I probably shouldn't be thinking about this BUT...

Goldi1021 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 01:24 PM

I probably shouldn't be thinking about this BUT...

.. . how far in advance do people (or BPs) usually start to put showers together? The wedding is Feb 18th. My MOH's know I have a list of names and addresses when they are ready for it. However they have yet to ask me for it. I know reservations need to be made because nobody has a home big enough for a shwoer. I know they (the BP)are busy people. But they know there are a few issues in regard to scheduling in order to include the entire BP. FH doesn't know where my list is saved on my computer. He has no way of accessing it without me knowing so it isnt like he can help them behind my back. Am I being weird about this?

LMFitz Posted: Sep 19, 2005 01:45 PM

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I'd just send it to them. You can say something like - 'I just finished adding all the addresses - and I don't want you to miss anyone important.' Maybe it will trigger something in them and make them get going.

MayBride06 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 01:48 PM

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Posted by LMFitz

I'd just send it to them. You can say something like - 'I just finished adding all the addresses - and I don't want you to miss anyone important.' Maybe it will trigger something in them and make them get going.

i would do this. I just provided my addresses to the girls. They should be planning it soon, I would guess!

chikita315 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:04 PM

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Your MOHs are your sisters, right? I think you can just send them the list, without it looking presumptuous.
That's what I did with my sister.

Goldi1021 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:23 PM

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Nope. No sisters in the BP. I only sent the BP names and phone numbers of each other and told them I have a list for them when they are ready for it. My concern is less for myself and more for my neices (BMs). They are only with my brother every other weekend and their time is limited because of extra-curricular sports and what not. If they can't be there then they would be sad and so would I. It is up to the others to get the ball rolling in terms of picking a date because 2 of them are children. They need to coordinate with visitation.

hmpena Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:25 PM

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Les,

I would just give it to them. They probably have the place booked. You can say something like, ' I just thought I'd give you my shower list so you have it for whenever you need it.' Then flash your beautiful smile and poof! it's done!

Beth1210 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:27 PM

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I agree, give it to them

and if they haven't started- this will get the ball rolling!

Goldi1021 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:27 PM

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You might be right but I tend to think otherwise. Call it a gut feeling, but none of them have really reached out. I have to coordinate all of the contact. I also do not want to be pushy.

cindyandkevin Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:28 PM

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Posted by hmpena

Les,

I would just give it to them. They probably have the place booked. You can say something like, ' I just thought I'd give you my shower list so you have it for whenever you need it.' Then flash your beautiful smile and poof! it's done!

I agree, I think that's the best option!!

hmpena Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:29 PM

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I didn't think that anything was being done either,until 1 day my sister asked me how many people I thought I'd invite. I told her and that was that. Flash forward a while and suddenly I'm being told I need to hand in my shower list. You never know!

Goldi1021 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:36 PM

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LOL they dont think I am a Bridezilla but they do think I think too far in advance in a slightly obsessive way. I do have two sisters (who are happily not in the BP). My guess is that if they think the BP isnt doing a shower, THEY will. That is just who they are.

scocaj Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:39 PM

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I agree, I would send your MOH the list and get her moving.. B/c I have done two showers and it takes time..

My mom as already planned my shower.. and mine is not until June...

Goldi1021 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:44 PM

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For some reason, I feel if I just send it out of nowhere, they will get resentful. Like I am asking for something. Well I am, but oh well!

Beth1210 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:46 PM

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could you ask one person in the bp if they need the list??

Goldi1021 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 02:53 PM

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Posted by Beth1210

could you ask one person in the bp if they need the list??

I suppose, but I would have to be very casual and matter of fact about it. I waited a hell of a long time to get married and went to more showers than I wanted to. I WANT MY TURN!!! Man am I ever obnoxious!

Beth1210 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 03:00 PM

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give me a name and an email address - I will tell them to get started and ask you for the list!

you deserve to have a great shower

what about your Mom asking one of them- very innocently- offer to help or something?

kellwolfe Posted: Sep 19, 2005 03:12 PM

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Everyone is different - I know that my mom is already look to book and I am sure that she isnt doing it till at least a year from now

Goldi1021 Posted: Sep 19, 2005 04:56 PM

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Posted by Beth1210

give me a name and an email address - I will tell them to get started and ask you for the list!

you deserve to have a great shower

what about your Mom asking one of them- very innocently- offer to help or something?

Beth you are too cute. But my friends would think you are nuttier than I am if they got an unsolicited email from a stranger in regard to my shower. Thank you anyway! But FH told me something I hadn't thought of. My entire BP is Jewish (like myself) and they are in the midst of planning Jewish Holiday gatherings in the next couple of weeks. IT can be very stressful and time consuming. He said to wait until after the holidays are over and if nothing happens by then, then HE would put the feelers out. He wants me to have one. Personally, I think he wants the Dyson vacuum.