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Groom's Mom Wears Black
sammi102 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 04:39 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

I personally do not wish either mothers to wear black. I'm asking them to wear a sort of Charcoal gray color. To me, if they are wearing black, it's like they are mourning over the loss of the child. I understand it's very elegant, but for me, it's our wedding, it should be joyful, colorful!!! My mom wanted to wear black, but I convinced her not to, and now I think FMIL wants to wear black as well. This is definitely a personal choice.

However, I was reading on the knot.com about what colors the mothers should wear and they said not ivory or champagne and that some people think that black is a sign of mourning.

Then again, it's completely up to you!

Good luck!
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butterfly20 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 04:55 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

i think its fine...
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Misstene Posted: Jan 08, 2004 05:06 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

Posted by papabear



3pm church, reception is from 6-12

mother of bride is wearing some sort of light colored dress...didnt see but my guess is a beige or pink though who knows.

BMs wearing burgundy wine


I personally agree with some of the other ladies, I would prefer for my mother and future mother-in-law to wear a color other than black or white. I wouldn't mind black and something, but not all black. In addition, and this is just my opinion, I think black is very elegant, but it is also very 'ordinary' as well. I wouldn't want her to look like all the other guests, because quite honestly, she is special. You want to be able to say... My mother.... the lady in the purple!

Good Luck!
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littlecat Posted: Jan 08, 2004 05:11 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

I think a black dress is fine especially if she feels pretty and elegant.
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Rob-luvs-me Posted: Jan 08, 2004 06:17 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

Personally I think it depends on the spirit of how it is worn - Some wear it purposefully to cause trouble - But from what you said that doesn't seem to be the case here.

I think that black can be very elegant with the right jewelery - If your mother feels elegant and beautiful in it and it doesn't offend you or your FW then I saw GO FOR IT! I told my mother if the dress of her dreams was black then I would be happy with her choice
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Smolokoff Posted: Jan 08, 2004 06:19 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

BM dresses are black and white, and both mom's are wearing black, too. Black isn;t as taboo as it used to be. Let her wear it and be comfortable. Everyone will be looking at the bride anyway, not the mothers.
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LIPrincess00 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 06:58 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

I think it is fine. My mom (MOB) is wearing black and it is one of the most elegant dresses I have ever seen.
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lele4me Posted: Jan 08, 2004 07:46 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

Well I was opposed to a Black dress for my mom...she wanted it. After seeing how happy and great she looked in the dress I agreed...and she looked fabulous on the wedding day. She had a great neacklace and earring set with Srywakoski Crystals. I say whatever you both agreed to works. It's your day.
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oakslady Posted: Jan 08, 2004 07:57 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

my mom is wearing black and i am fine with it - she wears black all the time i wouldnt expect her to change for the wedding - as long as she loves the dress and feels georgeous in it what difference does the color make?
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neesiepie Posted: Jan 08, 2004 08:07 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

these days anything goes. The most important thing is if she feels comfortable in it and will focus more on enjoying your wedding day
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Jax430 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 09:42 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

I know I'm more traditional than most, but I'm not thrilled with the idea of mothers wearing black to their children's weddings. I agree that it is probably the most elegant color, but it just doesn't sit right with me. JMO
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LImom Posted: Jan 08, 2004 11:56 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

I personally would not wear black to my daughter's or my son's wedding, and I know most of my friends would not do it either.
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wenndypoo Posted: Jan 09, 2004 12:39 AM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

I agree that the old rules about black are out. Whats most important is that you all are comfortable with it.
I wouldn't mind if my FMIL wore black, or my mom for that matter. As long as the important people (you, FI, & mom) are happy, that's all that matters.
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Mishy626 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 06:10 AM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

My mom and mil both wore black and it didn't bother me at all. It's fine.
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karen32 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 08:27 AM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

my MIL wore black and i can tell you she looked stunning! she did ask me ahead of time if it was okay (which i appreciated). i had no problem with it.
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papabear Posted: Jan 09, 2004 11:26 AM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

thanks for the responses - mom is going to keep looking but if she can't find anything she'll go with black. FW would prefer her not to wear black but she won't mind if she can't find anything else.
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tanbride Posted: Jan 09, 2004 12:12 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

My MIL also wore black in September and she even made her dress - she looked stunning and everyone commented on her dress! If she's comfortable and it's a beautiful dress, it will be great. Here's a photo of both our moms and my MIL dress full length.
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Donna Posted: Jan 09, 2004 12:35 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

I have no problem with black, I just would think that so many of the other female guests will be in black that 's it's nice to wear something different.
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Misstene Posted: Jan 09, 2004 12:37 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

First of all, does anyone else think it's totally cool that a guy posted on here!

Second, tanbride, I love your MILs dress. I would say though, that her dress is not what I would call a typical black dress. It's black & tan and very unique, stunning etc.

I dunno, JMO!
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danigirl0 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 12:56 PM+
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Re: Groom's Mom Wears Black

both of the moms in my wedding are wearing black. personally, i preferred it. i think black is very elegant and it flatters most people. plus, both moms wanted to wear it, so it worked out!
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