to honor our love in marriage.'
Ok now granted I totally believe in gay rights and often am an advocate for gay marriage. However, is our wedding website guest book the appropriate forum to announce your political propaganda and for you to be discussing your life and your rights?? I thought our wedding website was about my FH and I....anyway so FH thinks this may have something to do with the fact that they are not coming...Are his uncles upset about not being able to be married themselves? If so, couldn't they put that aside for one day to celebrate FH and I![]()
I dunno. This whole thing just hurts.....![]()
Okay, so I didn't read this before my first reply lol. So now this makes sense.... Maybe he feels that he and his partner wouldn't be accepted among some people in the reception and that's why he feels uncomfortable reading ... or maybe he isn't religious... Also, is your ceremony in a church? Because the discriminates against gays so that could be another reason for not reading ... These are just some ideas that Im throwing out there ...
Also, it sounds that he is really biter about not being married himself. He should go to CA and get married there!
Posted by Jsquared279
I know this is what we thought too. FH did call his Mom as soon as he got the email and his Mom is very shocked. She did say she was going to call him but she was probably going to wait til his Uncle cools down. This uncle is a bit hot headed and emotional.
There is probably a bit more background I should add to this...FH's Uncle is gay and has lived with his life partner for more than 10 years. We love them both and are so happy they have found true love with one another. When we first got engaged we started a wedding website on The Knot. FH's Uncle signed our guest book, instead of words of love and congratulations, his Uncle wrote 'Maybe someday Neal (his partner) and I will be able to honor our love in marriage.'
Ok now granted I totally believe in gay rights and often am an advocate for gay marriage. However, is our wedding website guest book the appropriate forum to announce your political propaganda and for you to be discussing your life and your rights?? I thought our wedding website was about my FH and I....anyway so FH thinks this may have something to do with the fact that they are not coming...Are his uncles upset about not being able to be married themselves? If so, couldn't they put that aside for one day to celebrate FH and I![]()
I dunno. This whole thing just hurts.....![]()
Posted by Jsquared279
Posted by egem523
In your wedding website were the comments FH uncle made removed? I do not know it just seem odd the way his uncle is reacting . Does his uncle accept his lifestyle to be in public about it. Do you think maybe someone in FH side may have suggested that the uncle partner cannot come. I am just throwing a bunch of ideas of this. It just does not make sense on FH uncle part his response.
The comments on our website are still there for all to see. FH's Uncle is very open about his sexuality and proud of it, as he should be in my opinion. As far as I know everyone on FH's side is pretty accepting of this Uncles lifestyle and my family is super accepting and was looking forward to meeting him since this Uncle and his partner are the only democrats among FH's family lol! I don't really understand what is going on either. Thanks for your response!
Posted by Jsquared279
Thanks girls! I Think the answer is that someone needs to call FH's Uncle, be it me or FMIL or FH. We need to actually speak to him to address this and try to get some understanding. Thank you so much for all your advice, support and love!![]()
omg, i'm so sorry. that's so strange. i think your FH should talk to him on the phone or maybe in person so get things sorted out. did the uncle say anything to your FH's mom when they spoke about the email??
Posted by vicky1125
omg, i'm so sorry. that's so strange. i think your FH should talk to him on the phone or maybe in person so get things sorted out. did the uncle say anything to your FH's mom when they spoke about the email??
Posted by Jsquared279
Posted by vicky1125
omg, i'm so sorry. that's so strange. i think your FH should talk to him on the phone or maybe in person so get things sorted out. did the uncle say anything to your FH's mom when they spoke about the email??
Not really just that he wasn't sure how to respond so he decided to not respond for the time being. Which also kind of shocked FH and especially the sentence 'Frankly, I didn't know how to respond.' I mean that is something someone says when they are offended. How is asking him to read in our ceremony offensive to him? I don't know...now we have to try to find another reader to boot!![]()
Posted by curlyq4458
yeah, maybe he's jealous....
BUT definitely email him to find out....respond to his email, like I said, you have nothing to loose (he said he's not coming)
Doesthe extended family know he's gay? Maybe he's hiding it from certain people?
thats seems a little weird to me. Did something happen between them that brought this on? I would have FH contact his uncle and again and ask him why feels this way
