Hello. I am a regular poster on LIW-but I am too embarrassed to show who I really am.
Me and my fiancee have been together over 7 years, and our relationship has been great. We've never broken up-but we were once a a lil 'break' for like 3 days. At that time, our best friends had broken up-and it made us think our relationship. During that time, one of my guy friends had admitted to me he liked me-but nothing happened. He tried to kiss me, but I wouldn't let him. I had made the decision to be with my boyfriend, and he made the decision to stay with me. So everything was great after that-we got engaged almost 2 years later and everything really has been good.
I started a new job not too long ago, and one of the guys I work with-we always joke around, saying we like each other n all. He always compliments me-he also has a gf of 9 years-and is prob going to get engaged soon.
Well, we've always talked and today he asked me to go out w/him after work. So I thought, what the hell, and I did. We ended up just talking about work and him getting engaged-for 2 hours. When we were leaving and I was walking to the train, he tried to kiss me, but I wouldn't let him.
I don't know whats wrong with me!!! I don't think I even like him...I think I just like the attention...What do you guys think??
Katherine121
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Posted by MattsBride
I don't think anything is wrong with you. Everyone likes to get some attention now and then! It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong if you were talking about him getting engaged and you don't like him as anything more than a friend. If he tried to kiss you and you didn't kiss back, then he is the one who almost cheated and not you. Just think and make sure that you really don't have feelings for him before you get married. If he works with you, then you will still see a lot of him even after you are married. You wouldn't want to get married and then think you made a mistake after. If this guy likes you and you don't want to give him the wrong idea then maybe you shouldn't hang out with him alone anymore. Or just tell him that you are not interested in him that way. HTH.
I really don't think I have feelings for him-maybe just sexual feelings, lol, sorry TMI. He sorta just pecked me on the lips-but he told me he really wanted to kiss me.
May I remind you that 'sexual' feelings are still feelings?
Ask yourself and be honest: are you as sexually attracted to your FH as you are to this guy? I can guarantee you, if the two of you keep going out for 'talks' and 'drinks', and you have 'not feelings just sexual feelings', the two of you are going to wind up doing more than just 'sorta pecking on the lips.'
Latrice
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I think you need to ask yourself what would you do if you found out FH did the same thing with another woman. Liking attention from another man is fine. You are engaged not dead. You are still human. However, the problem for me is when you act on those feelings. If you are already flirting with one another in the office, there is no need for you to be alone under any circumstances with that man. The only real attention that you need to entertain and enjoy is that from your FH. Anything else is disrespectful in my opinion and maybe you need to take a deeper look at your current relationship.
KarAnthony
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Posted by mtdr1106
i think you are totally normal. so what? - you went for drinks with a coworker who you think is hot. he tried to kiss you - and you rejected him.
Went out with a coworker who you think is hot???
How would you feel if FI went out with a female coworker alone that he thinks is hot and he pecked her???
