Hugs Please.......I Cancelled My Wedding Last Night.......Reply Added on Page 4

Bella Blu Posted: Jul 30, 2006 11:47 AM

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We have been having problems that were affecting our relationship and my feelings about us. I don't feel like getting into too many details right now. The last straw came a couple of weeks ago, I gave him back the ring (not the first time I had done that) and gave my self breathing space for a couple of weeks. During that time, he has been trying to work on the things that have been hurting us, listening to self-help tapes, taking notes on them to start to change some of his behaviors. I totally appreciate it, but right now I am so damaged and hurt from everything that I need time to be myself again. What hurts me the most is that I know he loves me with all he has got and this is really hurting him right now.

Part of me feels relieved and part of me thinks back to the good times and the special ways we had in our relationship which makes this totally s*ck.

Although my wedding was planned for December, at this point the only thing I had booked was the hall. We got a church, but the final paperwork was not sent in to fianlize everything. I guess deep down, in my subconscious I kinda knew. My enthusiasm for planning the wedding was very back and forth. As the day got closer I began to see it as a huge stress more than an excitement because I had taken so long to get on with my planning.

I don't plan on leaving the boards at this point, I'll just see how it goes.

Maybride07 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 11:53 AM

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sami Posted: Jul 30, 2006 11:54 AM

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Sorry to hear the news ... I really dont know what to say to you. Take it one day at a time

D's Girl Posted: Jul 30, 2006 11:54 AM

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Everything is meant to be and I hope that it all works out for you either way.

Aga Posted: Jul 30, 2006 11:55 AM

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glinda_goodwitch Posted: Jul 30, 2006 11:58 AM

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Goldi1021 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 12:03 PM

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I am so sorry.

NY031978 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 12:07 PM

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stay strong...it will all work out!

SeptBride70 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 12:08 PM

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i have an idea of how you feel first hand (through my sister who is going through something similar right now)... unfortunately, people don't always know what to say in these situations... just keep in your mind and in your heart that this is the best decision for you, for your life.. that you are a wonderful person who deserves to have a strong and healthy relationship with someone else.

it might be best that you found this out now, even though i know that's not what you want to hear, but it's true... and things can change so quickly for you, you could meet someone, or you could just be happy to be alone for a while-- i'm sure you would rather be alone than be with someone and unhappy. life is too short to be that way. i'm so sorry to hear this and i wish you the best of luck. i would, if i were you, go see a therapist or social worker, someone who can make you stronger and validate how you feel... i have the name of someone great, my sister (her wedding was supposed to be in one month) is using. please feel free to FM me for her info.

take it one day at a time, don't worry about yesterday, don't think about tomorrow: just do whatever you can to deal with today for what it is. think positive and try to keep a clear head. surround yourself with people that love and care about you-- but take time for yourself to just cry when you need to also.

jerrys girl Posted: Jul 30, 2006 12:13 PM

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DancerBride Posted: Jul 30, 2006 12:26 PM

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waterspout4 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 12:26 PM

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There are many girls here that cancelled their weddings, were distraught, and bounced back with a wonderful man years down the road. Always go with your gut instinct!!

I am proud of you for being strong enough to walk away.

Shell84 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:12 PM

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sorry to hear that

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:14 PM

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I am sad for you now, but proud of you for making a very good albeit difficult decision!

Soon2BeMrsD Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:18 PM

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so sorry!!i dont really know what to say, but i truly believe everything happens for a reason and in time you will see that reason

tuti0907 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:18 PM

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Listen to your heart and you'll never go wrong.

Mdolph6 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:24 PM

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Here are some for you....Be strong!! We are here for you....I hope everything works out for you!!

snydl40 Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:26 PM

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Maybe if you give eachother time things will work out-everything happens for a reason.

Wintersbride Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:26 PM

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I am so sorry you are going through this,

MissMelissa Posted: Jul 30, 2006 01:50 PM

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you know what, there are always reasons for stuff like this and either you will find the man of your dreams or maybe fh will help himself so much that he can become the man of your dreams. Good luck!