Grr! My FH is seriously doing NOTHING to help with the planning and it's driving me nuts. Are your FHs involved? What are they doing? We have such little time and so much to do and I'm so busy with work. Every time I see him just hanging around, surfing the web, playing music, etc. I want to wring his neck. I gave him a whole checklist yesterday and asked him to do ANYTHING on the list.
Anyone have advice?
palebride
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hey X - Tom helped pick out the BM's jewelry also!!! and I helped pick out the GM's gifts!!!
sams
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My FH is involved with mostly everything. He's great with all of the research for me. For example, right now we are looking for someone to marry us. He is doing it plus being that I am paying cash for graduate school, he is the one that is getting a secon d job to pay for the wedding day. We agreed that they way we are going to do this is that he is laying out for the wedding and I am going to be saving for the apartment or condo. Plus I am going to pay for setting up our home in terms of furnature. We ar e trying to make it that we can put the wedding gift money away for a house. To break everything even financially, I volunteered putting down a down payment on a new car for him for after the wedding. We do disagree. He mostly cares about the $$$, which of course is to be expected. I am trying to do everything in terms of the flowers, centerpieces, etc, you know the 'girly' stuff at an affordable rate. He trust my decisions and always says, 'Hunny, just tell me what you want, and I'll write out the check for it.' I am a very lucky girl.
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Wow! I went to sleep and never saw that I actually got responses to this thread.
Thank you, everybody, for making me realize I'm not alone. FI and I haven't had any disagreements over anything wedding-related-- it's just that I'm doing all the research and leg-work, and meanwhile, I work many more hours than he does. I'm just frustrated.
So today he came home early because of the snow, and I said, 'Great! You can do some wedding stuff.' He whined a little, then decided he could work on the honeymoon.
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Oops, sorry, my text disappeared so I hit 'post' to make sure it was still there.
Anyway. He spent several hours checking out resorts tonight, so I am happy! I just don't know how everything's going to get done in time... my MOH and BMs all either live far away or are disabled, so they can't help me much, and I can't even get my parents to give me a guest list... so I have been feeling like I'm all by my lonesome with all this planning, which I expected to be such a happy and exciting time. It is, sometimes, but other times... sigh. Maybe he'll get better now. I did make it pretty clear that we're down to the wire and I'm stressed!
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we do everything together...sometimes it is hard because he is so opinionated, but usually our opinions are the same...we have gone through everything together and it has been great....it's nice because he knows when there is something that i really want and i know when there is something here really wants and we are able to work together to make the day special for the both of us.
i feel like when it gets here it really will be from the combination of our hard work...it is feels great....
