'Friend' vent - repost from LIF - UPDATED ON PAGE 3 WITH HER REPLY!

Original post by dbonilla

Jan 02, 2006 05:50 PM

I was online a little while ago and was iming a friend of mine. Instead of going back and forth with the he said/she said.. Ill just post the convo...

me: happy new year!

her: hey hun happy new year

me: how was your christmas?

her: it was ok and yours
me: good

her: THERE IS SOMETHING I HAVE BEEN WANTING TO SAY CAUSE IT WAS REALLY BOTHERING ME

me: what
her: AHH FORGET IT

me: ew, tell me

her: I THOUGHT IT WAS KIND OF MESSED UP YOU GAVE ALISSA A 40 GIFTCARD FOR HER COMMUNION. AND IT REALLY HAS BEEN BOTHERING ME

me: why is that?

her: IM SICK OF PEOPLE TREATING ME LIKE ****. I KNOw YOU HAVE MONEY AND THAT WAS KIND OF MESSED UP. I DONT HAVE A JOB OR MAKE MONEY AND I WOULD DO MORE THEN THAT

me: excuse me?? u KNOW we have money?? umm ok u obviously dont know shyt then

her: WELL I SAID WHAT I HAD TO SAY

me: sorry u feel that way. didnt realize that our friendship was based on money. If we had more to give at the time we would have.

her: GOTTA GO BYE

IS THIS CHICK FOR REAL?? First off, the communion was SEVEN MONTHS AGO.. and she is going to NOW talk about how 'messed' up I was for not giving her daughter more money??? WHO SAYS THINGS LIKE THIS!?!?!?

Please tell me I am not crazy thinking she was totally off base saying this to me. I could see if it were a family member or something.. but this was a friend of mine who's daughter was receiving her communion. I honestly didn't think a $40 gift card was CHEAP! Granted, I would of loved to have been able to give her more, but we were saving for our wedding and other things. Shes lucky I didnt throw in her face that last Christmas I spent over 200 bucks buying her daugther clothes, without a return gift from her. I didnt care about it... because it was a gift.... I still cannot believe she had the nerve to say this to me!

dbonilla Posted: Jan 02, 2006 06:57 PM

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Posted by ChristineAEV

I would've told her to finish smoking her crack pipe and call me when she's done...

afrodyt2000 Posted: Jan 02, 2006 06:58 PM

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wow. I think that was very rude esp. bringing it up 7 months later. The fact that you gave a gift at all should be appreciated and esp. because you were planning a wedding at the time. Some people have no class or tact. I had to cut off my best friend for similar crazy behavior. It hurts but sometimes you just don't need extra crazy in your life.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Jan 02, 2006 07:01 PM

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Posted by dbonilla

Posted by ChristineAEV

I would've told her to finish smoking her crack pipe and call me when she's done...

JennyAl Posted: Jan 02, 2006 07:03 PM

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Posted by alnem

that was f'd up of her. it's not like you're directly related to them that you feel the need to give anything more than that. not only that, it's a 'gift'. there's no set amount on a present. she should be thankful her daughter got anything considering it was right before your wedding! i'd definitely be po'd too!!!

PS for Jennyal - LIF is the other website lifamilies.com

thanks!

Maybride07 Posted: Jan 02, 2006 07:11 PM

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Omg that is some nerve. She is ungrateful. It is disgusting how some people are.

pebbles Posted: Jan 02, 2006 07:15 PM

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wow! all I can say is what a head case, yikes!!!!

sarahbelle Posted: Jan 02, 2006 07:16 PM

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That is so rude. It is a GIFT! Not an obligation. She should have called you to say thank you for being so generous to her child!

beautyq115 Posted: Jan 02, 2006 07:29 PM

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Did you ever get a thank you card from her?

dbonilla Posted: Jan 02, 2006 07:31 PM

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Posted by beautyq115

Did you ever get a thank you card from her?

yup!

babybug631 Posted: Jan 02, 2006 09:21 PM

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That is F'd up. She has some set of balls.

PrincessRose Posted: Jan 02, 2006 09:28 PM

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Uhh, communion happens at what age? Like, 6? WHAT DOES A SIX YEAR OLD NEED WITH A LOT OF MONEY?????????????????

What a crazy.

tiffandmatt Posted: Jan 02, 2006 10:17 PM

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That is crazy! It's sad to see how many people act this way over what they believe is too inexpensive of a gift. People can be so ungrateful! Just because people have jobs, doesn't mean that there is tons of $ to go around for every event! Don't feel bad. It was a generous gift.

dbonilla Posted: Jan 02, 2006 10:20 PM

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Posted by PrincessRose

Uhh, communion happens at what age? Like, 6? WHAT DOES A SIX YEAR OLD NEED WITH A LOT OF MONEY?????????????????

What a crazy.

I guess it had more to do with what does the MOTHER need with alot of money. Just goes to show that she basically had a 'party' for her daughter to get money out of it. Now that I think back to before the party, I remember the mother saying to me 'I wonder if _____ will give her a gift'... speaking of her BF... meanwhile the BF hadnt even met the daughter at that time! Just goes to show what she was out for... money!

06NovBride Posted: Jan 02, 2006 10:25 PM

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i think that was an extremely weird and rude conversation. nobody knows what kind of monetary situation someone else is in. She can't just assume that you makes lots of money and have lots to spend on her daughter. If there was a limit on gifts then maybe that should have been on the invitation.

wendy1220 Posted: Jan 02, 2006 10:27 PM

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Posted by dbonilla

Posted by PrincessRose

Uhh, communion happens at what age? Like, 6? WHAT DOES A SIX YEAR OLD NEED WITH A LOT OF MONEY?????????????????

What a crazy.

I guess it had more to do with what does the MOTHER need with alot of money. Just goes to show that she basically had a 'party' for her daughter to get money out of it. Now that I think back to before the party, I remember the mother saying to me 'I wonder if _____ will give her a gift'... speaking of her BF... meanwhile the BF hadnt even met the daughter at that time! Just goes to show what she was out for... money!

Wow, people never cease to amaze me. She has a lot of nerve and should feel like a real piece of dirt being so obvious about the fact that she was using her daughters communion as a way to make herself some money. The gift was for her daughter, not her as so many have already said. Your gift was perfectly acceptable, however I don't care if you gave the kid 5 bucks in a card, it is NEVER appropriate to say that to someone, let alone someone that you are supposed to be friends with. She KNOWS you have money, just stupid, is she handling your household finances? Ugh, stuff like this really annoys me.

Has she responded to your email?

Mrs.A2006 Posted: Jan 02, 2006 10:30 PM

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Unbelievable.....the woman should be grateful there are good people in her daughters life and not about the dollar amount of a gift. What does the fact that she is not working have to do with anything? Is that your responsibility? Should you have offered to pay her bills instead of giving her daughter a gift? Ok I am sorry, I am getting a little sarcastic and nasty but the nerve of this person really got to me.

aliwnec10 Posted: Jan 02, 2006 10:31 PM

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I'm sorry... i know it's not funny, but it's just so odd and immature, that it kind of is funny because she's making an *** out of herself.

Like someone said before... she has some balls. Seriously, don't stress what she said. Not everyone can give tons of money for someone's communion. How old is the girl? 8? $40 dollars to an 8 year old is a lot of money! She should be happy that you gave something!

Some people are just getting out of hand with giving/expecting gifts. Just like tipping now a days. It's getting out of hand.