FMIL acting up!! lol

Ok....so 95% of the time I get along great with FMIL, she's actually an extremely sweet woman but sometimes she says things and just doesn't realize they can be a little offensive.

Here's the situation (sorry so long!!!):

her Christmas gift to me was a Lenox 'first dance' cake topper.....it's actually really beautiful and I didn't even say anything when I opened it that I had already bought my own cake topper (a Kim Anderson wedding one- I bought it a few years ago before I was even engaged, just b/c I love Kim Anderson).....I just smiled and said thank you, thinking she didn't know I already had one. Fast forward to when we're leaving and saying goodbye and she said 'oh I hope you like the cake topper, I think it's so much more elegant than that black & white one you already have'!!!!!! Apparently she actually checked w/ FH if I had one, which he knew I did, but she didn't like it so felt the need to get me a different one!!!!

Part of me wants to say something like, can you please let me pick my own things for my wedding, but part of me doesn't want to say anything and just not even use it, regardless of whether I like it more or not......just out of spite!!! lol I might have even considered using it, but the comment that the Lenox one is more elegant was really unnecessary, I feel like she questions my taste all the time!! And here's another thing, I showed her a picture of the Pfaltzgraf china I registered for, and she actually said, 'don't worry, your taste will change'......I guess that was her way of saying she didn't like it??? After 6 years of dating, I was hoping I could share these things with her, but once you get engaged I feel like its a whole new ballgame and you get all kinds of unnecessary negative feedback.

K, I feel much better now......just had to vent!!!