I think this is rude...

Original post by july06bride

May 11, 2005 05:35 PM

I JUST got a wedding invitation..inside the invitation (by the way it was addressed to Mr and Mrs... yet we are not married yet) there was a small card...the card states

Dear Friends,
On this special day there is no better gift than your presence. At this time N and A will be living in rome, Italy and this is the reason they are choosing a wedding contribution instead of gifts.

Thanks

Is it me or is this completely unnecessary/??Please, let me know if i am overreacting.

Donna&Joe708 Posted: May 12, 2005 08:51 AM

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Oh my goodness! That is SO rude!

MCDO15 Posted: May 12, 2005 09:12 AM

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ewww...how do people do that?

july06bride Posted: May 12, 2005 09:17 AM

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Posted by kase21

LOL... I would make a contribution to a charity in their names and place that in their card! Let's see how that goes over!

Considering that they couldn't even bother to address the invitation properly, and then have the gall to ask for money... LOL... maybe I'm just a little petty about these things.....

I LOVE this idea...I dont know if I could do it...but I do love the idea

shamrock12472 Posted: May 12, 2005 09:21 AM

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Posted by kase21

LOL... I would make a contribution to a charity in their names and place that in their card! Let's see how that goes over!

Considering that they couldn't even bother to address the invitation properly, and then have the gall to ask for money... LOL... maybe I'm just a little petty about these things.....

I LOVE this idea! If they really didn't want any gifts, they would have stated that their guests presence is enough and to please not give gifts as they are moving overseas - you don't ask for $$.

RedHead Posted: May 12, 2005 09:31 AM

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i thought about this and i really think that what was said WAS in fact tacky...

I actually understand that they said no gifts, lordy that would be a lot to bring over to Italy....BUT to ask money to be given to pay for the wedding...TACKY. Anyway by the time they get the money the WEDDING is over...

I think it is the wording that bothers me most

LIWeddings Posted: May 12, 2005 09:42 AM

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I felt so touched with this I thought I would give you the $$$ to give as a gift. Here it is!

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july06bride Posted: May 12, 2005 09:43 AM

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TOO funny!

july06bride Posted: May 12, 2005 09:43 AM

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Posted by RedHead

i thought about this and i really think that what was said WAS in fact tacky...

I actually understand that they said no gifts, lordy that would be a lot to bring over to Italy....BUT to ask money to be given to pay for the wedding...TACKY. Anyway by the time they get the money the WEDDING is over...

I agree- it is the wording

but also the fact that its there IMO

Wanting is ok- asking is not

RedHead Posted: May 12, 2005 09:46 AM

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Posted by LIWeddings NYCityWeddings

I felt so touched with this I thought I would give you the $$$ to give as a gift. Here it is!

hmpena Posted: May 12, 2005 09:47 AM

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Posted by LIWeddings NYCityWeddings

I felt so touched with this I thought I would give you the $$$ to give as a gift. Here it is!

LMAO!!!!

amstellitelady Posted: May 12, 2005 10:02 AM

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EXTREMELY RUDE

Jax430 Posted: May 12, 2005 10:14 AM

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Wow, SO tacky!!!

lullabella Posted: May 12, 2005 10:57 AM

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Honestly if I received an invite like that I would just laugh. I wouldn't be offended just embarassed for the bride and groom.

LIWeddings Posted: May 12, 2005 11:11 AM

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Dear Brides and Brides-to-be;

December 11, 2005 will mark this website's 10 year anniversary. Many have expressed a desire to show their appreciation by sending Ron and Liz gifts. Although this is an absolutely thoughtful idea and just your presence on the website is a present in and of itself and just the thought of the ladies sending gifts touches everyone's heart they really would much rather have cash! We will be setting up a special secure form in which you can input your credit cards. Thank you all so much for you understanding!

Regards
Ron and Liz children

Thumballina Posted: May 12, 2005 11:28 AM

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Posted by suven

ummm...the couple lives in ITALY. I think they were trying to politely say, 'please don't give us STUFF...how the hell are we going to bring it to ROME?'

They probably could have worded it better, but I do understand that they were trying to send the message that they can't lug things across the Atlantic Ocean.

I agree...my mother got an invitation to awedding here in NY...the couple will be living in Israel...they included a card explaining that anything they would need could be purchased in Israel. Having to lug gifts back from the U.S. would be a pain in the arse...imo...who wants to worry about weight requirements, extra luggage esp since they will be flying back to Israel from their HM destination...are they suppose to lug all they're gifts with them on their HM also???...I don't see anything rude with it at all...jmo

iffer042373 Posted: May 12, 2005 11:31 AM

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I think thats rude and tacky I would give some type of gift and then as for the cash I would give like $10 or something lol lol lol

JimmysBride Posted: May 12, 2005 11:35 AM

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I can understand why they prefer cash but the wording 'wedding contribution' is just SO inappropriate, IMO. They really should just have used word of mouth or left it at 'your presence it present enough' period.

simbacat Posted: May 12, 2005 11:37 AM

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Posted by Suzannebride

If there is no better gift than your presence, why do they want a contribution?

Exactly what I was thinking

justshir Posted: May 12, 2005 11:59 AM

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Question...

if not contribution, how would you briefly word it? -- just in case there happens to be a bride / groom on here who may be thinking of the same...

boobobunny Posted: May 12, 2005 12:04 PM

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Posted by LIWeddings NYCityWeddings

Dear Brides and Brides-to-be;

December 11, 2005 will mark this website's 10 year anniversary. Many have expressed a desire to show their appreciation by sending Ron and Liz gifts. Although this is an absolutely thoughtful idea and just your presence on the website is a present in and of itself and just the thought of the ladies sending gifts touches everyone's heart they really would much rather have cash! We will be setting up a special secure form in which you can input your credit cards. Thank you all so much for you understanding!

Regards
Ron and Liz children