FMIL wants us to know take off the last names (like it says my parents and his parents full names request the presence at the marriage of their children Jeffrey and Angela). AND she wants the '&' sign between our names. The wedding is a formal affair....why can't she just leave it alone!!!!
MarryingMyBFF1110
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DO you have to listen to her???
adelz
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I say you keep them as is, and just say oops! the lady put them in production and there's nothing you can do.
SoonToBeMrsCali
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Just say they are already in production!
BlushandBashful
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Why does she have this much say??? Who cares what she wants?
IrishAli
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Why is it up to her?
kshea23
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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali
Just say they are already in production!
this, she can't do anything about it then!
smilesjc81
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s c r e w her, they are already on the assembly line, too late
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Posted by adelz
I say you keep them as is, and just say oops! the lady put them in production and there's nothing you can do.
THAT!!!!!!!!
Moonmist09
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why does she have so much say?
kimmaymb20
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Tell her to take a hike ITS YOUR WEDDING!!!! Do what YOU want not what SHE wants!!!
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Posted by BlushandBashful
Why does she have this much say??? Who cares what she wants?
Unfortunately, I am one of those women who is dealing with a Mama's Boy for an FH. He has gotten better over the past 8 years, but we had to wait 2 months before he had the courage to announce our engagement. Since FMIL and I don't have a good relationship, when I say no to her 'suggestions' he automatically says I'm just being spiteful. NO- I just know what I want! It took him 3 WEEKS to convince to even look at the invitation proof because I wouldn't take my middle name off.
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Posted by kimmaymb20
Tell her to take a hike ITS YOUR WEDDING!!!! Do what YOU want not what SHE wants!!!
ITA... it doesnt matter if hes a mamas boy... its not her decision
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I love my middle name so I begged FH to include it. He hates his so I figured it would be a battle. But no it was fine. I haven't even asked FMIL for invite insight. We have the & sign between our full names on the invite and between our first names on the program.
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DONT DO IT! THIS IS UR WEDDING....
rmiller2255
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Don't ever let her win!!! Fight FH to the death of it!
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stand your ground its your wedding who ever doesnt like them can just rsvp they are going to throw them out in the end but you will be the one with the picture of it in your wedding album go with what you want.
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Is she paying for the invites? If not, no say. And if FH is going to be a momma's boy than he doesn't really need to have that much info either. What does he care about invites...he's a guy. (Don't get me wrong, he may care, but most don't)
Do what you want, what means the most to you. I gaurantee what the invites say doesn't mean squat to FH so just do it. I would limit the amount you share with FMIL as well. If she's not paying for it, than it really doesn't concern her.
I'm sorry you are dealing with nonsense.
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Wow that's ridiculous! Tell your FH that you already compromised by taking your middle name off and that he has to take your side every once in a while - mama's boy or not. I think you are being VERY nice by taking your middle name off, there is no reason you should take your last name off!
Good luck
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My FMIL hasn't seen my invitiation.
I've had problems with my in laws and I have to tell you from experience that you need to learn to stand your ground or it will NEVER end. What happens when she doens't like the name you choose for your child?
Your FH needs to understand that YOU are the primary person in his life.
