If DH ever cheated.......

Original post by Moehick

Feb 01, 2005 09:00 PM

All this talk about people cheating got me wondering what the LIW ladies would do if it happened to them.

JimmysBride Posted: Feb 02, 2005 11:20 AM

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Posted by MCDO15

last time i said 'No' that was the end of story.. a women that still trys to get a guy that is married, there could be no future with anyway because who is to say it coudlnt happen again?

Yes the women has a role in affiar but the married person (husband) has the power and control of the sitatution.... there is no excuse

jmo....

Yes... there's no excuse for EITHER of them. It takes two to tango, they are both at fault. The woman could just as easily have said no the second she found out he was married. If she chose not to, then she is just as wrong.

don424 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 01:07 PM

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Posted by boosh78201

Beat the crap out of him, kick him out of the house, burn his clothes and then divorce him.

my clothes?????

MCDO15 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 01:18 PM

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Posted by JimmysBride

Posted by MCDO15

last time i said 'No' that was the end of story.. a women that still trys to get a guy that is married, there could be no future with anyway because who is to say it coudlnt happen again?

Yes the women has a role in affiar but the married person (husband) has the power and control of the sitatution.... there is no excuse

jmo....

Yes... there's no excuse for EITHER of them. It takes two to tango, they are both at fault. The woman could just as easily have said no the second she found out he was married. If she chose not to, then she is just as wrong.

morally yes...but she doesnt need to be right or wrong.. if you cut somthing off at the head (a person husband) the women cant possibly do a thing about it. sad to say, the other person is allowed to be wrong. she is taking care of her needs, not considering anybody else feelings (which is what a ton of ppl do daily in thier lives)

june262004 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 01:29 PM

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Posted by don424

Posted by boosh78201

Beat the crap out of him, kick him out of the house, burn his clothes and then divorce him.

my clothes?????

don424 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 01:43 PM

Re: If DH ever cheated.......

Posted by june262004

Posted by don424

Posted by boosh78201

Beat the crap out of him, kick him out of the house, burn his clothes and then divorce him.

my clothes?????

i mean the other stuff, ok, but my clothes???

june262004 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 02:38 PM

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Posted by don424

Posted by june262004

Posted by don424

Posted by boosh78201

Beat the crap out of him, kick him out of the house, burn his clothes and then divorce him.

my clothes?????

i mean the other stuff, ok, but my clothes???

U better be careful not to piss of Boosh.

Blu-ize Posted: Feb 02, 2005 02:50 PM

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First I would empty the bank accounts. Then, I would change the locks on the house. Cancel his credit cards and throw all of his crap on the front lawn. So after that, I would go visit him at the morgue.

violet Posted: Feb 02, 2005 03:59 PM

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Cheated how though? If it were kissing someone else, and it happened once, I don't think I'd divorce him over it. Other than that, I probably couldn't stay with him. Especially if it were an affair because there's so much lying in that situation.

CubanBride Posted: Feb 02, 2005 04:28 PM

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I would probably try to forgive, but that dependso nthe situation. I am not one to throw away a relationship without at least trying.

palebride Posted: Feb 02, 2005 05:09 PM

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I would cry and cry and cry
I would be forced to divorce him because I cannot get over things like that...i would try...but I doubt it would ever work because once I give my trust, I don't like to have it thrown back in my face.
And I can't forget things...i just can't.

And I would ruin all, I mean ALL of his video games, while he watched.

Mrs_B Posted: Feb 02, 2005 05:09 PM

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I would NEVER forgive OR forget!!! his a$$ would be kicked outta the house sooo fast he wouldnt know whether he was coming or going.. (and he knows this too )
then........... i would pull a Lorena on him

september2004 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 06:38 PM

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i have no idea how i would react, but this is what i would THINK i would do:

depends if there are kids involved and/or if it was on ongoing affair. a one timer i would probably be able to handle and work through, but quite honestly would rather not know about it because it would hurt too much. an ongoing affair would be grounds for divorce in my book, kids or no kids...

september2004 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 06:47 PM

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Posted by MCDO15

Posted by Anniegrl

but I'd hunt the b!tch down and kick HER a$$ too (if she knew he was married, that is).

......

what did she do? i never under stand why people want to go other the other person who may be clueless about a marrige...and even if she knew, the person husband ought to be the first person to say im married and walk away

i agree with you 100%!

back in the day i was actually approached by married men and more than once had to say, 'you may not respect your marriage to your wife, but i do'...

IMO, for the wife/husband it's the spouse that one should be concerned with not the other person in question. the 'other woman/man' owe you nothing, the spouse, however, took a vow...to you...

LIBrideinBWI Posted: Feb 02, 2005 08:35 PM

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Wow.... I can't believe how many people would just walk away from their marriage. Personally? I would forgive and but never forget - BUT there would be some intense counseling involved.

When I was 14, my mother found out my dad had been carrying on an affair with some woman in another state. It was UGLY. She kicked him out and was prepared to get a divorce. Because she was falling apart, she also got herself into counseling. My dad pleaded for forgiveness and agreed to go to counseling as well. Mom agonized over the decision-she was devastated, but she knew she was still in love with my dad.

My parents have now been (happily) married for 36 years. To this day, my mom still thinks about what happened. However, she is happy she didn't abandon her marriage.

It was through counseling that my parents learned communication (something that had been lacking) and how to appreciated each other, and not take the other for granted. She also learned that if she was to forgive, she would forgive with her whole heart - no throwing it in his face every time they had a disagreement- but she will never forget. Her analogy is that she compares herself to a fine china plate that had once been broken and put back together professionally - she looks perfect, but she knows where all the cracks are, if you look closely.

Because my mother chose to stay, I learned first hand how HARD marriage can be,how important it is to make your partner first over everything else and most importantly how sometimes it takes something like infidelity to draw you closer together as a couple. My parents truly do love each other - I hope my marriage to Tony is as loving, and FUN as their's is. And I'm going into this marriage with the knowledge that something like this COULD happen (my Dad was NEVER someone to pull a stunt like that EVER-but he did) and we will deal with it together.
JMO
Amy

julz33 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:31 PM

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He would not want to find out! If there are kids maybe jst a divorce but no kids I would DESTROY him.

If my husband cheated on me and I divorced him... it is not ME that gave up on the relationship it is HIM. He gave up on it by cheating.

jozieb0925 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:35 PM

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Most likely divorce him. I would never be able to trust him again...

MrsERod Posted: Feb 02, 2005 10:51 PM

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Posted by oct.2004bride

beat the living sh!t out of him

LOL...ditto!!!

MrsTC Posted: Feb 03, 2005 09:51 AM

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If DH ever cheated, I would definitely separate from him. I wouldn't be so quick to divorce though. I take my vows pretty seriously.

nferrandi Posted: Feb 03, 2005 11:33 AM

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I'm surprised as well that so many people would divorce. But then again, I think my DH would divorce me if I cheated without even thinking twice.
I personally would have to take a lot of things into consideration. Was it just a kiss, did he have a one night stand, was he carrying on an affair? Also, what were his feelings about the whole thing? Did I catch him red-handed or did he come to me with the truth? Was he sincerely appologetic or did it seem like he just didn't care about the marriage anymore? All those things would play a big role in whether or not we tried to work things out. If I decided to try, it would definitely mean counciling and him being on total lock down.

Janice Posted: Feb 03, 2005 12:20 PM

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I am surprised as well how many people would end their marriages...I can't imagine a day without DH, and if he cheated, I would try my hardest to understand why, and make adjustments if he still wanted to save us.