I seriously am stressing out big time..It just seems like fh never wants anything to do with wedding planning and then yesterday i ask him whats in 349 days and he snaps at me and says some rude comment like 'why do you keep asking me this, you know the answer' I just can't take the fact that sometimes he does not show one ounce of excitement about any of it...we just had a big fight about it and all i can do is cry..Im sorry i just needed to vent
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I'm sorry kristen. If it's any consolation my FH doesn't get too excited either. It's hard for them to get as excited as we do for our weddings. I think that deep down inside my FH knows I'm right that it's only 30% his wedding Seriously, try not to let it get to you this much, we're just wired differently then them
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I'm sorry kristen. If it's any consolation my FH doesn't get too excited either. It's hard for them to get as excited as we do for our weddings. I think that deep down inside my FH knows I'm right that it's only 30% his wedding Seriously, try not to let it get to you this much, we're just wired differently then them
thats true jess, but i just can't help but feel upset that when i ask him whats 349 days away he acts like he doesn't care ...
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thats true jess, but i just can't help but feel upset that when i ask him whats 349 days away he acts like he doesn't care ...
I don't think it's that he doesn't care I think it's just not as exciting for them, it really is OUR day. Of course he's excited to marry you, it's going to be the most special day in both of your lives. I realized when I try to talk wedding with FH somehow I get tuned out or not answered at all, I think he's just sick of hearing wedding talk but I know he's excited for the wedding.
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thats true jess, but i just can't help but feel upset that when i ask him whats 349 days away he acts like he doesn't care ...
I don't think it's that he doesn't care I think it's just not as exciting for them, it really is OUR day. Of course he's excited to marry you, it's going to be the most special day in both of your lives. I realized when I try to talk wedding with FH somehow I get tuned out or not answered at all, I think he's just sick of hearing wedding talk but I know he's excited for the wedding.
thanks jess you really made me feel a little bit better about all this..
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I'm sorry kristin! one thing I learned about this whole wedding planning thing is that guys tend not to really care about it all unless it's actually the day of the wedding and they see what all of that hard work has done, or if you're talking about the honeymoon...if I were you, i'd probably just save the wedding talk for girls...for some guys, it's like they're allergic to it (my brother being one of them, he gets so upset when I talk about the wedding...and he's in it!) I'm sorry...men really suck sometimes!
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If it helps any, my FH is the same way.....He does not show any excitement at all....Especially when I show him things I'm thinking about doing.... All he says is okay, that's cool....He keeps telling me he doesn't get excited easily...=( I know how you feel....Feel free to FM me if you need to chat.....I'm a good listener or reader....=) HTH!!!
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im in the same boat as you. sometimes i feel like : hey you're the one that asked me to marry you. Why arent you as excited as I am???
I send him silly text messages sometimes with our countdown and he tells me to stop and that I am annoying him.
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oh and he never wants to do anything wedding related. if we have to go to a vendor, he says lets just go with the first one so we dont have to go to another one. I dont tell him i make 2 or 3 appointments until its time to go. this way he cant tell me to cancel it.
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I totally understand! I booked our photog and our band alone! And he wants to know if he really has to come w/me for precana!?!?! Jerks.
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dont worry hun, mine does the same thing... men just arent like we are w/ these things, i ask fh if he'll be excited when it gets closer he said yeah, i cried a few times to but no more he'll be crying when he gets my total wedding bill he, he
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im sorry kristin FH is like that sometimes too he'll work for like 16 hours, come in the door and i say 'how many days??!!' LOL - sometimes he just looks at me like 'are u for real?' and sometimes he answers
i think its just the testosterone
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I am lucky if my FH even knows that our wedding is next Fri. (he knows) but, I joke with him b/c he hasn't really expressed any excitement in the planning and he tells me to let him know the place and time to show up. There is only so many times I can get upset about it. So I have learned to just go along and do it myself. He did mention to me that he has faith in me and everything I do always comes out nice so he is sure it will be great!! What about the stress? He doesn't get that part!! UGH
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I seriously am stressing out big time..It just seems like fh never wants anything to do with wedding planning and then yesterday i ask him whats in 349 days and he snaps at me and says some rude comment like 'why do you keep asking me this, you know the answer' I just can't take the fact that sometimes he does not show one ounce of excitement about any of it...we just had a big fight about it and all i can do is cry..Im sorry i just needed to vent
Yikes, I'm sorry for that. FI is taking forever with deciding where to have the reception. Yeah we have a situation in which he's working in Cali and I'm left picking the places on my own but he wanted to make the decision in person and that can be too late. At least he told me to pick somewhere that is under 150pp.
Maybe you asked him on a bad day. I bet deep down he is excited.
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i'm soo sorry hun! My FH gets like that too sometimes.. it's like let me at least be excited about it. He says he is excited and happy but sometimes he gets tired of hearing about it everyday.. i just don't think they are as into it.. I think in all honesty they think of actually being married more than the big day itself cause i feel like us brides are more about the details. But i totally get how you feel cause it's like ...this is the one day that's gonna start the rest of our lives together.. show some enthusiasum(sp)...!!! Don't worry girl.. i'm sure he is super excited about marrying you and having you be his wife... i think the wedding stuff just gets to them after awhile
hope you feel better.....
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Yea.. boys just suck like that sometimes.. He definitely cares.. the little things just don't excite them as much as us.. my FH thinks I'm nuts that I told him we are 224 days away.. he's like .. babe that's almost a year.. relax..
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i feel your pain!!!!!!!!! my fh has no interest in any of it... he has only been to one vendor appointment with me..everything else i have done alone..and the ONE he came with me too he complained the whole time..i have done all the epart invites and wrote out all the thank yous, made the std's all by myself...and he still manages to have the balls to complain and literally get mad at me when i talk about the wedding and am excited about it. W T F?!?!?! we have def had some fights over it cause it really bothers me too...sorry about adding my vent to this lol but i totally know how u feel!!!!!
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im sorry kristin but i do feel better knowing that it must be a 'guy thing' and that we are all going through it wouldnt u feel worse if no one else had the same issue? at least we know it is normal for us and them LOL
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Awww Kristin I am sorry you feel that way. Most guys are like that with wedding planning. Don't be upset. FH cares about the wedding and loves you!!!
JTsGal829
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i say we put all our men together in a room and force them to watch a bridezilla marathon .. this way maybe they will come out realizing how lucky they are..lmaoo argg men can seriously drive a girl to drink.. lol
