I Just Want the Wedding Over

I Just Want the Wedding Over

I have been feeling so overwhelmed lately about the wedding planning and things that are going on with family. I am getting to the point where I don't really care anymore and I wish that it was over already. If we weren't contractually responsible for paying $$ for the wedding I would just cancel the whole thing, do something small and call it a night.
People outside of FH and I are making me really really mad lately and I am not at liberty to confront them about it at this point. Can't go into details about why, but it's just a very frustrating situation and what makes it worse is I have to hold it all inside to protect others. I can't take it anymore and all I want to do is cry. I feel so depressed.
Am I the only one who is having pre-wedding blues?

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you are not alone!! i know i am stressed to the point of nausea that FH and i won't be able to afford this wedding, but like you said, we have put so much $ into it already that i don't have the option of eloping like i really want to sometimes! i guess i just pray and hope that it will all work itself out somehow.

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You are not alone.

It is so easy to feel overwhelmed--especially as the day gets closer. I know everyday, I complain about something and wish that I had really just pushed for that Vegas wedding. It's all the little details that can get to you.

Take a deep breath and take it easy. It'll all be worth it in the end.

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i think you have the 2 month mark blues!!!! its so common....i swear if you look at other brides at this point, they post so many simliar stories....around that time i was feeling that way too. like i wish i could have just said 'to hell with everyone!'

trust me, it WILL be okay and it WILL be worth it in the end.

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Hang in there...you will be OK!!

I have a couple of things I have been holding in too ...that I cant elaborate right now...about certain people ...which really really pi$$es me off bc this person expects everything from everyone but in the end NOBODY will ruin your day...or mine!!

Good Luck!!

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No you are not the only one that feels that way. I am going through some family things too and there are times that I want to run, but then I'll look at FH and he'll smile and I'll know that things will work themselves out. Remember we are all here for you if you need us and if you want to chat you can always FM me.

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you not alone!!!!something i feel like things get out of hand, i wished i would just run away, but i cant hurt my parents, since this the first wedding in my family ,and it would just hurt them.

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O I am so with you on that! Its not even that we have problems with family or whatever, I am just sick of having to argue my way through everything with vendors and trying to coordinate things when I seem to be the only one who cares.

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I absolutely felt the same way... I did not care about losing the money.. but believe me it will get better! This is absolutely normal..

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I feel the same way. I cried for hours Saturday night about how this wedding has gotten so out of control. I never cared about the wedding., I am in this for the marriage. I told FH I wish we could just chuck the whole huge wedding and get married in a court house. I just don't want to live in a state of stress until our wedding day comes.
I hope things get better and calmer for all of us that are feeling this way.

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Stay strong (i think we're RING TWINS!)!!!!
It will be worth it!!!!

I keep telling myself all I can control is MY BEHAVIOR, no one else's! As hard as that is to accept sometimes, its the only thing that keeps me sane, and some days THAT'S all I've got!!

And you will NEVER HAVE A SINGLE REGRET for acting with grace and dignity; you are a kind person for hurting others even when people & events are pushing your buttons!! Take heart, that's a great life skill and will help your marriage and family for the rest of your life!!

Make sure to give yourself a day 'off' of wedding duty each week if you can. If not, then a few hours at least, recharge YOUR batteries, take a nap, get a facial, ANYTHING that takes you away from the planning for a little bit!!!

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Aww honey I am sorry to hear this. Maybe if you write in a journal to get out what you would want to say to some people it might help. Just breathe and know that what people do or say really doesn't matter. In the end it's you and him forever... Just try to breathe and relax and it will pass.

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I am so grateful to have you LIW girls to vent to. Thanks so much for your encouragement and for letting me know I'm not alone. *Deep Breath*
I need a massage.

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not at all, I am with you. I feel so overwhelmed and I am 1 month away from my wedding. There is so much to do and only 1 of me. We have to try to remember that this is a happy time in our life and find time to relax.

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Oh I totally hear you. At this minute, I am not speaking to my mother, my grandmother, my aunt and FH. I am so tired of being stressed out and running around (hence my other post surveying plush towels) that I would love to run away....and go on a nice vacay BY MYSELF! Hang in there. It has to get better.

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I have been feeling so overwhelmed lately about the wedding planning and things that are going on with family. I am getting to the point where I don't really care anymore and I wish that it was over already. If we weren't contractually responsible for paying $$ for the wedding I would just cancel the whole thing, do something small and call it a night.
People outside of FH and I are making me really really mad lately and I am not at liberty to confront them about it at this point. Can't go into details about why, but it's just a very frustrating situation and what makes it worse is I have to hold it all inside to protect others. I can't take it anymore and all I want to do is cry. I feel so depressed.
Am I the only one who is having pre-wedding blues?

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You are not the only one.

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you're definitely not alone!! I'm definitely looking forward to the wedding itself, but there are certain people in the family (I'm not going to elaborate) that I feel like I can't even talk about the wedding in front of them...it's kind of sad, but sometimes people are selfish and they don't realize that when it was there time to get married, everyone was happy for them, if they could do the same for us, that would be awesome....but unfortunately sometimes people live for making others miserable!!! sorry that its happening to you too!! screw everyone else!!! we'll have the best wedding days EVER!! we deserve it just for dealing w/ everyone else's crap!!

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Hang in there. You are not alone. When I get feeling like this. I like to do a little disappearing act. I go into hiding for a week or two and don't answer my phone. I use the excuse, I'm busy at work or I'm fighting off a cold and that is usually long enough for me to get my mental strength back to deal with people who seem set on upsetting me. It will be OK. You are almost there.

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From about a month out up until the day before my wedding i was pretty much stressed and ready to KILL people...i was sick of the BS and details...but i woke up the day of my wedding, in the best mood...and had the greatest day, and wedding i had always dreamed of...and now i can't even remember half the things that were pushing me over the edge...try to stay calm....go punch a pillow or scream at the top of your lungs..and try and feel better..or call a friend who can just sit and listen. Hang in there...come your wedding day it'll all be worth it i promise!!