Found my ex's Knot page!

i dont agree
i dont think if you think of someone than you should re-think getting married
i was with someone for 7 years and it would be a lie to say that i NEVER think of them
i think its natural; human nature

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Posted by Snowflake08

i dont agree
i dont think if you think of someone than you should re-think getting married
i was with someone for 7 years and it would be a lie to say that i NEVER think of them
i think its natural; human nature

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I completely agree! I was trying to figure out how to word it right, but I couldn’t do it better than you, so I’ll just say: ditto.

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Posted by Snowflake08

i dont agree
i dont think if you think of someone than you should re-think getting married
i was with someone for 7 years and it would be a lie to say that i NEVER think of them
i think its natural; human nature

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ditto. my first bf was my first EVERYTHING and he got married last year and up until a few months b4 his wedding we still talked we were friends for like 10 years after breaking up and i thought his FW was cool with it b/c we were both in other relationships. he stopped emailing and calling me before their wedding so i guess she wasn't.

I was and still am a little sad, but only b/c he was an amazing bf and a great friend after that for 10 years. I'm not at all curious though about any other exes. I just hope he is happy.

It's good to know some of you guys understand what I was feeling when I found the page. Trust me, I rarely think of other exes, they were high school bfs and nothing serious, this was the guy I thought I was going to marry. I was close with his family, etc.

I have to say, if I wasn't engaged I have a feeling it would have upset me a bit more to know he was, I know I shouldn't be admitting it. I know I'm insecure.

I love my fh and I feel guilty even creating this thread, so thanks to those who sorta know where I am coming from.

I also think it's so funny how we spy on old friends and check their registries. I totally did that!

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Posted by snwb08

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Posted by Snowflake08

i dont agree
i dont think if you think of someone than you should re-think getting married
i was with someone for 7 years and it would be a lie to say that i NEVER think of them
i think its natural; human nature

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ditto. my first bf was my first EVERYTHING and he got married last year and up until a few months b4 his wedding we still talked we were friends for like 10 years after breaking up and i thought his FW was cool with it b/c we were both in other relationships. he stopped emailing and calling me before their wedding so i guess she wasn't.

I was and still am a little sad, but only b/c he was an amazing bf and a great friend after that for 10 years. I'm not at all curious though about any other exes. I just hope he is happy.

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This post caught my attention....

First, if you are still feeling this strongly about things- you may not be over the ex. It's normal (in my opinion) to care for an ex but to be willing to break up with your FH for him, that isn't a good sign. But, if you're just curous to how he is doing and what not, I think it's ok to still think of him. Just make sure that there is nothing else there. :)

Second, you need to be careful that his new fiance doesn't know your checking his page. I have a knot webpage with the tracker. A few weeks back, I realized that someone had viewed my page like 10 times.... I couldn't imagine who would be looking at it because I hadn't told anyone about it. I look at my tracker and see that it's MY EX's new girlfriend/fiance. Can we say CRAZY!!!!! I caught my ex of 2 years cheating- I broke up with him and he stalked me for a while. He's finally leaving me alone....I thought he was the nut but now I know his new girl is too. Why would you want to check my page out- I'm the ex and I'm obviously not interested in your bf/fiance if I cut him off 4 years ago and have never talked to him since.

Ok... sorry your post got me thinking and I had to vent.

I actually think your post is refreshing and candid and honest, and I love that. Sometimes people can act like they're 100% non-affected by a past experience or past relationship, but thats not always the case.

You are who you are today b/c of what you've been through in the past, and your ex was part of that. It's okay to still be a lil curious and to care what happened to that piece of your life, just as long as you feel strong and steady and happy in the relationship you are in now.

Let me first say that I would never leave FH for anyone, EVER.

But I was actually really close with two of my exs. We even stayed friends after we broke up. We helped eachother through a lot. Actually one of my ex's used to chill with me and FH!! I had tried hooking my ex up with one of my friends at one point also. So there's no real feelings there at all (relationshipwise). But, I am so curious to see where they are in life. Those little 'butterflies' sometimes come back when I think of how we were or what not. It's just a memory that triggers old feelings..I think its totally normal! Either that, or I'm really nosey and sentimental all at the same time! hehe

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Posted by SoontobeMrsMc

This post caught my attention....

First, if you are still feeling this strongly about things- you may not be over the ex. It's normal (in my opinion) to care for an ex but to be willing to break up with your FH for him, that isn't a good sign. But, if you're just curous to how he is doing and what not, I think it's ok to still think of him. Just make sure that there is nothing else there. :)

Second, you need to be careful that his new fiance doesn't know your checking his page. I have a knot webpage with the tracker. A few weeks back, I realized that someone had viewed my page like 10 times.... I couldn't imagine who would be looking at it because I hadn't told anyone about it. I look at my tracker and see that it's MY EX's new girlfriend/fiance. Can we say CRAZY!!!!! I caught my ex of 2 years cheating- I broke up with him and he stalked me for a while. He's finally leaving me alone....I thought he was the nut but now I know his new girl is too. Why would you want to check my page out- I'm the ex and I'm obviously not interested in your bf/fiance if I cut him off 4 years ago and have never talked to him since.

Ok... sorry your post got me thinking and I had to vent.

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Oh god i am constantly 'stalking' ppl online and I would DIE if I got caught lol lol!!! I am a tad nosy!!!

