How long after you are married will you and you fh have kids? Have the two of you talked about it yet? My fh and I talked about it and he thinks he wants to wait to have kids (like maybe 8 years). He wants to travel and do things while we are still young. I want to travel and do things too but I don't want to wait 8 years to have kids. I can see waiting maybe at most two or three years but not 8 years after you are married. I am 27 years old. I want a family. I want two or three kids. He wants no more then two. We have had this talk before and he said to me he wants to have a family with me he just never told me he wanted to wait such a long time to have a family. I am a little upset about it but what can I do. He never did say he didn't want kids he just said he wants to wait to have kids. He would make such a great father so I have no idea what he is so worried about if that is what it is.My fh is great with kids and he has such a big heart. I love him with all my heart and I want to have a family with him. I have always wanted to have a family and be a Mom. I just don't want to wait to long and I loose that chance.
we are trying right away. I have a son and he has a daughter. We already own our house so we have the room and dont need to save for that . Plus we dont want any after 30 and we will both be 29 when we get married.
Posted by shell1879
Posted by MrsGarcia
Posted by shell1879
wait till you have 1
1 child will change your whole life. don't plan on any particular number of kids. Just think of each one as a blessing and a gift.
FH wants 2 more I only want 1 maybe 2 more tops. Although i was told 13 years ago that i might not have any and i have a beautiful healthy 5 year old. I have also had a few misscariages... they are heart breaking every time and it never gets easier.
AMEN sista! Sorry about the miscarriages.. I had one and I was devistated.. Thats why 'Just think of each one as a blessing and gift' is a perfect quote.
thank you
we are going to look into fertility stuff after the wedding wince he will be almost 32 and i will be 30 next year so we gotta get a move on it if we wanna be able to chase the rugrats around and my daughter is basically telling us she NEEDDDDDSSSSS a sibbling like NOW
if it was totally up to FH I would be preggo now with TWINS![]()
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If it was up to him... he would wait 5 minutes... but I talked some sense into him.. I want to travel and enjoy time together.. and I am also going back for my MBA... so a few years.. but honestly I want kids really bad so maybe wait 2 years at the most. lol I dont know!!
Posted by 2009wedding
Thanks ladies for your imput on this. I realy don't want to wait 8 years. I want to wait the most 2 or 3 years. I want a family I have been wanting that for years. Each child is a blessing. I love children. I know we would be great parents together. Maybe he will come around and agree with me on waiting 8 years is a bit much.
Thank you again for all you input. I thought maybe I was rushing things. I see that a lot of you are waiting about 2 or 3 years also. See I have no problems with that. I think that is a great thing to do is wait 2 or 3 years so that you can enjoy the marriage together alone, do things together and save money to have a family. 8 years to wait to have kids after you are married when you have been together for 5 years before you were married is a bit much. I am 27 now and will be 28 in Aug. He is 30 now and will be 31 in Nov. He says he wants kids I think he would be honest with me and tell me I never want kids which he never said so I am going by him saying he wants kids just he wants to wait. We can travel the two or three years before we have kids and then we can travel again with our children. I use to do family trips with my family and they were a lot of fun. You can still have a life even with having a family. I know my parents did and they were also always there for my sister and I. I really do hope he comes around and agrees with me that 8 years is way to long.
The most I would be willing to wait is 4 years after we are married. I would be more then willing to meet him half way if he meet me half way. I want 2 kids. I want to have a family and be a Mom. I am looking forward to that. We can do everything he wants to do while we wait to have kids then we can travel again as a family. I did it with my family growing up and it was a lot of fun. I am on birth control pill so it is going to take a while for it to get out of my system I have been on them for a while. I know 2 to 4 years from after we are married we will both be fully ready to be parents. I would love to start trying on our honeymoon but I know I would also love sometime together with my fh alone and enjoy being married. I would also love to travel and do romantic things together but I also want a family and build a life together. I know we would be great parents and he would be a great Dad. He is great with kids. He is so loving.
We want to wait like 5 to 8 years.
FH and i want to have kids right away. we are going to try right when we get married. its important that we have our kids young and he will be 30 when we are married!!!
We want to wait about 2 yrs
we both agreed to try right after our first year of marriage..we both love kids and i come from a big family so waiting a year is actually long to them lol
If it were up to FH we would already have had one!! I want to wait till we are offically married and all of that, plus I want to get pregnant around the end othe summer so I can have a May baby!
we have talked about kids a couple of times, we both agreed we want 2 kids maybe 3... And as far as when... Well we will probally wait 2 years... I want to enjoy being married so we shall see!
Wow...I'm feeling like a bit of a loner!! All you ladies are so sure!! We're not even sure if we want to have children...I have issues with being a mommy...sometimes I feel like I'm too selfish to be a mom...I feel that when you have a child, you have to be ALLLLL in and want to give everything to your child...I just don't know if I'm ready for that. I didn't have that great of a childhood and sometimes I wonder if I would even be a good mom...it scares the crap out of me!! FH is AOK with that...he's so good with me!! I know that deep down he probably wants children (he comes from a really great family)...and I KNOW FMIL definitely wants grand children...but they're all aware of the way I feel...so I guess only time will tell!!
