Hurt and betrayed...

i agree tht you should try talking to him about it.

i'm so sorry you have to go through this

My heart goes out to you. Stay strong and let us know how we can help. You have lots of friends on the boards.

I feel for you sweetie, I really do. I've been through a similar situation. SOMETHING made you read his e-mails. I've ALWAYS found that what you feel in your gut is right. You've been suspecting him of not being as committed as you are, or you feel he is distant. He doesn't talk to you about it, so you figure you'd find something in his email. And you were right. Good news is, you didn't find out that he actually cheated on you. I would ABSOLUTELY confront him. Yes, it's crappy that you had to snoop, but he has been lying to you by keeping his feelings from you. You MUST talk about this and do it NOW. PLEASE keep us posted and FM me if you want to talk. I'm so sorry

i am so sorry you are dealing with this, you need to talk to him asap! realize that as hard as it is, it is better to know now than later! it hurts like crazy i am sure, but you need to know now

I'm so sorry that you have to go through something as horrible as this. I would confront him as soon as possible.

Talk to him and see what happens. Counseling with him may help if you both feel it's appropriate after you talk. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but better to get it out in the open, and before you get married.

So sorry to hear that you are going thru this...a HUGE for you.
I may be repeating other girls, but I would weigh out what you want the end result to be. I would be furious if FH did what you did by snooping-but then again I have nothing to hide. And if he did find something he didnt like I would say that he had no right reading it and if you didnt want to know the truth you shouldnt have read it.
BUT-at the same time, he should be able to talk to you and those are some things in your relationship that need to be addressed. I would talk to him-dont bring up the snooping and see what he says. With a little bit of thought you can probably figure a way of asking him without being obvious of what you did.
I hope that it works out for you and that you are able to fix the problem

wow you girls are truly great. I can't believe how many of you wrote and were so kind to be so supportive.
As you can see I can't sleep because of this..Been up for over an hour now.
I e-mailed him but deleted it because I would rather dicuss this face to face.
I will update the 'drama' when it all goes down.
Thanks again and I really appreicate your responses.

I feel bad for you... but your def better off knowing now before your actually married. I know its hard but time heals everything.... Maybe you need to just go out & hook it up with hot latino boys!!!!

No but seriously I'm sure everything will work itself out, it always does.

I'm so sorry for what you are going through I will pray for you that everything will turn out OK.

I think all women 'know' (although most don't and can't admit it to themselves) when something is not right and that is probably why you checked his email in the first place.

Definitely confront him. If the marriage is important to you both, he will agree to counseling. Talking to someone might really help you both. You'd be surprised how much it can do.

OMG, first of all I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. I hope you don't mind but I spoke to my FH about this to get the guys perspective and like he said, your FH is probably going to be upset that you were looking at his e-mail......but......if he breaks up with you because of it, that is saying something about him and how he really feels. It's like he was waiting for a reason to take a break. If your FH had nothing to hide, then he wouldn't be changing his password and like the other girls said, he wouldn't be furious enough to break up with you. My FH knows all of my passwords and I know all of his not because either of us snoop because neither of us having anything to hide. I would confront him. I would REALLY confront him taking the chance that if he says, 'I can't do this because of your snooping' that the issue is probably a lot larger than you looking at his e-mail. Your FH did something to make your internal alarms go off, don't second guess that. What you need to do is look at your relationship, look at his behaviors, look at yourself, and look at you in a relationship and figure out what that is so that when you do talk to him and he does get upset, you can say well I looked because of ABC. this isn't a blame game. And its not about who is right and who is wrong about it. He may be really concerned about staying monogamous, I know people are especially with today's statistics.....but the thought of leaving is not a normal thought process. Chances are he is probably going to try to turn this around on you sicne he will probably get very defensive of his words, just stay on course and be strong making sure to come to some resolution before it is all said and done. Above everythign be good to yourself, take care of yourself, and be honest with yourself. Forever is a really long time. In the meantime, we are all here for you

OMG I'm so sorry sweetie.. I would confront him....

Please let us know how it turns out. We are here for you.

Be strong...