Ok. had to share this story. I had this written out before better but I lost what I wrote so here is a quick rewrite.
Now I love my family & am not making this all about me me me. hehe But on the other hand others should know what will be going on during a wedding. & it is about our family & this special occasion & celebration.
I have a family member coming in from out of town. We do not see this family often so I was excited to have them come. but this is how they plan on coming down… two days before the wedding but only booked a hotel for the day before & had expected that my dad.. the father of the bride to pick them up, to stay at my parents, & someone to bring them to the hotel the next day before the wedding & then after the wedding for them to stay there & my family to bring them around the city. Hmm I am starting to think u are really here for a vaca which is fine by me, but I have some things going on that week.. & perhaps me & my family may be a TAD TOO BUSY around that time.
I was fuming b/c my dad just goes along with anything. There are rehearsals, & tons of things going on. & I do not like people barreling over my sweet dad.. so I have to put a stop to that or my dad will be running around for all his family & be ragged. Perhaps one may think that a father whose daughter is getting married may be a bit busy. I would never even ask someone to inconvenience themselves like that. it is nice when family is able to help but I mean.. Sometimes it is common sense to know what will be going on.
I went through so much to get info together for OOT people, hotel, things to do, etc. & it will make no difference. But to have people go to me “ it is just more comfortable for me to just stay with you, because i don't want to have to drive alot that week & it is more convenient for me”.. ughh.. grrr...
So share your horror stories if you have so I do not feel alone… ANyone have any other unexpected issue come up?
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Espo, she sounds so cute!!
I would love to have her around.
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Oh boy, that is a lot to ask. In our famil the rule is no one stays at the home of bride/groom before the wedding. It is just too hectic to have guests. Tell them to rent a car and most rental car companies even have the gps systems to get them around in case they do not know the area. You and your family have too much to do.
I like that rule!!!!
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celest-are there any cousins or other family members who can entertain them?
SO They thought the parents of the bride would be better i mean not like they'll have much to do ...i would call family members you are close to who will do this favor for you. Then let your OOT family know that your parents will be a little bit busy and cant do this.
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I knew this is how my family would be so I just anticipate being absolutely insane and catering to everyone.
I am just happy they are coming.
I have to make 3 airport runs because my family expects me to fetch them.
sorry I can't help!
lol. U r a saint too. they airport runs aren't so bad. are they the day before the wedding too? My wedding is during the day so my hair is all being done the day before. i don't know how I would even handle the influx.
What annoys me is the accommodations & the expectation of being chaffered around before during & after by us when well we are going to be a tad swamped is what is funny.
I have 2 people to pick up the friday before our wedding.
My mom had no intention of renting a car even though I told her she needed one. The last few times she visited me I lived in Brooklyn or she stayed in Manhattan with friends. LI isn;t as 'commuter' friendly. I tried to tell her.
I keep hearing that LIRR Mineola line is going to be worked on so that throws a monkey wrench in my LIRR plans.
Mom totally expected me to forfeit one of our vehicles. That was where i drew the line and told her she needed to get a car.
FH and I are now planning our HM since he did recently land a new job that will allow him up to 2 weeks HM. We are leaving, most likely, the following day after our reception and if my Mom expects to use my car what the bleep does she think she is going to do with it when I leave. My family is staying until Tues.
To make things even harder my mom asked me to not rely on her to shuttle other family members.
I just take it all in and ask friends for help. I can't blow a gasket...........though I might secretly!
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Espo, she sounds so cute!!
I would love to have her around.
she is, shes 93 and doing great. EVERY single time she sees fh she still gives him $5, although yesterday he got $10, i guess now that he is getting married he has more expenses now, but its the cutest thing. The moment fh walks into the house her whole face lights up and she gets so happy. She was around fh and his brother the most and took care of them when they were kids while his parents were at work.
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lmao...
that's 5 for him and 5 for you!!!
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Espo I am giggling. She is cute. he got upgraded to 10 buck.. lol.