Back to the original post - I think it is normal to have some level of these feelings. That person's life was basically intertwined with yours at one point, and now he's doing his own thing. I think it can be interesting (or saddening maybe) to see how two lives that were so connected at one point have gone totally separate ways.

I think it's easy to miss the TIMES you had with someone. Maybe it's even that you miss that phase of your life (senior yr of college, or whatever it may be), and it kind of shows its head as you missing that person.

Just thought of something else to say - once in a while I wonder if my FH ever thinks of his ex. My ex crosses my mind once in a while, so wouldn't it be natural for his to, also? That kind of weirds me out

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Posted by AmorPeruano

I actually think your post is refreshing and candid and honest, and I love that. Sometimes people can act like they're 100% non-affected by a past experience or past relationship, but thats not always the case.

You are who you are today b/c of what you've been through in the past, and your ex was part of that. It's okay to still be a lil curious and to care what happened to that piece of your life, just as long as you feel strong and steady and happy in the relationship you are in now.

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Could not have said it better.
I have run into my ex-and not really had feelings of sadness but more wonder. I dont think he is a bad person, we just grew apart. Do i want him to be happy in life of course-do I wonder if he is? Yes, but does that mean that I dont LOVE DH-NO! It just makes me realize more that us going our seperate ways was what needed to happen.
Regardless-im sure that there is a part of you that hasnt gotten closure or the 'knowledge' of what happened-and that probably why your emotions are the way that they are

Thanks to all who 'get' what I was trying to say. I'm content with my guy, it was more the curiosity and wonder about what he's been up to. The break up was so odd. We were together for 4 yrs then one day I just couldn't reach him by phone and he was MIA for over 24 hrs. Then at 1AM he called me to say its over. We never talked or hung out again after that phone call. He sent me a huge box with all my things in it and I heard he moved in with a coworker chick he was - I guess seeing on the side.

It has seriously been 10 years. We were college kids then. I wonder if my FH's exes think about him, not that there were many, ha ha.

My first boyfriend (of 3 years from h.s.) is gay now and we have no connection at all. Haven't spoke since like 1999. I found him on myspace and stalked his page until he deleted himself. Ha ha!

I am one nosy b**ch, let me tell you. Good to know there are some others out there. I mean it's harmless web stalking and makes for great convo and gossip with the girls.

My MOH LOVES her hubby and would never doubt marrying him for a second, though she peeks at her ex's Myspace blog weekly and we laugh about how insane he is and how dumping him was the best thing she ever did. (She'd kill me if she knew I told anyone! She knew him for so many years.)

Oh PLEASE!
I am happily married with a gorgeous baby. I've googled my ex. And if I found out he was getting married I would def be hurt! How DARE he replace me!!!!

Don't even try to tell me some of you don't feel the same

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Posted by jnkcrunk

I think I'd feel bad for the FW of any of my exes.

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I think it's normal to feel this way..my good friend said she found her exes' registry and she was sooo upset and said that she wanted to call him and ask him to get back her. She proclaimed that she still 'loved him.' I was actually mad at her and put her in her place. (She was the type of person to be competitive and SHE was the one that broke up with him.) Anyways long story short, I told her that she should only express her true feelings to him IF she feels that it is coming out of a sincere and honest place, not because she felt that she 'Lost.'

I understood how she felt and she panicked, but she got over it. Thank goodness!!!

I think that it is ok to feel down about this. You were with this person for a long time and you had an emotional connection with them. I think it's only natural to feel a bit of rejection when you see his knot page, especially if you didn't get the closure you felt you needed when that relationship ended.
I think it will fade with time. Hopefully it's just the initial shock value that has you thinking about your relationship.

Once and a while i like to see what my ex's are up to... I think its only natural... I completely cannot stand 1 of them and i still look him up... yes, its curiousity... no, i would never leave fh if i had a chance to get back with ANY of them...

Its hard to 'get over' a relationship when you really didnt have closure ya know? I completely understand

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Posted by AmorPeruano

I actually think your post is refreshing and candid and honest, and I love that. Sometimes people can act like they're 100% non-affected by a past experience or past relationship, but thats not always the case.

You are who you are today b/c of what you've been through in the past, and your ex was part of that. It's okay to still be a lil curious and to care what happened to that piece of your life, just as long as you feel strong and steady and happy in the relationship you are in now.

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couldn't agree more!! i think its only natural.

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Posted by blurgirlny

I know you all must think I'm a freak for looking, but my college boyfriend (of 4 years) was like my 'soul mate' to me - I was devastated when he dumped me. I sometimes thought if he ever got back in touch w/me, I'd drop my bf at that time and be w/him again. I know that sounds bad.

Anyway, one day I was bored and started entering all these old friends names into The Knot's search for a couple's page thingie. Well, to my SHOCK, I found his page on there and on Wedding Channel.

For some reason, I kept thinking about him all day. I can't believe I even care, I have my own guy and we're getting married.

Has anyone ever felt a tinge of sadness upon finding out their ex got married?

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OH BOY!!!! Well In my opinion NO, when I found out one of my ex bf was getting married. I was like ' OMG THAT POOR GIRL!!!' I also get the cringes just thinking about the fact that I ever dated him lol We dated for 3 years lol But I think my situation may have been diff from yours...he cheated on me and we had a very bad break up. I ended up beating him up, and kept hitting him and kicking him to the point where someone actually had to call the cops. I guess you can say i was very angry!!!!