OK, im trying to decide who to have walk me down the aisle...
my father passed away when i was 10... here are my 2 choice:
1. Mom's ex-boyfriend... i know this sounds funny, but he really is like my step dad. He has been around since I was in the 7th grade and him and my mom broke up when i was in college... he still stayed in my and my brothers life and I call him my pseudo-step dad. he loves my brother and i like his own children and him and my mom are still close friends... i even lived with him for a while when i was working in NYC...FI and i meet him for dinner all the time and he really is like a dad to me...
2. my uncle... this is my moms brother, who also happens to be my godfather. My uncle took this job very seriously and has always looked out for my little brother and I. He lives in fla and that is where I choose to go to college. He was always there to pick me up from school when i needed a ride and bring me to the airport... he is a great great special uncle who i love dearly (his 4 children -- my cousins--are going to be my flower girls! )he even recently offered to pay for one of the vendors at my wedding because he knows my mom isnt helping with anything...
So i am stuck!! Please help... mom thinks i should ask my pseudo step dad... my brother and FI are thinking i should ask my uncle... can i ask both?? is that wierd?? would that leave my mom sleighted??? I DONT Want to walk down the aisel with my mom or brother...
please help!!
jantany26
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I think you should ask your uncle. he is also your godfather and it seems he has been there for you. Good luck.
Jen2999
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wow that is a major decision.
I dont even know how to vote.
When you think about alking down the aisle, who do you picture there with you?
Maybe one could walk you half way and meet the other?
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that is a VERY major decision...I think even though you are very close with your mom's ex boyfriend that it would not be so appropriate to have him walk you down the aisle...
I think that your uncle is your only choice...he is your 'Godfather' which consitutes a 'dad' per say! Not only that but he is a blood line & not that it matters but I think it would be the best choice...
But remember, you are the one that needs to determine which is the better choice
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Posted by Jen2999
wow that is a major decision.
I dont even know how to vote.
When you think about alking down the aisle, who do you picture there with you?
Maybe one could walk you half way and meet the other?
I know i am SOOO stuck!! i think i may be leaning more toward my pseudo-step dad because he really is like my step father, but i dont want to insult my uncle, who is my godfather and is also so special to me...
has anyone seen that when the bride switches escorts half way down??
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Posted by kissy27
I think that your uncle is your only choice...he is your 'Godfather' which consitutes a 'dad' per say! Not only that but he is a blood line & not that it matters but I think it would be the best choice...
that is what is leaning me toward my uncle...
URGH!!! what if i have my uncle walk me down, but then have the first dance with my step dad???
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he really is like a dad to me...
I think you should go with him...You said it right there...but you have to do what you feel comfortable with. tough decision. Good Luck and let us know the final vote
Jen2999
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I think it is done a lot. I saw one where a step dad walked her half way to her 'real' dad and he was the one to give her away up at the alter. They could shake hands and 'pass you off'
I think it would be wonderful to have both.
Will you be dancing with them too? Maybe one could walk you down the aisle and another could do the dance?
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Will you be dancing with them too? Maybe one could walk you down the aisle and another could do the dance?
I think THAT is a perfect idea! That way you can have both of them take part in your special day. I think the dance is more personal, so whoever you feel closer to you should dance with you.
cjb88
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that seems like a good idea...
i feel so bad... my mom told me this recently... at my Sweet 16 I made sure that I danced with all of my uncles (i have 3) and for some reason i didnt think of it to ask my psuedo step dad to dance with me... well apparently he was really hurt abotu it... he never said anything to me or made any comment... my mom just told me now all these years later... so im sure he would be honored by dancing with him first...
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I voted for both! Definitely both!!!
cjb88
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I voted for both! Definitely both!!!
both at the same time, or switching from one to the other???
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I wholeheartedly believe the person should be someone who feels like dad to you, and that's why my vote's for pseudo-step dad. But I do like Jen's idea of having them switch off - I think that's a really nice way to include them both.
I lost my dad when I was 14 so I'm struggling with this too; my problem is that I don't have anyone I feel dad-like about so I think I'm going to go alone - but you have two great people, and I think ultimately there's really no reason to have to choose.
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i say uncle, he is family. i understand you are close with your pseudo-stepdad, but he wasn't always in your life and you uncle will be.
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I see nothing wrong with asking both of them, it will make them both feel realy special that you could not choose between them both.
cjb88
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thank you for all of your advice girls!! it is really helping!! I appreciate it so very much... keep it coming!!!
I would say try to do both and if you decide to do only one, I would lean toward your uncle, simply because he is family and your god father. That said, I would make sure to honor them both in some way during the reception with a special dance or speech, etc.
Jen2999
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I think if you dont want to do both have your uncle walk you down the aisle and give the first dance to your step dad.
Or you could ask your step dad to choose which hed like since you want to make sure he isnt hurt by it
JmJBride
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Maybe you can have your mom walk you down.
gNi1125
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I like Jen's idea of having one walk you down the aisle and one dancing with you. While this seems like a tough decision you are actually double blessed to have two very important people in your life. I say include them both.