My grandparent have either passed on or will be unable to attend & to me that is so precious that you can have them there. Good for you for having her there (they gall of them for thinking to send her home beforehand..grr) She is going to have a blast.. be sure to get pictures. Can't waot to see her
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my aunt and nana are coming up from florida. but they think they will both be staying at our house the night before the wedding and getting ready with us.
i dont mind my nana being at the house since she will be taking pics with us but my aunt is a bit fo a drama queen and will definitely be causing trouble between her and my mom. so my mom said no to both. because if she has my nana stay my aunt HAS to stay because my nana favors my aunt.
but my uncle lives 5 minutes away from us and literally 5 minutes away from the church (as so do my family and I). So it's not a big deal my nana can come over after we are ready etc or just meet at the church. and i hvae another aunt who lives kinda close who can take my aunt and nana to stay at their house. however, my aunt is selfish and deosnt care that my mom doesnt want them- neither does she . so my poor uncle has to take care of my nana and aunt in his small apt because my aunt also does not want to stay at the hotel.
my mom isn't giving up on this one though. my nana isnt very healthy so its hard my mom would be worrying about her the day of instead of herself and thats not fair to my mom. so my aunt can worry about her for a day!!!
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wow. you & me will blow our gaskets.. at least you will be able to excape to the HM away from it all .
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omg denise!!
there are people who think it is a burden once a parent gets older and just don't want anything to do with that person.. forgets about any sentiments and just don't think caring for them is necessary.. imagine how grandma must feel if she heard this..
she'll be blessing you two with all her heart for wanting her there on your big day.. and i'm a big mush for family sentiments and caring for elderly and treating them with dignity.. we should never forget that at one point, we all will be there.. and we would have to be loved, cherished and treated the with dignity just as others..
we have people like that too in our family.. it's sad, but my grandma is in another country and will not be able to travel.. god willing she will meet my soon to be husband very soon..
i hope your grandma will meet your fh too i have one grandma who wont be able to come either, she will be in another country.
im sorry to ask but can you delete my quote, ill probably delete what i wrote later on...thank you
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cbcf - that is horrible. I wish you could just have nana instead of the other. I guess if you were to suggest it.. it wouldn't fly. But still you aunt really should be considerate of her. Sometime I wonder why some people are the favorite if they are not being considerate of that person!
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Espo I am giggling. She is cute. he got upgraded to 10 buck.. lol.
My grandparent have either passed on or will be unable to attend & to me that is so precious that you can have them there. Good for you for having her there (they gall of them for thinking to send her home beforehand..grr) She is going to have a blast.. be sure to get pictures. Can't waot to see her
lol it is pretty funny but he has a family to support now
i am so sorry, i know how that feels bc i also will have just 1 grandparent there. THey'll be with us in spirit though.
Actually here is a pic of fh and his grandma at our e-party
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done!!!
aww sooo cute!!!
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Well when my cousin got married in Florida pretty much everyone was from OOT. It was crazy, but nothing else that can be done. Two of my cousins (his older brothers) rented cars for their families. Everyone else my aunt, uncle and cousin picked up at the airport. Can you family rent a car or can someone else pick them up?
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done!!!
aww sooo cute!!!
thank you
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done!!!
aww sooo cute!!!
thank you
OMG. she is the cutest. I want her..lol. You can tell she adores FH. he looks like a little kid with her.
I am happy for you & him, that you can have her there with you!
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Mici n KC - Thanks. I am working on that right now. we got other options in the works!
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done!!!
aww sooo cute!!!
thank you
OMG. she is the cutest. I want her..lol. You can tell she adores FH. he looks like a little kid with her.
I am happy for you & him, that you can have her there with you!
hahaha if you pick her up she can go to your wedding ...he does adore her
thank you so much...i hope your family issues work out, i dont know why they have to add more stress
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done!!!
aww sooo cute!!!
thank you
OMG. she is the cutest. I want her..lol. You can tell she adores FH. he looks like a little kid with her.
I am happy for you & him, that you can have her there with you!
hahaha if you pick her up she can go to your wedding ...he does adore her
thank you so much...i hope your family issues work out, i dont know why they have to add more stress
thanks!!
You better be careful though I totally will steal her. lol..
