How much would you give as a wedding gift?

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Posted by tinaval

i do a standard 300

plus i look at it like they will give u back what u give them.....
so its like a mini loan!!

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If only everyone would be so kind! It's amazing how quickly people forget

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Posted by KimberlyScott

I always thought that the RH had a lot to do with it. My mom always told me to cover my plate and add some extra. I used to look up reception hall prices on the internet anf base it from there. It might sound strange but at least I knew that the B&G were getting something extra.

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I dont want to start any trouble but I totally disagree..I give what I give regardless of how much the plate costs. I am usually generous and would never give less bc my friend had a less expensive wedding...nor would I give a bigger gift if someone had a 'platinum wedding' .

Great post! I think I posted something like this awhile ago...or no actually it was how much to give at a bridal shower!!!!!

Ok so up until last year I gave $200...but many people that came to my wedding gave me more than I gave them and I feel so bad!!! But on another note...I could not afford to give more than that at the time! Nowadays I can afford more so $250-300 is what I will give!

Another side note...if I know the bride and groom paid for the wedding themself...I tend to feel bad and give alittle more...is that wrong???

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Posted by Jenn04

Great post! I think I posted something like this awhile ago...or no actually it was how much to give at a bridal shower!!!!!

Ok so up until last year I gave $200...but many people that came to my wedding gave me more than I gave them and I feel so bad!!! But on another note...I could not afford to give more than that at the time!

Another side note...if I know the bride and groom paid for the wedding themself...I tend to feel bad and give alittle more...is that wrong???

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Jenn I agree lol if they paid themselves I do tend to give more bc I feel bad also

I dont give money to cover the plate, i do it for other reasons. Now i dont expect others to do what i do and not saying its what should be done, I do it for my own reasons and not saying whats right or wrong. Everyone should only do what they are comfortable with.

But in my culture i have always grown up with the idea to give alot. The idea behind it is to help a couple starting out their marriage and new life, not so i can cover my plate, bc like someone else said, if a couple decides to make it expensive everyone shouldnt be responsible to pay for it. Growing up ive always been to events and they gave alot so i guess it stuck with me.

Normally i'd say we give $300-350. Dh is the same way and he had real close friends get married recently, these were real close friends and we gave about $500-600, other times about 400-500. Its not the same all the time, not like we follow an outline on what to give but do it for different reasons each time. Of course theres always different circumstances such as how youre doing financially at the time, or if youre travelling for the wedding.

I dont think any should feel pressured to give more or less. You shouldn't give what you're not comfortable giving.

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Posted by lizzie217

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Posted by KimberlyScott

I always thought that the RH had a lot to do with it. My mom always told me to cover my plate and add some extra. I used to look up reception hall prices on the internet anf base it from there. It might sound strange but at least I knew that the B&G were getting something extra.

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I dont want to start any trouble but I totally disagree..I give what I give regardless of how much the plate costs. I am usually generous and would never give less bc my friend had a less expensive wedding...nor would I give a bigger gift if someone had a 'platinum wedding' .

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i agree, if i give a friend lets say $350 and another friend has a wedding that im just as close to, i wouldnt give less if their wedding was less expensive. Last year 2 of dh's friends got married, we gave the same, didnt matter that we knew one spent less than the other

wow...it's really interesting. Gifts are much,much,much,bigger in this part of the country.
On the other hand, weddings are much more expensive.
I gave a friend a 250 dollar gift, (six flatware settings), and worried it was over-the-top.
People keep saying they are going to give me cash as a gift, I don't mind it, but it still feels strange coming from my contemporaries!
In other states, 60-80 is acceptable, I probably did around 100. And 'boxed' gifts are the norm.
My friend in WI, doesn't have anything over 59.99 on her registry, and I almost wanted to tell her to aim a little higher.

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Posted by Newsysuzy12

wow...it's really interesting. Gifts are much,much,much,bigger in this part of the country.
On the other hand, weddings are much more expensive.
I gave a friend a 250 dollar gift, (six flatware settings), and worried it was over-the-top.
People keep saying they are going to give me cash as a gift, I don't mind it, but it still feels strange coming from my contemporaries!
In other states, 60-80 is acceptable, I probably did around 100. And 'boxed' gifts are the norm.
My friend in WI, doesn't have anything over 59.99 on her registry, and I almost wanted to tell her to aim a little higher.

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I've been to tons of upstate weddings and FH has been to tons in NH and ME....they are all about giving gifts.
In Long Island, the 5 boroughs, NJ and even CT...it's about giving cash gifts. Mainly to start the bride and groom off with a bit of a nest. At least that is what I am told.