Ok so yesterday i was surprised...at dinner don't remember what we were talking about but FH said 'oh you'll probably get pregnant during the HM' i said ha lets not plan anything, dont you want to wait? and he said no i wouldn't mind having a honeymoon baby. Now let me just say that we discussed this before and we both just agreed to not plan for anything. I said after 2 years we'll try, hes like thats long, maybe by 2009 to already be pregnant and if anything by the 2nd year have it...He also then said hey i wouldn't care if we had one now . I didn't even know what to say.
I want kids badly but i also thought we should wait a little bit lol. Who knew he had the itch
Oh and then he also told me i have to get pregnant May 29 2010 or 2011 i forgot so this way we have have a leap year baby lol...so on top of that im supposed to be popping one out after another
ETA: the part about him not caring if we had one now was just to show he really is ready and doesn't want to wait too long AFTER the wedding, no real intentions to have a kid now or him wanting to try for one before the wedding and i wont even consider it lol
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It's funny, because a year ago, if I asked FH about kids he would've passed out as fast as if I asked about marriage. Here we are, engaged...and talking about kids. He's ready when I am (which I need because I am older).....I don't want a HM baby......I want one solid year of newlywed-ness and then a one-year anniversary vacation baby! If all goes planned....
I dont know i have to let this all sink in lol...i wanted us to travel and do things for a little after we're married...but eh maybe we still can, FMIL always says she cant wait for grandkids and until they stay with her and even said you better always bring them over and they can stay with her lol
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FH Has said that he would be okay if we got prego now, but obviously that wouldnt be a planned thing because we want to be married first. FH and I want to have kids as soon as possible but we are going to wait a year til i get tenure and at least my job is secure.
FH and I cant wait to have kids... we wish we could have them now!
yeah see thats the thing, it would be great to be able to just have them...but i want us to really be settled down first into our new lives
its true, it hink me needing 1 year because of work is the best thing because we will have that time to enjoy just being married.
Its cute when FH notices kids, Since working in a school and talking about having kids, he def is more aware pointing out cute kids doing cute things.
yeah and you will feel better once that is done with to start having kids
I love it too, and when he plays softball and someone brings their kid its great...For some reason kids LOVE him, they stay by him the whole time, the other week this kid kept asking his dad when my FH was gonna go up at bat and then he would run to the back of the field to catch the ball if he hit a homerun or if fh went to the outfield he would run by hima nd stay by him. Its so great to see
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If I were to tell Fh right now I was pregnant I think hes love every econd of it !! he loves the boys so much and cant wait for a baby ...hopefully we have one !!
thats great that he is excited though and cant wait
see i find it sweet too but im kinda like , lol
I think already having to the um hmmm factor is gone lol
but see thats why its great that hes excited
Just make sure you are both ready lol!!!! I think its adorable the he feels this way!!
i am ready, and always said i want kids right away but now im like maybe ill regret not enjoying our newlywed period. Part of me says its gonna be hard to wait that long and i thought if fh felt the same way it'd be better but now him saying this makes me think about how much i do want them lol.
I should've known, last week i got nauseous but it was from something i ate, the next day he jokes to his mom yeah she is sick bc shes pregnant
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i definitely would like to wait a year or two after the wedding... The next major thing after the wedding will be a house and I definitely don't want kids without having a house first. I have the itch bad, but we both think for us, it's a good idea to wait a little while!
But just a side note, Fh never wanted children... and I love children. After dating and him seeing how I am with them, he said, 'how could I deprive you of a child, you are so good with them'. I thought that was the sweetest thing!!!
awwww that is sweet that he said that.
I do notice Fh noticing kids alot more. He said he didn't pay attention to them as much as he does now, he always like them but it was different. Now he sees kids on the street and hes always saying hi to them and waving and being all nice, or always looks at kids and says how adorable they are
yeah, my FH too. He had never held a baby before we started dating, now, whenever children are around, the mommy's are always making him hold them!!! 'Here Joe, you need the practice', lol. It was so awkward at first but now he is a pro.
Don't your eyes light up when you see FH look at a child adoringly? (if that is even a word, lol)
oh wow he had never held a baby, hmmm FH hadn't really held small babies either...we went to the hospital when his friend had a kid and was scared to hold a newborn and it was so sweet to see bc he was in such awe holding her. But yeah now he is around kids more. Im the opposite though, ive always been around kids, took care of them so im really used to them.
my eyes do light up, when i see him play with kids especially its the cutest thing
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FH is definitely in the minority here but he really doesn't care about having kids. I honestly think that if i told him tomorrow that i never wanted to have kids he would be okay with it. On the other hand, he would be happy to start a family with me. . .
i dont know if this makes sense. But we have seriously discussed never having kids and we are kind of okay with that but we also want a family LOL i guess we are just going to try and leave it in God's hands and whatever He decides we will be thankful.
We are just so horrified with how kids behave today that it makes us not want to have to deal with it but then again we know that our own kids would never be like that.
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FH is definitely in the minority here but he really doesn't care about having kids. I honestly think that if i told him tomorrow that i never wanted to have kids he would be okay with it. On the other hand, he would be happy to start a family with me. . .
i dont know if this makes sense. But we have seriously discussed never having kids and we are kind of okay with that but we also want a family LOL i guess we are just going to try and leave it in God's hands and whatever He decides we will be thankful.
We are just so horrified with how kids behave today that it makes us not want to have to deal with it but then again we know that our own kids would never be like that.
