I think this is rude...

I agree, this is rude. People really shouldn't mention gifts at all with the invite.

Personally, I'm not comfortable with asking guests to contribute to the wedding or the honeymoon. I've read this as a suggestion somewhere, but I don't care for it. It would be like asking guests at a party to pay for the refreshments.

knock knock....who's there?


TACKY!!!!!

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Posted by july06bride

I JUST got a wedding invitation..inside the invitation (by the way it was addressed to Mr and Mrs... yet we are not married yet) there was a small card...the card states


Dear Friends,
On this special day there is no better gift than your presence. At this time N and A will be living in rome, Italy and this is the reason they are choosing a wedding contribution instead of gifts.

Thanks

Is it me or is this completely unnecessary/??Please, let me know if i am overreacting.

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THAT'S SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO RUDE AND SOOOOOOOOOO TACKY. WOW.

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Posted by smm2675

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Posted by RedHead

I dunno if i find it Rude but rather WEIRD...

don't most people give money anyway?

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i think most do give $$, but to come out and ask for it?? thats weird and rude

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that is what i meant silly

THAT IS SO WEIRD!!!!!!!

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Posted by RedHead

I dunno if i find it Rude but rather WEIRD...

don't most people give money anyway?

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Actually, most people outside of NY bring or send gifts to weddings. I have only given cash gifts since moving to NY. Prior to that I always sent china - and sometimes I still do if they register

ummm...the couple lives in ITALY. I think they were trying to politely say, 'please don't give us STUFF...how the hell are we going to bring it to ROME?'

They probably could have worded it better, but I do understand that they were trying to send the message that they can't lug things across the Atlantic Ocean.

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by july06bride

I JUST got a wedding invitation..inside the invitation (by the way it was addressed to Mr and Mrs... yet we are not married yet) there was a small card...the card states


Dear Friends,
On this special day there is no better gift than your presence. At this time N and A will be living in rome, Italy and this is the reason they are choosing a wedding contribution instead of gifts.

Thanks

Is it me or is this completely unnecessary/??Please, let me know if i am overreacting.

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You have GOT TO BE JOKING ME!????

that's even worse than one I heard about from a co-worker who told me that she was invited to a wedding last yr and the invite said 'no wrapped gifts'

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That could have been cultural. Jehovah's witnesses do that to kind of skirt the no gift giving part of the religion. I saw something on Michael Jackson's mom (a Jehovah's Witness) and she requested gifts in brown paper bags for her lavish birthday party - a party that is totally against her religious beliefs in the first place.

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Posted by suven

ummm...the couple lives in ITALY. I think they were trying to politely say, 'please don't give us STUFF...how the hell are we going to bring it to ROME?'

They probably could have worded it better, but I do understand that they were trying to send the message that they can't lug things across the Atlantic Ocean.

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That is a good point. I don't think they were asking for money as much as they were hoping people wouldn't give them anything they had to take on the plane.

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Posted by cjik

I agree, this is rude. People really shouldn't mention gifts at all with the invite.

Personally, I'm not comfortable with asking guests to contribute to the wedding or the honeymoon. I've read this as a suggestion somewhere, but I don't care for it. It would be like asking guests at a party to pay for the refreshments.

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I recall a very expensive wedding that included registry info in the invite (plus the website). Once on the website, there was also a honeymoon registry. It was some kind of gift check thing (like cash) to be redeemed by the couple on the honeymoon. They went on a 3 week honeymoon to like 5 places though (London, New Zealand and a couple others) so I can imagine they needed cash after shelling out $60K for the wedding - all on charge cards with 0% interest. - bride is a friend so that's why I know.

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Posted by suven

ummm...the couple lives in ITALY. I think they were trying to politely say, 'please don't give us STUFF...how the hell are we going to bring it to ROME?'

They probably could have worded it better, but I do understand that they were trying to send the message that they can't lug things across the Atlantic Ocean.

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yes, that is why... it could have been a word of mouth thing... We ALL know they are moving to Italy...

by the way, despite the different POVs, thanks for letting me get my vent out of the way! It helped...

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You have GOT TO BE JOKING ME!????

that's even worse than one I heard about from a co-worker who told me that she was invited to a wedding last yr and the invite said 'no wrapped gifts'

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That could have been cultural. Jehovah's witnesses do that to kind of skirt the no gift giving part of the religion. I saw something on Michael Jackson's mom (a Jehovah's Witness) and she requested gifts in brown paper bags for her lavish birthday party - a party that is totally against her religious beliefs in the first place.

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no, they were not Jehovah’s Witnesses. just completely obnoxious! I can't even imagine what was going through their mind when they picked the wording on their invites!

I have heard of this before - but at a wedding in Wyoming (where I assume there's a different standard of what's acceptable). I'm shocked they just don't send out self-addressed deposit slips for the bank!

How odd!

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Posted by july06bride

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Posted by suven

ummm...the couple lives in ITALY. I think they were trying to politely say, 'please don't give us STUFF...how the hell are we going to bring it to ROME?'

They probably could have worded it better, but I do understand that they were trying to send the message that they can't lug things across the Atlantic Ocean.

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yes, that is why... it could have been a word of mouth thing... We ALL know they are moving to Italy...

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maybe a lot of their guests are thick headed. arrows pointing to what they want may not help so a delivered note clearly stating what they'd rather have may get through to ppl.

I dont know about everyone else but I have always given $$ as a wedding gift and always wrote a check in case it got lost I could replace it for them since that day is so hectic. I was actually told by FMIL that a wedding I went to for her nephew(which we gave a decent size check)that the nephews mother went around telling people that they thought receiving a check was rude and if people were gonna give checks her son should return them Needless to say 3months later my check was cashed. To ask for $$ is just obnoxious.