I did something wrong for the right reasons, I thought. Need hugs (FH update, page 2)

Original post by waterspout4

Jan 08, 2006 04:48 PM

I have been having some terrible health problems. The doctors are baffled and I spend most of my days off either in the hospital or at a specialist. I was upfront with FH about everything, until leukemia was brought up. It was a remote possiblity, so I wanted to shield him from it. (A good friend of his died in High school from leukemia) I didn't want him to worry over a remote possibility.

Thankfully, it isn't leukemia, although they still don't know what it is. I sat FH down and told him everything. He is completely hurt. I was trying to shield him from the worry, yet I hurt him. I was trying to do good, but I made the wrong decision. I need hugs.

MattsBride Posted: Jan 08, 2006 11:25 PM

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Aww, Kelly, I think you did what you thought was right. You didn't want to worry him if you didn't have to. I'm sure he just feels bad because he wants to be there for you, but if you sit down with him and explain why you didn't tell him he will understand. Maybe you should promise to let him know everything in the future. It might be better for you to let him know everything so that you are not keeping all the stress and worrying to yourself. I hope everything works out for you. I will keep you in my prayers! FM anytime if you need to talk!

JazzyT Posted: Jan 09, 2006 12:05 AM

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and i hope you get better soon

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Jan 09, 2006 07:41 AM

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I'm so sorry! I hope that everything is okay. I think your FH was mad because he wanted to be there for you and couldn't. I know if my FH did that to me, I would feel the same way. You were trying to protect him, but he also wants to protect you, too. It's the wonderful thing about marriage.

jimmysgrl Posted: Jan 09, 2006 08:07 AM

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lipglossjunky73 Posted: Jan 09, 2006 08:13 AM

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thank God it's not leukemia!!!!

giapet99 Posted: Jan 09, 2006 08:17 AM

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Reesa Posted: Jan 09, 2006 09:39 AM

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So sorryyou're going through this

JXNOscar Posted: Jan 09, 2006 10:04 AM

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SillyBeans Posted: Jan 09, 2006 10:06 AM

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I'm sorry. What you did was very unselfish by trying to protect him and he will see that. I hope you get better soon.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jan 09, 2006 10:12 AM

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Soon2BeMrsD Posted: Jan 09, 2006 10:21 AM

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kellwolfe Posted: Jan 09, 2006 10:24 AM

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You will get through this together

ellebelle1 Posted: Jan 09, 2006 11:22 AM

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Don't worry, I'm sure he's not mad at you, only upset that you are in bad health. He's loves you and everything will be wonderful. Thank g-d that you do not have cancer.

ETAB Posted: Jan 09, 2006 11:27 AM

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waterspout4 Posted: Jan 09, 2006 12:29 PM

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Thank you all so much for your kind words, prayers and hugs. He is talking to me about it and we're opening up. What's hard is that we've always shared everything. We were friends for 7 years before even dating. So, we've never held anything in. Now he's a little scared that I'm not going to tell him stuff when I find it out from the doctors. I guess I can't blame him. I'm never holding anything in again.

I'm just sick of all this. Last January they started checking for cancer and we've been on a roller coaster ride since. I've seen so many specialists and have gone to the hospital so much. When leukemia was a remote possiblity I figured that was the last thing my FH needed to worry about. Boy did I screw up!

cindyandkevin Posted: Jan 09, 2006 12:37 PM

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Kelly you didn't screw up, you simply made a mistake. I'm so sorry to hear about your health problems but I'm very glad that it's not leukemia. The important thing is that your FH wants to be there for you and now that you've opened up he can be. Lesson learned.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.