Does anyone else ever think that there should be a board dedicated to our DARLING in laws... Mine are awful. FFIL passed away on the 1st, and the viewing was tuesday night. NONE of his children (including FH) had spoken to him in years, and we all went more out of respect for FMIL. So FSIL's friend comes, and she introduces everyone (this is my nephew john, my brother frank) she introduces me by saying, 'thats Kat, she doesnt matter' and walking away. Also, not ONE person from FH's family called to wish our daughter a happy birthday, and when he called them on it, the SAME sister said well if you would bring her here for christmas and thanksgving we would call. im ready to rip my hair out. They have been nothing but trouble from day one.
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So today was the big meeting (which I was not allowed to attend) and it did not go well AT ALL. FSIL is off her rocker. First she called me a b!tch-wh*re, then she said she didnt want to have to talk to me. and when FH said then fine act like a child and dont talk to her, she said i want you to put it in writing that when i see your daughter i dont have to talk to kat. So after this meeting DARLING fh decides he is going to invite her to breakfast with us, and she ignores me the WHOLE time. she barely even said three words to my daughter. I wanna write her off, i dk what to do
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My future in laws are sweethearts. My future mother in law is almost 80 years old, retired and treats me like the daughter she never had (my fiance is an only child). My future father in law wants to always take me out to lunch and gets us little gifts for no reason (hes also retired, lives alone since FH's parents divorced 8 years ago) and has a lot of free time on his hands...Thankfully they are not the meddling type at all..
I feel grateful not to have evil in-laws...Whew!
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WOW WOW WOW - UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!!!!!
you are better than me bc at this point i wouldnt even go! tell FH he can go when he wants but im not going!!!!
my FILs are a pain in my a$$ too but nothing like this!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!! I am sure they talk abt me when im not there - i dont care!!! yeah im stealing your son - DEAL WITH IT!!! LOL....
my FMIL is very nice and mean well...... but shes annoying... with her stupid comments!
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i sent FSIL a text saying i wanted to talk so we could clear the air, she said i was very rude to text her and it shows i was raised to be a b!tch. I am officially DONE
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i sent FSIL a text saying i wanted to talk so we could clear the air, she said i was very rude to text her and it shows i was raised to be a b!tch. I am officially DONE
WOWn that was so uncalled for. Sorry that you have to deal with this.
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im sorry you have to deal with all of this and it must be so hard on you guys!! But remember you are marrying your FH not them.
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'she doesn't matter'????????????????????????????
Oh, there are words for this, and 'in mourning' isn't one of them.
I'm livid for you!!!!!!
Surround yourself with good in this world. Life is so short and precious, you don't need this!!!!!!!!!!!
ITA!!!! This is ridiculous! Don't let their rudeness change you one bit, you stay the same sweet and awesome person you must be for you FH to have proposed and keep it moving!
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tell me about it in laws are crazy- mine want to run my whole wedding- best part is their not even paying for anything my dad is - i want to kill them their soooo out of line its crazy
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I can't believe that someone can actually be that rude and heartless. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.
And I hope your daughter's birthday was wonderful!
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my daughters birthday was wonderful, no thanks to any of them. Im so tired of the drama. Shes going to be like 39 and she acts 12.
Scarpak
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So im at the point where i am seriously leaving FH... I just cant take his family anymore, im falling to pieces and its not healthy. I dk what to do...
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wow. very cruel
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Wow...that's unbelievable!! I can see why you would be so frustrated.
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Wow!! that was just plain rude
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Posted by Scarpak
my daughters birthday was wonderful, no thanks to any of them. Im so tired of the drama. Shes going to be like 39 and she acts 12.
Dont leave HIM because of his family.
Have a serious discussion with him. I mean a come to Jesus discussion.
First you CANT make him choose. That is cruel. He might have a F Uck ED up family, but is HE F'ed up?
It will not end wellif you make him choose.
2. You explain to him how you feel. What they are putting you through and what its doing to you. You need his support and you need him to tell them it is UNACCEPTABLE to treat you the way they have.
3. Your daughter does not know any different if they are there or not. They dont want to come, dont stress. Their loss. Dont sweat them on this one. Its sad. Its sad they would not want to get to know your daughter or be in her life. But do YOU want people this toxic around her? No.
4.TRY not to get caught up in the drama. Dont give them that power over you anymore. Call them out on their bad behavior and dont stand for it anymore. What are they going to do? Not give your daughter a B;day presant? Whatever.
I say call them out in a dignified way. You dont have to add to the drama. but 'You know aunt X, when you say that I feel you are doing it to hurt my feelings and be rude. I dont appreciate being spoken to that way, and i wont take it. Either be nice or dont say anything. I can be an adult.'
screw those A-holes.
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Posted by Sarahgetsmarried
Posted by Scarpak
my daughters birthday was wonderful, no thanks to any of them. Im so tired of the drama. Shes going to be like 39 and she acts 12.
Dont leave HIM because of his family.
Have a serious discussion with him. I mean a come to Jesus discussion.
First you CANT make him choose. That is cruel. He might have a F Uck ED up family, but is HE F'ed up?
It will not end wellif you make him choose.
2. You explain to him how you feel. What they are putting you through and what its doing to you. You need his support and you need him to tell them it is UNACCEPTABLE to treat you the way they have.
3. Your daughter does not know any different if they are there or not. They dont want to come, dont stress. Their loss. Dont sweat them on this one. Its sad. Its sad they would not want to get to know your daughter or be in her life. But do YOU want people this toxic around her? No.
4.TRY not to get caught up in the drama. Dont give them that power over you anymore. Call them out on their bad behavior and dont stand for it anymore. What are they going to do? Not give your daughter a B;day presant? Whatever.
I say call them out in a dignified way. You dont have to add to the drama. but 'You know aunt X, when you say that I feel you are doing it to hurt my feelings and be rude. I dont appreciate being spoken to that way, and i wont take it. Either be nice or dont say anything. I can be an adult.'
screw those A-holes.
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I would NEVER make him choose, I know how hard the situation is for him, and sometimes i think ending it would make life easier all around
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Posted by Scarpak
So im at the point where i am seriously leaving FH... I just cant take his family anymore, im falling to pieces and its not healthy. I dk what to do...
OMG, don't let his family do that to you guys. I would seriously sit down with FH and discuss. I hope everything works out.
Scarpak
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Scarpak
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Im hanging on by a slim thread lol. We talked and he is so upset this is all going on. He is getting together with her to talk on wed morning. so please keep your fingers crossed for me.
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wow horrible! FH doesn't get along with my parents but over time its gotten better - hopefully it will for you too!
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Posted by Scarpak
Im hanging on by a slim thread lol. We talked and he is so upset this is all going on. He is getting together with her to talk on wed morning. so please keep your fingers crossed for me.
We will. Lets see where this convo goes.
Dont get yourself worked up when you dont know what the outcome will be.
