HAVING A WEDDING REALLY PUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS INTO PERSPECTIVE
Original post by eck739
Although I am beyond excited for my wedding, it really has put alot of my friendships (with family members too) into perspective. It becomes apparent who is willing to take time out of thier lives for you and who is that selfish being that you really knew they were, but you kept giving them the benefit of the doubt.
When I first picked my bridal party, I had a friend who I have known for about 8 years...but I didnt put her in my party because she was always flaking out on me with everything. Apparently she was pissed and seemed to have gotten over it. Mind you she is miserable in life when she is not in a relaionship bc she keeps going back and forth with some guy who treats her like crap...mentally and physically.
Invitations go out and I invite her alone....shes not dating anyone and if she was dating HIM, I dont want him at my wedding....but shes single. I find out that she is texting a friend saying that she is pissed that she isnt invited with a guest since we have been friends for so long. So now the bach. party and shower are coming up (timing is all messed up for me lol) and she tells my bridal party that she 'is in for everything, ive been friends with her for 10 yrs'. Come to find out that she has now backed out of the bach party and tells my friend that its because she 'has so much wedding stuff going on she didnt realize she said yes in the first place but she cant make it' (thats what I mean by flaking out). To top it off, my RSVP date is May 1.....its April 28th and she still hasnt responded. At this point, I dont even want her there anymore....Im anticipating her flaking out for my shower too even after she told my mother on the phone that she would be there....
More to come....
I AM SO LIVID.....and that is just one example....but I guess in a way I am glad I am finding out now.
eck739
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Posted by linda_art
Try and take a deep breath. Your hurt and its creating anger but these things just happen with people. My suggestion would be to try to keep your expectations low. I had my niece who is 21 no-show for our wedding and her parents tell me she's all of a sudden sick. My MOH got her invite in the exact rsvp date. People are just so self consumed with their own sick insecurities and issues, please try not to personalize it bc it isn't worth your unhappiness. She didn't sign, you know what, I'm sure she knows she's a shitt*y friend and is prob spending her nights feeling sorry for herself. Im not making excuses for peoples sick behavior but for me there came a time as it got closer where I had to just start letting things roll off my back... Even the day of with the No-Shows and all the money we wasted bc we paid for the whole thing ourselves. Its sickening, and there are a lot of sick ppl in the world. I try to just be a reflection of what I want given back to me, thats all I can really control, myself. Good luck with this and I hope you start to feel better. Everything will be amazing regardless of other peoples destructive selfish issues, I promise.
thank you...i am trying to let these things just not get to me but its so hard when you know that you would never act like that to others....i guess you cant change a person, but its still very disheartening.
cdh2672
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It's your wedding, if u aren't inviting dates, that's your choice. It's not about everyone else. She will have to suck it up. If she holds a grudge or doesn't go, then she's not a true friend...IMO
LIbridey88
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Girl I totally agree!!!!! I feel the same way with my wedding!There are alot of friends and family that I will be distancing myself from after the wedding. Its selfishness, jealousy and just plain rude
