we are definitely on the same page, do we want them- NO, but if for some reason I happen to get pregnant by accident then it happens (no i am not trying at ALL)
I just wish that everyone (his family) actually believed me when i tell them this
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yea we are pretty much on the same page. we are gonna wait til we are like 29-30 to start having babies. we both want 2 or 3.
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rita dont feel stupid. babies are a big deal and its scary...especially for guys. you said it took some talk to get the marriage thing going so do the wedding thing first..let him see how great it is, nothing to be afraid of or worried about and then take on the baby talk. guys can get overwhelmed quickly ya know and be turned off by ideas.
he'll come around i think, especially if you wait it out a bit
Yeah that is very true and i understand completely what you are saying
I just makes me upset that we are so far off from each other
whats far off? what kinda time frame are you two discussing?
I want to start a year after we are married he doesn't even want to think about them for another 5-6 years!
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We're on the same page. We're going to wait probably a year or two before we start.
I told him I'd like to be done having children by the time I'm 33. Just my personal preference. That will give me 5 years after we get married to have 2 or 3 children. Probably 2.
He really only wants one - I am fine with that but would like the option of 2 and I want to be done by the time I am 30 - he doesn't even want to start until i am 30
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We're on the same page, I'm 34... so honeymoon baby it is. (we hope!).
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5-6 years is easier said then done....he'll come aorund after a year or two. does he have big life plans ahead that he wants to wait for? like i kow some teachers wanna be tenured or some people want to finish school? if he doesnt, i cant see him holding out for 5-6 years, thats a long time. you're gonna have a baby bump at the end of 2011
edited because i think it will be sooner lol
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FH and I are sort of on the same page, lol. We aren't off by much. He will be 29 when we get married next May and I will be turning 29, about 2 months after we are married. He would like to wait 2 years. And I would like to wait 1. Get Preggo while I am 30. So i explained to him if we get preggers while I am 30 he will be 31 when the baby is born
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5-6 years is easier said then done....he'll come aorund after a year or two. does he have big life plans ahead that he wants to wait for? like i kow some teachers wanna be tenured or some people want to finish school? if he doesnt, i cant see him holding out for 5-6 years, thats a long time. you're gonna have a baby bump at the end of 2011
edited because i think it will be sooner lol
No we have no plans at all and the only place i want to travel is dineyworld i know i am pathetic
Oh i hope you are right because I can see him holding out
You are cute and I hope I have a baby bump by than
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we both want a honeymoon baby, and we actually both agree on 4!
yeah ill be the oddball lol
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we both want a honeymoon baby, and we actually both agree on 4!
yeah ill be the oddball lol
we are cool with HM babies too. John says it to me sometimes, its so cute
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we are kinda! he really wants them soon but i want to take my time but we both want kids
deanna225
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fh and i want babies right now but now u cant afford it so we will try and have a honeymoom baby....
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We're not on the same page, but I'm not TOO worried about. Before me FH NEVER wanted kids and never thought he was going to get married.
I never thought I'd find 'the one' but I did want kids. I wanted 7 kids. I've scaled that down to maybe 4 or 5. I'll be in school getting my PhD until I'm 29 (6 years from now)--- I'd like to either have a baby the summer before my last year of school or the summer after. But we'll have to see. If not, I def want to have my first by 31.
FH just laughs right now when I say this. He's eased into wanting kids, but I think he is scared of the responsibility, and he also gets nervous around little kids because I don't think he knows what to do or how to act.
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We talk about it...but right now I am not ready to have one- he is...I think after we are married for like 2 years we'll start trying..But who know- nothing is set in stone
lori7570
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We def intly both want kids but we both agree that until we are in a better financial situation that we should wait...which is fine for me since labor scares me like crazy!!!
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We are both on the same page. We def are going to buy a home first and than two beautiful babies!!! Maybe a year after we get married
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We are def on the same page with kids. We talked alot about having children before we were engaged. I hope to start on the honeymoon since a month after I get married Ill be 29 and I always wanted my first baby by 30. We just cant agree on a number he wants 4 some days and some days he wants 2. Ill be happy with 2 or 3.
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We are on the same page, we want to wait until about 2 years after the wedding. I want to make sure I have a house and am financially ready to afford children. I want 3 but Fh wants 2, but I am happy with 2.
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we had this conversation i think 6 months after FH & I started dating. we both agreed on 2 kids (1 boy, 1 girl in the perfect world) & we will start trying within a year of getting married.
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we are definitely on the same page, do we want them- NO, but if for some reason I happen to get pregnant by accident then it happens (no i am not trying at ALL)
I just wish that everyone (his family) actually believed me when i tell them this
People dont believe me either! FH has two kids that live with us...that is enough for me!
