How much does your FH do?

Grr! My FH is seriously doing NOTHING to help with the planning and it's driving me nuts. Are your FHs involved? What are they doing? We have such little time and so much to do and I'm so busy with work. Every time I see him just hanging around, surfing the web, playing music, etc. I want to wring his neck. I gave him a whole checklist yesterday and asked him to do ANYTHING on the list.

Anyone have advice?

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Advice no, but I can relate.

FH only wants to take care of the limos and his tux.... and this will most likely be weeks before the wedding.

Whenever I ask him for an opinion on anything, he gives his signature response, 'Whatever makes you happy, honey.'

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Mine helped a little when I asked but I liked doing it alone so we didnt have conflicting ideas. Remember, it might suck doing it alone but at least you get to pick everything w/ out disagreeing. I learned one thing while planning... Its not worth it to argue or get stressed over wedding stuff w/ DH. Talk to him and let him know that you feel overburdened. He should help you out after you have a talk w/ him.

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we do everything together and when i got too overwhelmed with mortgage stuff, he made all of my ohone calls for me.
i couldn't have done this without him!!! much to my mother's dismay.....she would have liked to have played a bigger role....

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FH is not really gung ho about the planning as he is about the wedding itself. We decided everything together. He helped me burn the cd's for our favors, booked our cruise, and we went to every vendor appointment together. I wouldn't stress over it too much. Men are just not wired to be as wound about wedding planning as women. Considering your wedding is getting closer and you are feeling a bit overwhelmed, I would talk to him and tell him you need his help more....

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My FI attended all our meetings with all the vendors. He helped in the decion making of each. He then went on his own to book the DJ (I had to work), he picked out attendant gifts for the GM's, he is also taking care of all the arrangements with the church. It is his church we are getting married at, so I made sure he did that part. He has been pretty good, can't complain.

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I was surprised at how involved he is. Before we booked the hall he even went on his own to check some out during his lunch (I work in the city so I couldn't go with him)...and he went and took care of the limos on his own. The ONLY thing, other than the dresses of course, he doesn't want to be a part of are the flowers. But that's ok with me, I don't mind controlling that part.

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Not much at all...I can't even get him to pick his guys for our bridal party. He keeps saying...'I'll pick them this week babe, I promise!' That was a month ago and every week since. Plus, he turned 'mean' when the planning started. Shouldn't it be the other way around since I'm the one doing everything?! I'm mad as hell... !!!!

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NOTHING BUT MAKE ME CRAZY!!!!!!!

My best friend is also getting married and her FH is doing nothing so her consolation is that the groom is just a detail of the wedding, nothing serious.

In the words of JLo from The Wedding Planner..

'Most men are NID's....Not Into Details'

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You can try bargainging with him. If he spends all day Sat. with me looking at vendors then I leave him alone on Sunday and let him do whatever 'boy' type things relaxes him without bugging him....video games...sleeping, whatever.

It usually works!

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Absolutly Nothing

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Mine is fully involved, am i the only one??? Is he gay??? hahahah

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My FI was involved in all the planning. We did everything together.

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My Fiance has done everything with me, except for my dress. In a way its annoying! Most of the things we did became a fight over what we wanted. In some ways I wish he would back off on some things! Try giving your Fiance jobs. Like when we went for limos I let him pick which one he wanted.

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My FH is only involved in the final decision aspect of things. Which makes things easier for me.
The only thing that he really has to be involved in is finding an officiant, because we have to be together on all those meetings.
He is really busy and there is no point stressing him about the CP. He's just there to get married, and the food.

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He's not doing much. I only ask his opinions on 'big things', and he goes with me to vendors to book. Thats it. He doesn't have patience for all the 'shopping around' that has to be done. He knows that it's our day, but he says that I have always dreamed of it a certain way. Good luck.

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mine has been pretty involved. he went to just about all vendor appts w/me (except dress, of course). and has an opinion on a lot of things (which is of course frustrating when it differs with mine!). but he knows pretty well when to back off, which is good. but he tends to be a slacker, which is annoying too.

but he redeems himself.

just last night, he took over stuffing all the invitations, stamping them, etc. I had just printed direction maps, etc. and asked if he wanted help. he said 'no, you've done a lot for the wedding, I've got it covered'. ahhh!

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he does what i tell him to do

he contributed in the beginning, but the level of interest quickly faded and he wound up annoying more than helping so i cut him lose. we selected vendors together but i did all the legwork. i run ideas by him and he usually defers to my judgment. i found this annoying at first, felt like he really didn't care, but in the end i think the process will be more efficient if i just take care of things. i know he cares, but he's male...end of story

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he is involved in everything except the flowers. I actually prefer it this way..who wants to hear it if he wasnt involved didnt agree with my decisions!

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I think he wants to do more , b/c he sees how stressed I am but I am little nuts. HE knows the creative stuff is all me , but he offered to call hotels , but i did it because I know LI better.

Usualy I research & then we go to appoitnemts & make decisons together.
His in doing most of the hoenymoon research himself though, and we are deciding together.

I don't really have any advie thogh.

He helps me with dinner & laundry & dishes ( we don't live together) too, so I guess this just follows.