Groom's Mom Wears Black

papabear Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:20 PM

Groom's Mom Wears Black

Question for you brides:

My mom just bought a dress for the wedding. Thing is that the dress is black but it has a sequin design on it. She likes it a lot and says its very elegant.

Though she plans on looking elsewhere as well, she does like it a lot and bought it at a steal.

Is a black dress appropriate for the mother of the groom? Would you find it offensive?

Relationship between mom and fiance is perfectly fine and color is not a reflection of any negativity.

Please provide opinions.

Edited to say I haven't seen the dress yet.

kel2004 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:21 PM

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I think the dress sounds great. A lot of moms wear black to weddings these days.

Lisa Rose Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:22 PM

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what time of day are you getting married?

What is the mother of the bride wearing?

What color are the BM's wearing??

Personally, I do not think the MOB or MOG should wear Black or White to the wedding but if there is a color 'theme' going then it would look very nice!!

Marcela1654 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:25 PM

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My fmil is wearing black and I personally am fine with it, as long as she likes it and feels comfortable in it. I've seen my FMIL's dress and it's beautiful.

darly Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:26 PM

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Black is elegant..why not!

bridzilla Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:26 PM

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I wanted my BMs to wear black, but it didn't go with my color scheme.
So I say its fine that she wears black.

ChristineC68 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:27 PM

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Unless it's a black and white wedding, I don't think the mom's should wear an all black dress.

kimmylyn Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:27 PM

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I had posted a similiar question a while back. I think whatever your Mom or His Mom feels best in they should wear (except for White of course).

My mom is wearing a beautiful black dress, and I have to say she is blissful about it because she feels most comfortable in it, which makes me happy.

juju Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:27 PM

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I am with Lisa Rose. I would ask your Fiance how she feels about it though. If she is okay with it, then why not.

dawnie Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:28 PM

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I don't think anything is wrong with it. My mom wore black.

papabear Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:29 PM

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Posted by Lisa Rose

what time of day are you getting married?

What is the mother of the bride wearing?

What color are the BM's wearing??

Personally, I do not think the MOB or MOG should wear Black or White to the wedding but if there is a color 'theme' going then it would look very nice!!

3pm church, reception is from 6-12

mother of bride is wearing some sort of light colored dress...didnt see but my guess is a beige or pink though who knows.

BMs wearing burgundy wine

Jess2 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:34 PM

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My mom is wearing black, and I am getting married on a Sunday morning! My fmil & grandma on the other hand would never wear black to the wedding, and that's their opinion and belief. In my opinion, times have changed, and I think it is perfectly fine to wear black & if she feels & looks great in it, why not?

nferrandi Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:40 PM

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My BM dresses are burgundy too and I wouldn't be opposed to my mother or FMIL wearing black. But to be honest, I would prefer to see them in another earth tone. Brown is becoming the new black and I think it's very elegant.

SomedayBride Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:43 PM

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I think the idea that moms should not wear black to the wedding is a little 'old school'. Some people still follow tradition, and stay away from black, but to be honest with you, the last few weddings I went to, the MOB, AND MOGs were wearing black. By no means do I see it as a reflection of the mother's feelings on the marriage. If your mom loves the dress, she should wear it.

tourist Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:46 PM

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I'm not a fan of black at weddings except for tuxes, but it fits got sequins & it is a night wedding, it will look more elegant than morbid & will be fine as long as your fiance is cool with it.

MarcellaBella Posted: Jan 08, 2004 03:48 PM

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Posted by papabear

Question for you brides:

My mom just bought a dress for the wedding. Thing is that the dress is black but it has a sequin design on it. She likes it a lot and says its very elegant.

Though she plans on looking elsewhere as well, she does like it a lot and bought it at a steal.

Is a black dress appropriate for the mother of the groom? Would you find it offensive?

Relationship between mom and fiance is perfectly fine and color is not a reflection of any negativity.

Please provide opinions.

Edited to say I haven't seen the dress yet.

I think that is perfectly fine.. esp. if you and your fiance are ok with it..

I think that the most important part is that your mom feel comfortable and beautiful in what she wears..

PS my MIL wore her wedding gown! which was champagne colored (it looked white) I was fine with it though..

btrflygrl Posted: Jan 08, 2004 04:00 PM

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My real mother is also wearing black with some beading and a touch of white

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 08, 2004 04:04 PM

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My MIL wore black w/sequins and she looked beautiful. Tell your Mom to go for it

eroxgirl Posted: Jan 08, 2004 04:04 PM

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If it's okay with your FI then its okay. My mother and FMIL would never wear black, but I don't have a problem with it myself. It's an old rule that no one listens to anymore.