Has anyone found themselves going to weddings and instead of truly enjoying the wedding, finding yourself taking mental notes on what you liked and didn't like. I feel horrible because I have been to 2 weddings since I have been engaged (mind you I have only been engaged for 2 months! ) and all I have been doing is examining EVERY SINGLE DETAIL!!
Not to mention I become an emotional mess. When the bride and groom have their first dance, I imagine FH and I... and I get all emotional. Don't even talk to me about the Father Daughter dance! I was a wreck!!!!!! FH just sat there and laughed at me!!!!
Madorie
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Definitely....see what you like and then ask for referrals!
little34
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Absolutely!!
lonal
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Same! It's crazy!
jaiese
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Very funny! I'm guilty of the same things. BUT, I've only been to a few weddings while I've been engaged, and saw so many things that I hated, that it made me totally panic. (like terrible food, waiters dropping food all over the place, not enough seats at the cocktail hour, etc.) I guess it's ALL a learning experienc thought ,right?
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Darn right I do! I'm really mean though because I look for the things that went wrong, so I can mentally prepare for any horror!
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Posted by FinallyEngaged
Has anyone found themselves going to weddings and instead of truly enjoying the wedding, finding yourself taking mental notes on what you liked and didn't like. I feel horrible because I have been to 2 weddings since I have been engaged (mind you I have only been engaged for 2 months! ) and all I have been doing is examining EVERY SINGLE DETAIL!!
Not to mention I become an emotional mess. When the bride and groom have their first dance, I imagine FH and I... and I get all emotional. Don't even talk to me about the Father Daughter dance! I was a wreck!!!!!! FH just sat there and laughed at me!!!!
I DEFINITELY pay attention to more details now...but i also dont stress it, i also make sure to still have a good time. When we're eating then yes its ok to pay attention and take notes...Important things happening pay attention...other than that just enjoy yourself
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Has anyone found themselves going to weddings and instead of truly enjoying the wedding, finding yourself taking mental notes on what you liked and didn't like. I feel horrible because I have been to 2 weddings since I have been engaged (mind you I have only been engaged for 2 months! ) and all I have been doing is examining EVERY SINGLE DETAIL!!
Not to mention I become an emotional mess. When the bride and groom have their first dance, I imagine FH and I... and I get all emotional. Don't even talk to me about the Father Daughter dance! I was a wreck!!!!!! FH just sat there and laughed at me!!!!
I DEFINITELY pay attention to more details now...but i also dont stress it, i also make sure to still have a good time. When we're eating then yes its ok to pay attention and take notes...Important things happening pay attention...other than that just enjoy yourself
Don't get me wrong I do enjoy myself!! I just find it so funny how a couple of months ago I went to a wedding and thought nothing of it.... now I notice so much more!!! (i dunno if that is a good or bad thing!) The great thing about it all is when FH points things out to me!!!!
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Has anyone found themselves going to weddings and instead of truly enjoying the wedding, finding yourself taking mental notes on what you liked and didn't like. I feel horrible because I have been to 2 weddings since I have been engaged (mind you I have only been engaged for 2 months! ) and all I have been doing is examining EVERY SINGLE DETAIL!!
Not to mention I become an emotional mess. When the bride and groom have their first dance, I imagine FH and I... and I get all emotional. Don't even talk to me about the Father Daughter dance! I was a wreck!!!!!! FH just sat there and laughed at me!!!!
I DEFINITELY pay attention to more details now...but i also dont stress it, i also make sure to still have a good time. When we're eating then yes its ok to pay attention and take notes...Important things happening pay attention...other than that just enjoy yourself
Don't get me wrong I do enjoy myself!! I just find it so funny how a couple of months ago I went to a wedding and thought nothing of it.... now I notice so much more!!! (i dunno if that is a good or bad thing!) The great thing about it all is when FH points things out to me!!!!
yeah i definitely didn't pay attention to things I pay attention to now...But also remember most of your guests also won't be paying attention to every little detail either
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Sure...
Just remember not to talk to the B&G about the small things that went wrong (happens at every wedding & it will happen at your own). I see ppl post here some pretty nasty stuff.
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I totally do that now. I've gone to more wedding since I got engaged than ever before. I take it like the big guy upstairs is giving me a few tutorials before our big day.
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Sure...
Just remember not to talk to the B&G about the small things that went wrong (happens at every wedding & it will happen at your own). I see ppl post here some pretty nasty stuff.
Ooohhh I would never do such a thing!!! Anything that I really didnt like or that went wrong, I keep it to myself.... as long as the bride and groom had a good time that is all that matters!!! I do make sure to point out to the B&G all the good stuff!!! They put so much time and effort into the day, they deserve all the recognition they can get!!!!
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That's exactly what I do...When prior to being engaged I barely even knew the name of the RH I was going to! haha...So funny how things change! And what's great is there will be someone at our weddings that will be doing the same exact thing!
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Sure...
Just remember not to talk to the B&G about the small things that went wrong (happens at every wedding & it will happen at your own). I see ppl post here some pretty nasty stuff.
I agree....I really only note what I like and if there is something I could use differently...Try not to focus on the negative things!!!
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Posted by jaiese
Very funny! I'm guilty of the same things. BUT, I've only been to a few weddings while I've been engaged, and saw so many things that I hated, that it made me totally panic. (like terrible food, waiters dropping food all over the place, not enough seats at the cocktail hour, etc.) I guess it's ALL a learning experienc thought ,right?
I've had the same experience. It is so stressful. We all just have to hope our hall isnt one of those!
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I thought it was only me...I am doing the same exact thing as you are =)
shoegal68
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guilty of doing the same..
yeah i went to a wedding recently where the officiant was an hour & half late
i really felt this bride's pain... i would have been freaking...it was a beautiful wedding but the rest of the day was rushed.
i also saw how everything played out.. for example i was thinking of a chocolate fountain.. well it ended up being messy and by the time they brought it out everbody was stuffed... wasn't a big hit. so i decided against it.
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I try not to pay attention too much with the detail. I know the bride and groom work so hard to make their wedding perfect. I try to enjoy each of them (unless its another orthodox jewish wedding where FH and I was separated the whole time..now thats different story)
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All my older cousins got married a few years ago and I didn't pay attention to nothing!! Now, I'm regretting it! hehe..
I pray someone gets married before me so I can scope some things out! hehe
