In laws... UPDATE at bottom

Does anyone else ever think that there should be a board dedicated to our DARLING in laws... Mine are awful. FFIL passed away on the 1st, and the viewing was tuesday night. NONE of his children (including FH) had spoken to him in years, and we all went more out of respect for FMIL. So FSIL's friend comes, and she introduces everyone (this is my nephew john, my brother frank) she introduces me by saying, 'thats Kat, she doesnt matter' and walking away. Also, not ONE person from FH's family called to wish our daughter a happy birthday, and when he called them on it, the SAME sister said well if you would bring her here for christmas and thanksgving we would call.
im ready to rip my hair out. They have been nothing but trouble from day one.


UPDATE

So today was the big meeting (which I was not allowed to attend) and it did not go well AT ALL. FSIL is off her rocker. First she called me a b!tch-wh*re, then she said she didnt want to have to talk to me. and when FH said then fine act like a child and dont talk to her, she said i want you to put it in writing that when i see your daughter i dont have to talk to kat. So after this meeting DARLING fh decides he is going to invite her to breakfast with us, and she ignores me the WHOLE time. she barely even said three words to my daughter. I wanna write her off, i dk what to do

WOAH,

Rude and unnecessary!

Listen, no one said every in law has to like every in law, but seriously, out of respect for her brother, she could have at least just ignored you

I'm really sorry, that's crazy for you to get treated like that! Regardless of the history between you two, I dunno if there was a fight or an incident, but that shouldnt' even have mattered in that moment. That's crap.

OMG!!!

'she doesn't matter'????????????????????????????

Oh, there are words for this, and 'in mourning' isn't one of them.

I'm livid for you!!!!!!

Surround yourself with good in this world. Life is so short and precious, you don't need this!!!!!!!!!!!

If this were an isolated incident, i would have ignored it and chalked it up to the stress of losing the father she has not spoken to in 25 years even though he lived 5 minutes away she just wanted nothing to do with him. but... this crap has been going on for YEARS. she hates me for NO reason. at her aunts birthday a few weeks ago she was like kat you didnt tell me you were pregnant again, you look like youve gained some weight. I didnt say anything though i wanted to, in the interest of keeping the peace. Then her mom was taking a picture of her kids, and at EVERY party they take a picture of the 3 kids and FMIL. so i told her to get in and i would take the picture because i know its tradition. so darling FSIL says
'no one likes a smart a s s Kathleen' to which i reply, 'the good news is i dont care if you like me, your brother loves me and we are getting married and that is all that matters, you are just going to have to get used to it'. Mind you they also didnt invite our daughter to this party although there were numerous other children invited.
Im fed up

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsP

wow that's just horrible! And I thought my in-laws were horrible!

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Yeah me too! OY! I mean my in-laws just don't know how to mind their own business and FMIL won't let FH grow up! But I agree with the original post! There should be a board to rant about future in-laws!

And you're right, your FH loves you and that's all that matters!

You are such much nicer then me. They would have been cut out of my life a long time ago if they treated me like that. How dare she treat you like that. I understand if there are issues but at a funeral is not someplace to air those feelings.

I so feel for you and I am so sorry.

WOAHHHHHH

omg smack that biotch!

i cant believe this! im sooo mad for you!!!

but at least you stand up for yourself. keep doing it and putting her in her place.

did the two of you ever sit down and discuss why this is going on?? is she just jealous that you are marrying her brother??

edit for spelling. and i feel bad for your daughter!! how old is she??

she loved me until my daughter was born, then out of nowhere she hated me. its SO odd. they dont EVER even see her unless im like shoving her down their throat or showing up on their doorstep with her. i live in queens they live in Patchogue. they have come to queens once, and i drive an hour and a half each way every week to try and give my daughter a relationship with them. im tired of it

ETA: i have TRIED to talk to her and i CONSTANTLY play nice, she just hates me.

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Posted by Soon2bMrsH

WOAHHHHHH

omg smack that biotch!

i cant believe this! im sooo mad for you!!!

but at least you stand up for yourself. keep doing it and putting her in her place.

did the two of you ever sit down and discuss why this is going on?? is she just jealous that you are marrying her brother??

edit for spelling. and i feel bad for your daughter!! how old is she??

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My daughter turned 2 on monday and NOONE from FH family even bothered to call.

edit cuz i cant spell either

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Posted by Scarpak

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Posted by Soon2bMrsH

WOAHHHHHH

omg smack that biotch!

i cant believe this! im sooo mad for you!!!

but at least you stand up for yourself. keep doing it and putting her in her place.

did the two of you ever sit down and discuss why this is going on?? is she just jealous that you are marrying her brother??

edit for spelling. and i feel bad for your daughter!! how old is she??

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My daughter turned 2 on monday and NOONE from FH family even bothered to call.

edit cuz i cant spell either

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Thats sooo strange! hmm i wonder why??? is she married/in a relationship/have kids??? im wondering if its a total jealousy thing.

happy belated birthday to your prescious baby girl!

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Posted by Soon2bMrsH

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Posted by Scarpak

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Posted by Soon2bMrsH

WOAHHHHHH

omg smack that biotch!

i cant believe this! im sooo mad for you!!!

but at least you stand up for yourself. keep doing it and putting her in her place.

did the two of you ever sit down and discuss why this is going on?? is she just jealous that you are marrying her brother??

edit for spelling. and i feel bad for your daughter!! how old is she??

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My daughter turned 2 on monday and NOONE from FH family even bothered to call.

edit cuz i cant spell either

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Thats sooo strange! hmm i wonder why??? is she married/in a relationship/have kids??? im wondering if its a total jealousy thing.

happy belated birthday to your prescious baby girl!

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She got divorced when my daughter was 1 because she had an affair, she has an 18 year old daughter and now a grandson and she is dating the man she had the affair with. her lifes not bad for her to be jealous

WOW...I think we have the same FSIL.


FM me if you ever want to commiserate....