FH thinks hes gonna have all daughters and to pay him back for his past they're gonna all be hott and make his life miserable hes crazy bc i dont think he was that bad, yes some things were bad he told me things and he never deceived ppl, it was just having fun and if a girl does certain things then its not that bad, i wont get into it now but it makes sense lol
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wow no i don't want a honeymoon baby at all..i want to be able to enjoy our marriage first..so we decided that we'll probably wait 2 years!
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my fh would abort the baby himself i think if i was knocked up! Bad timing even if the wedding was over with. First I am still starting my career, he is trying to move up in his career, we probably wouldn't have a house or condo for at least a few more years. I would rather wait to have some time for ourselves for a few years before having kids. As much as I want them now i think its better to wait.
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wow no i don't want a honeymoon baby at all..i want to be able to enjoy our marriage first..so we decided that we'll probably wait 2 years!
that was our plan too, i don't know what happened recently
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FH wants kids more than I do!
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wow no i don't want a honeymoon baby at all..i want to be able to enjoy our marriage first..so we decided that we'll probably wait 2 years!
that was our plan too, i don't know what happened recently
yeah so the 'non plan plan' is to wait two years then start trying
the thing is ( as i have talked about before ) i have a blinding fear that i am not going to be able to have kids ( for absolutely no reason ) so this is our way of dealing with it like whatever happens happens and we will leave it in God's hands.
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We're going to try right away, FH agreed. It's not what we want but I have an endometrioma on my ovary and my doctor recommends we try sooner rather than later because it can cause infertility. Normally we probably would have waited two years
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my fh would abort the baby himself i think if i was knocked up! Bad timing even if the wedding was over with. First I am still starting my career, he is trying to move up in his career, we probably wouldn't have a house or condo for at least a few more years. I would rather wait to have some time for ourselves for a few years before having kids. As much as I want them now i think its better to wait.
well i wanted 2 years the most...im gonna be 28 and he'll be 29 when we get married so we dont want to wait too long, especially if we want a few kids.
I guess he sees things differently bc hes been at his job for quite a few years, he has gotten promoted quite a few times and later on this year he got promoted again to a great position and nobody at his company ever got this position before their 30's. I guess in his head he thinks hes set.
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FH wants kids more than I do!
hahahaha i remember you saying this before, have you two come to a compromise lol
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wow no i don't want a honeymoon baby at all..i want to be able to enjoy our marriage first..so we decided that we'll probably wait 2 years!
that was our plan too, i don't know what happened recently
yeah so the 'non plan plan' is to wait two years then start trying
the thing is ( as i have talked about before ) i have a blinding fear that i am not going to be able to have kids ( for absolutely no reason ) so this is our way of dealing with it like whatever happens happens and we will leave it in God's hands.
honestly this is why i have told him id rather just let things happen rather than to plan for it. Its hard sometimes for a couple to have a baby and gets frustrating if they have to try for a long time. I've seen others go through this so maybe thats why i feel this way. Im afraid of this too, that we'll say we want a baby right away and then we can't get pregnant and we're just gonna set ourselves up for disappointment.
Doesn't help that end of 06 i find out i have hormonal imbalances, i had a sonogram and i do have small fibroids, she said its ok now and theyre small but what if they get bigger the next few years
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FH wants kids more than I do!
hahahaha i remember you saying this before, have you two come to a compromise lol
I want children definately but there are other things I want in life as well as a family. Plus being 23 and just finishing school and starting a career I just don't have baby on the brain 24/7. It will happen but I have to be ready. It's a 24 hour job and I just have to be able to be selfless or at least not selfish! I still think of myself as a kid sometimes!
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We're going to try right away, FH agreed. It's not what we want but I have an endometrioma on my ovary and my doctor recommends we try sooner rather than later because it can cause infertility. Normally we probably would have waited two years
sorry jess
That is completely understandable
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hahahaha i remember you saying this before, have you two come to a compromise lol
I want children definately but there are other things I want in life as well as a family. Plus being 23 and just finishing school and starting a career I just don't have baby on the brain 24/7. It will happen but I have to be ready. It's a 24 hour job and I just have to be able to be selfless or at least not selfish! I still think of myself as a kid sometimes!
oh you're younger though so yeah wait. Enjoy this time. See this is why im confused, i do want to wait and enjoy married life but then i think of my age and have to say to myself ok you want 3 or 4 kids and want to start at what age? so its different.
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he wants kids but def not till after the wedding. at first he wanted to wait a while but he knows i really want one and have for a few years now. So we are gonna start HM night!! plus steve and I are 12 years apart and i really dont want him to be too old to play with his kids!! so hopefully a year from today i WILL BE PREGGERS lol people tell us to wait a little bit but they forget we will already be together 8 years on our wedding day so........... lol
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FH wants kids more than I do!
hahahaha i remember you saying this before, have you two come to a compromise lol
I want children definately but there are other things I want in life as well as a family. Plus being 23 and just finishing school and starting a career I just don't have baby on the brain 24/7. It will happen but I have to be ready. It's a 24 hour job and I just have to be able to be selfless or at least not selfish! I still think of myself as a kid sometimes!
oh you're younger though so yeah wait. Enjoy this time. See this is why im confused, i do want to wait and enjoy married life but then i think of my age and have to say to myself ok you want 3 or 4 kids and want to start at what age? so its different.
You don't have to start right away either. A coworker waited a few months after getting married this way they still had the first year of marriage to spend just the two of them for the most part.
