This is so unreal..i want someone to pinch me and wake me up out of this nightmare. We had a blackout last night and my son asked if he could sleep over his friends house who lives next door. I said it was fine, because we were going to go to the pool today. So...apparently they snuck out to go to his girlfriends house who invited them over to watch a movie. They at first didn't want to go because her dad was home. He's a correction officer. But..they went anyway and stood in the basement. Her father caught her and my sons friend. My son was in the bathroom when he came down. He started screaming at her and his friend and then proceeded to hit her. My son says he freaked out and stood in the bathroom. His friend left the house and came back home. The whole time my son is in the bathroom in the basement, he says there was a lot of fighting going on upstairs and then a loud thud. At 7:30am I was woken up by detectives notifying me my son was missing. I told them how could that be when he was next door?? They told me about an incident that had occured and asked me to check for him..which I did and he wasn't here. They went back to the house and found him at still in the bathroom and he was crying. His girlfriend (15 yrs old) apparently got hold of her fathers gun and shot herself in the chest (which was the loud thud) and died this morning. I am in shock..and can't even begin to tell you all how I am feeling. I knew, and cared for this girl. I just spoke w/her and her father last night..because he came to lend us flashlights since we had a blackout. And now I hear this...I don't even know what to do..say. My son is not saying much...but I know he is very very sad. I hate that this happened..and although I know they are teenagers..I wish they would have never gone over there, because maybe this wouldn't have happened. Apparently there were alot of other problems their family had (which she never let on), and I guess it lead her to do this. Her father was VERY over protective of her..which is understandable...but now he is being questioned because of her getting a hold of this gun. This is a tragedy...one that I don't know how I or her family are going to be able to overcome. I need your prayers ladies...please.
AlmostMrsKelly
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as with all the other ladies on this site, i am at a loss for words, my heart aches for you and my prayers go out to you, your son and your family, as well as everyone else involved. i too am a cop and so is FH and it leaves me uneasy that we have guns in the house... when we have children, it will make me even more uneasy... but coming on this job we are lectured and lectured about gun saftey, keeping them away from our children and families. fact is, this wasn't an accident... she intentionally shot herself. i grew up with a father and brother who were both cops and never once did i ever consider going after their guns. this girl, for whatever reason, did not have the will to live anymore - and it wasn't because of that night, or because of any one argument with her father. obviosuly something was quite wrong for this to have happened. i am glad that your son agreed to talk to someone... it will help him through this tragedy. i know you will do your best to comfort him and reassure him - and keep that girls' father away from him. the fact that this man went off on his daughter the way that he did, hit her and is now looking for some children to blame... as if we didn't know this just from the situation, but obviously there is something very wrong with him. good luck; my thoughts are with you and we are all here for you
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The girls sister came by today to speak to us..and honestly...I feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted off of my chest. She just wanted to know if her sister said anything..to my son about wanting to do this...and basically what happened because she was sleeping when this took place. I feel so bad for her and her family. We were all crying... I asked if we could go to the funeral...if the father was ok with it..and he said it was. I guess he finally realizes it wasn't anyones fault..you know? I can completely relate to what he is feeling (guilt etc) and wish the situation could be changed...but it can't. I just want to show my respects to the family....and am thankful that he is allowing it.
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I am glad you feel a little better after speaking to her sister and am glad you will be able to attend the funeral. This story has been weighing on my mind and I still cant believe what happened. You guys are all still in my prayers
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i am glad to hear your son was willing to talk with a guidance counselor i hope it helps him, also that the father is no longer blaming your son and his friend, it will take time to heal but he is on the right track especially with someone like you as his mother, who obviously cares so much about him, i will continue to keep all of you in my prayers
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i am so sorry for all of this! this is a lot for your son to handle. Make sure he speaks to counselors!
again i feel terrible and i am sorry your family is going through this!
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I am so sorry to hear about all of this!!! Words can't even justify what you all must be going through.
My prayers go out to yours and her families.
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How terrible. I hope your son will be okay and all families involved.
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I am so sorry. My deepest sympathy goes to your son and his friend's family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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The girls sister came by today to speak to us..and honestly...I feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted off of my chest. She just wanted to know if her sister said anything..to my son about wanting to do this...and basically what happened because she was sleeping when this took place. I feel so bad for her and her family. We were all crying... I asked if we could go to the funeral...if the father was ok with it..and he said it was. I guess he finally realizes it wasn't anyones fault..you know? I can completely relate to what he is feeling (guilt etc) and wish the situation could be changed...but it can't. I just want to show my respects to the family....and am thankful that he is allowing it.
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oh my god that is sooo sad.. just quietly be there for your son b/c he wont want to say anything, and soon enough he will let it out crying to you..
teenagers are hard - you never know what is going thru their head... she must of had serious problems at home to do that to herself..