OK, im trying to decide who to have walk me down the aisle...
my father passed away when i was 10... here are my 2 choice:
1. Mom's ex-boyfriend... i know this sounds funny, but he really is like my step dad. He has been around since I was in the 7th grade and him and my mom broke up when i was in college... he still stayed in my and my brothers life and I call him my pseudo-step dad. he loves my brother and i like his own children and him and my mom are still close friends... i even lived with him for a while when i was working in NYC...FI and i meet him for dinner all the time and he really is like a dad to me...
2. my uncle... this is my moms brother, who also happens to be my godfather. My uncle took this job very seriously and has always looked out for my little brother and I. He lives in fla and that is where I choose to go to college. He was always there to pick me up from school when i needed a ride and bring me to the airport... he is a great great special uncle who i love dearly (his 4 children -- my cousins--are going to be my flower girls! )he even recently offered to pay for one of the vendors at my wedding because he knows my mom isnt helping with anything...
So i am stuck!! Please help... mom thinks i should ask my pseudo step dad... my brother and FI are thinking i should ask my uncle... can i ask both?? is that wierd?? would that leave my mom sleighted??? I DONT Want to walk down the aisel with my mom or brother...
please help!!
serendipity0680
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That's a tough decision because both of them sound like great men who are very important in your life. However I think I would og with your Uncle because he is also your godfather and his children are in your wedding.
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you seem to really love your pseudo step dad and he has a special place in your heart.
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Who does your mom suggest? I don't think any of us can decide that for you. This is a very personal thing. My idea (i don't know if it sounds crazy or not) but what about your psedo step dad walks you halfway down and then your uncle stands up from the pew and walks you the rest of the way? Just a thought b/c it might be nice to incorporate them both into the picture?
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Posted by gNi1125
I like Jen's idea of having one walk you down the aisle and one dancing with you. While this seems like a tough decision you are actually double blessed to have two very important people in your life. I say include them both.
gNi1125 and I think alike, I like your idea better though maybe she should dance with one and walk down with the other.
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I like Jen's idea of having one walk you down the aisle and one dancing with you. While this seems like a tough decision you are actually double blessed to have two very important people in your life. I say include them both.
gNi1125 and I think alike, I like your idea better though maybe she should dance with one and walk down with the other.
I like this idea best. It's a very tough decision. Really only you can choose. But I definitely think you should include both especially since you feel close to both of them.
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Yikes, this is such a hard decision because they are both major people in your life. I voted both because it seems to me that they are equally important to you. You also don't want to hurt any ones feelings...however I'm sure one or the other would understand your decision. I seriously think you need to pick who in your heart seems to be the right person to give you away. Good luck!! This is a toughy!
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I was always taught 'blood over everyone else' but that's JMO. Maybe you can dance with your 'stepdad' so that he will also know how special he is 2 u!
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thats a hard one ...But I think that I would talk to my mom ....and get her vibe on it ...and probably ask my Uncle
PrincessConsuela
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what about picking your brother or mother???
july06bride
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if i were in your situation I think i would have one walk me half way and the other walk me the rest-
2006bride
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I think you should have your mom walk you down. It would mean so much to her, i'm sure!
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Wow.... hard one....I would say either have them both walk you down or have your uncle walk you and have your first dance with your 'step-dad'.
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I think you should definitely include both of them. both ideas are great, I think the main point is this- do you intend to dance with BOTH men, or just once.
If you switch off down the aisle, it might make more sense to switch off also during the father/daughter dance, this way you are even all around.
if you only wanted to dance with one of your special men, I say have ONE walk you down the aisle, and the other do the first dance. I am sure they will both be so honored to have such a sacred place in your day.
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My father passed away when I was younger too. My mother will be walking me down the aisle as she is the only one who could ever come close to my dad as a choice. If my mom couldn't walk me down, I'd walk down alone.
One nice thing that she is planning on saying is when the officiant asks who gives this bride away, she is saying 'her father in spirit'
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JMO but it seems like both men have played equally important and loving roles in your life- i'd ask both - why not its your wedding and what better way to honor both of them? Good luck let us know what you decide!
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I think you should ask your uncle. he is also your godfather and it seems he has been there for you. Good luck.
i agree ask your uncle.
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Just saw this poll and I think it would be nice if your pseudo step dad walked you half was and then your uncle walked half way down and picked you up... kind of significant and meaningful.
It's your choice no matter what... but I think that looks and sounds like a nice idea.
The other thing you could do is just have your mom walk you down the aisle...a couple of my friends/family members have done this and i like it. Since your dad past away, in reality, your mom is the one 'giving' you away...
Just a thought!
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That is a very hard decision, I would ask both. You can have your step dad walk you down half way, then have your uncle walk you down the rest of the way.
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Well before I read the entire post I said your step dad but after reading it I would hav eto say your uncle he has been there for alot more then your stepdad and he is also your godfather I think it would mean alot more to him then your stepdad
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I think that having both men walking you down the aisle at the same time would be a great honor. They have both made a huge impact on your life and what better way to honor them? Good luck and remeber that iin the end YOU have to be happy with the decision that you make, do what feels right to you.
