I'm sure this topic has been covered before but....

Tonys_Girl_03 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:05 PM

I'm sure this topic has been covered before but....

I am trying to decide what to do.... pictures before the ceremony or pictures during the cocktail hour?? Since our ceremony is at our RH we don't have time in between to take pictures, so either we see each other before or we miss our cocktail hour. FH says he'd rather do it before (cause he's all about the food!), but he'd do whatever makes me happy. I love the tradition of not seeing each other before the ceremony, and I would looooove to see his reaction when he sees me walking down the aisle.... and on the other hand, I reeeaaaallly don't want to miss the cocktail hour... I'M SO TORN!!!

What are you girls doing??? TIA

MarjorieFrank Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:07 PM

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Personally, I would do it during the CH but that is because I am very traditional and would never want to see FH before the ceremony.
I think it is a matter of how you feel. We can tell you one way or the other, but you have to decide what means more to you.
Good Luck!

christine2010 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:09 PM

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we have the infamous 'gap' between our ceremony & CH so we have enough time to take pictures.

however, my friend was in the same situation as you. she got married at her RH & was disappointed about her now DH seeing her before the ceremony.

so what we did was, all the bridesmaids & grooms men blocked her out of her FHs site. (there where 20 of us) as he walked closed to her we all moved aside & we did a reveal. she got to see his very first reaction & they made for some great pictures.

Rosalind_75 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:12 PM

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i am not all about tradition. if i was i wouldnt be getting married at the RH and my father would be paying for this whole freakin wedding. lol

fh and i didnt really take that much time to think about this. we are paying for it and dont want to miss much of anything. we will still be so happy to see each other for the frist time.

Read this it might help

good luck

stinenandy2010 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:14 PM

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we don't really have this problem bc of our gap between church and reception.

my friend this past weekend has this problem, we did the pictures beforehand. the photographer set it up so he caught the moment when the groom first saw the bride.

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:15 PM

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We are doing them in between church and RH...I really want to go to CH

marinai7 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:17 PM

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Personally, I would not want to see FH before the ceremony. You can stop by the CH for 15 minutes and then go and take pictures.

MrsC2010 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:18 PM

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as of right now we plan to do them before the ceremony (we are getting married at the RH) but i am starting to be torn about that...

Lsorrent Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:19 PM

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Posted by christine2010

we have the infamous 'gap' between our ceremony & CH so we have enough time to take pictures.

Same here

SoonToBMrsC Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:25 PM

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If I was in that situation I would do it during cocktail hour just because I am very traditional and supersticious about seeing each other before. If you do it during the cocktail hour just have them pull food into your bridal suite and maybe you could get to eat some right before the reception.

sugarnspice Posted: Aug 04, 2009 02:30 PM

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There is something else to consider. Where will your photos be taken and where is the cocktail hour?

See i hate attention. If my photos would be outside at the hall, and so would the CH I would hate it. you KNOW people will be staring and watching. also, they may be in the background.

Juts get the logistics of everything before you decide.

Also.... if you miss CH, you bridal party does too...

MongieToBe Posted: Aug 04, 2009 04:46 PM

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We are def doing pics before b/c neither of us want to miss Lombardi's CH I was apprehensive as well b/c I wanted him to see me for the first time walking down the aisle. But, a lot of couples do it before when u get married at the RH. Talk to your photog/video. I've seen it where they are all set up and the groom is turned around and then the bride walks up behind him and taps him on the shoulder and he turns around and sees her for the first time. I thought it was cute and we will do something along the same lines. Just make sure that u tell the photog/video so they are all set up

irisheyes23 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 04:57 PM

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We are taking pics before the ceremony because our ceremony is in the evening at the RH. I definitely want the big reveal photo taken though.

CappyGirl Posted: Aug 04, 2009 05:04 PM

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We thought about doing pictures before the ceremony, I actually thought seeing FH in advance might help take the edge off a bit. I think it might actually relax you for the rest of the day!!

We only have a small gap between the church and RH so we are just taking pictures at the RH. We have a cocktail 1 1/2 hour, so if we have to miss a little of the CH we will.

jcreilly Posted: Aug 04, 2009 05:07 PM

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If you guys will be seeing each other theN i say take pictures before you want to go to your ch

Ray8183 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 05:18 PM

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We are getting married at RH, so will do pics before. It will relax us both because both of us hates to take pics. Only you know what is best. Good luck.

Jna2010 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 05:32 PM

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personally, i would not want to take pics before the ceremony cuz i really want the first time i see fh to be while im walking down the aisle

its up to you though, whats more important to you

jlt2010 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 05:37 PM

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we decided to take pictures before the ceremony because FH said and quote 'I will have to reconsider marrying you if you make me miss CH' He was all joking but if it's that important to him, I am happy to comply.

I think you'd still be able to have a 'first look' somewhere for you to surprise your FH. Your photog should be able to set this up for you. Have FH face the other way and you can come up from behind and have the photog capture all everything. HTH.

Ncarlo Posted: Aug 04, 2009 05:43 PM

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We have the same thing. I was bummed about seeing him before the wedding but honestly.. ch is the best part!! I def don't want to miss that, and once all the pics are done before hand you can just relax and not worry about taking pictures bc its time to start the party!

But I think every little girl dreams of that moment when your FH sees you for the first time coming down the aisle, and when you find out that may not be the way your day pans out.. its sad! =(

Jen84 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 06:03 PM

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we have a gap between the ceremony and the CH but it's not sooo big of a gap... if anything, we'll just go through CH... I'm kinda traditional in that I do not want FH to see me at all before the ceremony so if that means we don't go to CH, oh well... I'm not even sure I want to go to the CH anyway, I think I want my big entrance lol