Flower Girls - not attending reception

We are having a flower girl and a junior bridesmaid in our wedding; however, due to the high amount of kids in both of our families, we just cannot invite them to stay for the entire reception. We were thinking of introducing them and then having a different family member (on other side of the family) pick them up. Do you think this would be OK, have you ever heard of this? If it was only these kids we would totally have them stay at the reception, but we just cannot afford for 30 kids to attend. Also - just wondering - do flower girls typically attend the bridal shower? I say yes but again new to all this.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

What is wrong with having them stay for the reception and making it a rule that only bridal party children are invited? I feel that it's pretty rude to not invite them to the reception. If I were the parent, I would pull them out if the bridal party. It's too much of a hassle to have someone pick them up and if you don't want them there to celebrate with you, you shouldn't be using them for your ceremony.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

My flower girls and ring bearers are staying for the entire reception.. the way I see it is they are just as important as the bridesmaids and groomsmen.. I wouldn't make them leave..

Flower Girls - not attending reception

I agree with both of the ladies above. they should be allowed to come before anyone else since they are part of the party.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

I'm in the same situation & I'm just making a rule no kids except the ones in the bridal party

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Posted by JessicaP07

I'm in the same situation & I'm just making a rule no kids except the ones in the bridal party

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this exactly

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Posted by Nicole0408

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Posted by JessicaP07

I'm in the same situation & I'm just making a rule no kids except the ones in the bridal party

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this exactly

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This is exactly my rule as well.

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Posted by mrzsoontobejames

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Posted by Nicole0408

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Posted by JessicaP07

I'm in the same situation & I'm just making a rule no kids except the ones in the bridal party

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this exactly

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This is exactly my rule as well.

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Same!

Flower Girls - not attending reception

We are not having children at our wedding withthe exception of the bridal party however we are only having a ring bearer. That being said more than definitely after the ceremony he will go with the babysitter as our ceremony is so late at night.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

Thanks for the feedback - some more tactful than others but appreciate it and it's something extra to think about.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

Thanks for the feedback - some more tactful than others but appreciate it and it's something extra to think about.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

Thanks for the feedback - some more tactful than others but appreciate it and it's something extra to think about.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

Thanks for the feedback - some more tactful than others but appreciate it and it's something extra to think about.

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My FBIL and FSIL children's babysitter will be staying at the hotel at our venue. They have a one year old as well so it will not be a problem with after the ceremony our little ring bearer leave after the ceremony or in the middle of the reception. Everything is going to work out. = )

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Posted by Jsabbatino

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Posted by mrzsoontobejames

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Posted by Nicole0408

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Posted by JessicaP07

I'm in the same situation & I'm just making a rule no kids except the ones in the bridal party

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this exactly

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This is exactly my rule as well.

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Same!

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I will be doing the same thing. The other family members who have kids who are not in the bridal party should understand this as well.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

We are not having our flower girl at the reception. She is my MOH daughter and I gave her the option if she wanted her there or not. She will be invited to the bridal shower, but we aren't having any young children at the reception so MOH mother will be coming to the ceremony/cocktail hour and then taking her home. It's a long day for them too. The flower girl will be there for the entrance of the bridal party.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

We are doing a no kids 'other than bridal party' at our reception.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

I completely get where you are coming from! Many family members (esp on FH side) are mad that kids aren't invited but in the long run I want everyone having fun and not worry about kids being around. At first I wasn't going to have the flowergirl and ring bearer but now I might just have my brother and MOH decide if they want the kids picked up or to stay but since they are in the bridal party they are the only kids that are allowed.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

We are having kids- I just couldn't imagine my reception without all my cousins and nephew there. That being said, when I was younger I was in a wedding for a cousin and went to the church and cocktail hour and then the limo drove home me and my brother where a babysitter was waiting. Since the limo is rented for the day, they drove us home. I think it is your day and do what makes you comfortable.

I am having my flower girl as well as junior bridesmaids at my shower.

Flower Girls - not attending reception

My daughters are my flower girl and junior bridesmaid so they will be at any shower (if we have one) and at the reception. We are also inviting children because to us, our kids are included in everything. If we weren't inviting children (or if they weren't our kids), we would still have the children in the bridal party stay since they are a part of the wedding.