I know you all must think I'm a freak for looking, but my college boyfriend (of 4 years) was like my 'soul mate' to me - I was devastated when he dumped me. I sometimes thought if he ever got back in touch w/me, I'd drop my bf at that time and be w/him again. I know that sounds bad.
Anyway, one day I was bored and started entering all these old friends names into The Knot's search for a couple's page thingie. Well, to my SHOCK, I found his page on there and on Wedding Channel.
For some reason, I kept thinking about him all day. I can't believe I even care, I have my own guy and we're getting married.
Has anyone ever felt a tinge of sadness upon finding out their ex got married?
LeeLee111
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I think if you still feel like this you may want to think twice about getting married. Dont rush into things that arent right just to prove something to yourself. Having an ex-bf that you think about sometimes is fine. (i'm sure most of us do that) But saying you'd leave your FH if the ex came back. I hope you figure everything out.
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Well. . .personally, I never felt that way. I really don't think fondly upon many of my ex boyfriends. . .I don't think any really. . . An ex of mine recently got married and a mutual friend showed some pictures. I remembered thinking wow - good for him, but at the same time being really happy that things worked out the way they did. I know that FH is who I was meant to be with.
Do you think you would leave FH if he came back to you? IMO, if you say yes, I don't think that is something you should be feeling before you get married. If its just you thinking of the good times you had and how much you cared for him - that is different. But you should be happy for him!
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No, at this point, I wouldn't leave my fiance. I can't imagine myself with anyone other than him in my life. I don't know why I felt sad when I saw he was getting married, yet at the same time I felt good that I had found someone to spend my life with. I'm happy for him though, don't get me wrong. Everyone deserves to experience true love, etc.
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Posted by LeeLee111
I think if you still feel like this you may want to think twice about getting married. Dont rush into things that arent right just to prove something to yourself. Having an ex-bf that you think about sometimes is fine. (i'm sure most of us do that) But saying you'd leave your FH if the ex came back. I hope you figure everything out.
i agree...i was with my ex for 8 years and honestly i dont miss him, were still in the same neighborhood and i see him with his gf and im not affected at all by this and no part of me wishes i was with him.
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I don't get sad or anything. I actually hate my ex, we broke up right before he proposed. I know now that Fh is the one and I hate when people even mention my ex, because I'm not sure why I was with him for 2 years..
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Posted by Espo22
Posted by LeeLee111
I think if you still feel like this you may want to think twice about getting married. Dont rush into things that arent right just to prove something to yourself. Having an ex-bf that you think about sometimes is fine. (i'm sure most of us do that) But saying you'd leave your FH if the ex came back. I hope you figure everything out.
i agree...i was with my ex for 8 years and honestly i dont miss him, were still in the same neighborhood and i see him with his gf and im not affected at all by this and no part of me wishes i was with him.
I agree with them both.... my ex and I were together for almost 5 yrs. I was actually happy to see that he had a new girlfriend and seemed to be happy!
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without a doubt--i've been there too! your story sounds like mine--ex-bf was the love of my life...i'd never find another...blah blah.
he's married now--as am i---but sometimes i can't help but enter his name into a search engine for the helluva it. i think we just want to know what happened to THAT part of our life--i'm totally 100% happy with my DH, but hey, i just get curious about the past!
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without a doubt--i've been there too! your story sounds like mine--ex-bf was the love of my life...i'd never find another...blah blah.
he's married now--as am i---but sometimes i can't help but enter his name into a search engine for the helluva it. i think we just want to know what happened to THAT part of our life--i'm totally 100% happy with my DH, but hey, i just get curious about the past!
see that is normal and i think most ppl do this, but to say you would take him back and wished he came back to you is different.
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I don't think it's that you miss him, I think that you never got over your betrayed / hurt feeling that he caused. It sounds like he broke up with you out of nowhere, you didn't even know it was coming (I don't know the background story so I can't be sure), I think there is just pain that will not ever completely go away and I think that is what you are experiencing. Not feelings of love for him but more feelings of hurt and possibly a little contempt. I don't think this is abnormal.
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without a doubt--i've been there too! your story sounds like mine--ex-bf was the love of my life...i'd never find another...blah blah.
he's married now--as am i---but sometimes i can't help but enter his name into a search engine for the helluva it. i think we just want to know what happened to THAT part of our life--i'm totally 100% happy with my DH, but hey, i just get curious about the past!
see that is normal and i think most ppl do this, but to say you would take him back and wished he came back to you is different.
i think the OP was just saying that BEFORE she used to think that she would drop a BF she was dating if her ex came back. i don't think she meant that right now she'd take the ex back. someone i think that got misinterpreted in her post.
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I think I'd feel bad for the FW of any of my exes.
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I think I'd feel bad for the FW of any of my exes.
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without a doubt--i've been there too! your story sounds like mine--ex-bf was the love of my life...i'd never find another...blah blah.
he's married now--as am i---but sometimes i can't help but enter his name into a search engine for the helluva it. i think we just want to know what happened to THAT part of our life--i'm totally 100% happy with my DH, but hey, i just get curious about the past!
see that is normal and i think most ppl do this, but to say you would take him back and wished he came back to you is different.
i think the OP was just saying that BEFORE she used to think that she would drop a BF she was dating if her ex came back. i don't think she meant that right now she'd take the ex back. someone i think that got misinterpreted in her post.
I UNDerstand that part but she said she got real sad when she JUST found out he was engaged.
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Yea ive found out Ex's married or this and that..and have heard things...just b/c you are 'dumped' or leave someone doesnt mean u stop loving the person or thinking of them.
Just as long as you know FH is the one and you would never revert to that person ...then it is Okay to feel that way.
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I found out about an ex through myspace.... at first i was intrigued, ok more like nosey... but other than that, I am happy for him that he found that special person.
I do random searches not only on bast BF but also on past friends too.... just to see where they are at.... oh and b/c i am nosey...
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I like to look up old friends and passed bfs here and there too. So it's good to see someone gets that part of it. Ha ha.
And yes, I was dumped totally out of the blue and over the phone no less! There was like no closure there so I think that's why I always wonder about him.
I should not have said I'd take him back, I probably wouldn't since when you wonder about a person, you often only remember the good and not the bad. I didn't HATE him when he left, I just felt betrayed.
I'm glad I'm marrying my fiance. It's funny, we've broken up a few times in the early months - but he never cut me off out of nowhere and never refused to take my calls, even when we were broken up early on. I think that says a lot about a person.
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I wasn't serious with any of my ex bfs but I know what you mean. There are 2 girls I used to be friends with a long time ago but who I don't speak to anymore, and curiousity kicks in. If either one got engaged I'd want to look them up and peek at their registries -- I check one out on facebook and would check out the other if I didn't have to friend request her first
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mmm, nope my fh is my life, i dont even think of past relationships, obviously they didnt mean anything to me, fh on the other hand is the love of my life, my everything. and i couldnt imagine my life w/o him. nor do i want to.
