I still don't have my dress - 16 days to go... ****UPDATE****
***UPDATE (6/9/08)***
I have the dress. Thank you ladies for all trying to help me out. You were all so kind and generous.
But naturally, the story doesn't end there.
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When I went to try on the dress I discovered that the friggen shoulder piece wasn't there. (I have a shoulder piece that snaps in/out of my dress - hard to explain - see album).
So I called the DIL who I had been dealing with and she sounded ticked at me. I said I was driving back to NYC (from E. Hampton) and would be passing by Blue Point (where she is) in about an hour. Could I drop in then and pick it up? She reluctantly said yes.
My BM was visiting me for the weekend and we went together to pick up the shoulder piece. I told her to come in with me because I got such an uncomfortable vibe on the phone. When we got there the DIL's husband answered the door and said 'How are you paying for these services???' No 'hello...I'm sorry you had to come back again.' He was just rude and spoke in a pissed off tone. Now, I get that it was his mother, and he's devistated, but he was so effing rude it was ridiculous and completely unprofessional. I had a checkbook in the car, but I really didn't want to be put in the position to write out a check in front of him. So I told him that my FH was writing out the check and sending it. He got annoyed and asked who the check was going to be made out to. I told him that FH was writing the check to 'The Estate of Madeline....' He threw up his hands and said 'Young lady (yup, he actually said it - in a condescending tone), that isn't going to work at all.' In a huff he got up and paced around. He then asked me who told me to write the check that way and I said that I was just told by my family to do so (I was told to do so in case the family was going through a financial battle with the estate, etc.). He got super pissed and told me to write the check to HIM or to CASH and send it to his house (not his mom's house - as originally planned).
I was SO upset when we left. I felt RAILROADED and completely uncomfortable. The man was awful. Again, I know people handle death in different ways...but I just got such an awful feeling from the whole thing. Almost like he was planning on keeping the money himself. I dunno. It was just really really weird, and put me in such an awkward position.
Who the helll knows what money issues the family could be going through. For all I know they could be at war with each other. As much as the situation was terrible, this was a simple business transaction (on my end). I didn't want to get personally involved with any of this. I just wanted my dress and I wanted to pay for the work that was done.
Now I need advice. What do I do about the check? Who do I write it out to? I sincerely do NOT feel comfortable writing the check to cash or to this man who I don't know. I want to make sure that I do the right thing and pay for the work she did (which by the way, the dress fits and looks fantastic!).
Maybe I'm just being ridiculous and writing the check to 'cash' is ok???
What do you ladies think?
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Some of you may have remembered my previous post about this...
Well, my seamstress passed away yesterday.![]()
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I feel terrible. The family is so upset.
I originally had someone going to pick it up either today or tomorrow...but now with the wake and funeral the daughter-in-law said that I can't go and get it until Saturday morning. But I can't go Sat morning because my BFF is coming into Penn Station at noon...and the DIL said that no one can get it to me after 12 pm...
I'm just really upset. I feel really selfish because its a really horrible thing that happened. My heart breaks for the family...but at the same time, I'm going into panic mode because I don't have my dress, I haven't tried it on at all, there are probably a bunch of alterations to be made (including a bustle), and I have only 16 days left. I really hope someone will be able to work on it for me with such a shoirt window.
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Anyone want to pick my dress up on Sat morning for me?![]()
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I have the dress. Thank you ladies for all trying to help me out. You were all so kind and generous.
But naturally, the story doesn't end there.
When I went to try on the dress I discovered that the friggen shoulder piece wasn't there. (I have a shoulder piece that snaps in/out of my dress - hard to explain - see album).
So I called the DIL who I had been dealing with and she sounded ticked at me. I said I was driving back to NYC (from E. Hampton) and would be passing by Blue Point (where she is) in about an hour. Could I drop in then and pick it up? She reluctantly said yes.
My BM was visiting me for the weekend and we went together to pick up the shoulder piece. I told her to come in with me because I got such an uncomfortable vibe on the phone. When we got there the DIL's husband answered the door and said 'How are you paying for these services???' No 'hello...I'm sorry you had to come back again.' He was just rude and spoke in a pissed off tone. Now, I get that it was his mother, and he's devistated, but he was so effing rude it was ridiculous and completely unprofessional. I had a checkbook in the car, but I really didn't want to be put in the position to write out a check in front of him. So I told him that my FH was writing out the check and sending it. He got annoyed and asked who the check was going to be made out to. I told him that FH was writing the check to 'The Estate of Madeline....' He threw up his hands and said 'Young lady (yup, he actually said it - in a condescending tone), that isn't going to work at all.' In a huff he got up and paced around. He then asked me who told me to write the check that way and I said that I was just told by my family to do so (I was told to do so in case the family was going through a financial battle with the estate, etc.). He got super pissed and told me to write the check to HIM or to CASH and send it to his house (not his mom's house - as originally planned).
I was SO upset when we left. I felt RAILROADED and completely uncomfortable. The man was awful. Again, I know people handle death in different ways...but I just got such an awful feeling from the whole thing. Almost like he was planning on keeping the money himself. I dunno. It was just really really weird, and put me in such an awkward position.
Who the helll knows what money issues the family could be going through. For all I know they could be at war with each other. As much as the situation was terrible, this was a simple business transaction (on my end). I didn't want to get personally involved with any of this. I just wanted my dress and I wanted to pay for the work that was done.
Now I need advice. What do I do about the check? Who do I write it out to? I sincerely do NOT feel comfortable writing the check to cash or to this man who I don't know. I want to make sure that I do the right thing and pay for the work she did (which by the way, the dress fits and looks fantastic!).
Maybe I'm just being ridiculous and writing the check to 'cash' is ok???
What do you ladies think?
______________________________________
Some of you may have remembered my previous post about this...
Well, my seamstress passed away yesterday.
I originally had someone going to pick it up either today or tomorrow...but now with the wake and funeral the daughter-in-law said that I can't go and get it until Saturday morning. But I can't go Sat morning because my BFF is coming into Penn Station at noon...and the DIL said that no one can get it to me after 12 pm...
I'm just really upset. I feel really selfish because its a really horrible thing that happened. My heart breaks for the family...but at the same time, I'm going into panic mode because I don't have my dress, I haven't tried it on at all, there are probably a bunch of alterations to be made (including a bustle), and I have only 16 days left. I really hope someone will be able to work on it for me with such a shoirt window.
Anyone want to pick my dress up on Sat morning for me?
