Interfaith bride

So we are finalizing things and the wedding music needs to get done. Tryin to keep the wedding from being too religious. We are having a rabbi and priest marry us but the religious stuff stops there. Here's me question. Do we dance to the hora? Fh is Jewish and I'm not. He would like it but my I'm not Sure. What's your opinion guys?

Interfaith bride

I've been to a few interfaith weddings where they've danced the hora and I always think its fun! I say go for it!

Interfaith bride - Long Island Weddings

I am in the same boat as you, though we're having a judge marry us. We will not be dancing the hora, breaking the glass, etc. I feel I made a HUGE (which is an understatement) sacrifice by not getting married in church, and the outcome of that was if we can't represent both religions, we won't represent either. FH barely identifies with his religion, so he couldn't care less. This may make me sound terrible, but my parents are paying for the wedding and I am treated beyond horribly by FH's mother so I have zero desire to pay tribute to any tradition related to her (she is the only one pushing for it).

Since you're fine with the priest/rabbi combo and likely have a much more normal situation than I do, I think you should do whatever you and your family feel comfortable with. The hora is technically not religious, but traditional. If having a tradition you don't identify with makes you queasy, I see no reason why it's necessary. It's your day, do what makes you happy!

Interfaith bride - Long Island Weddings

I think it's really personal preference. I would do whatever will make you and FH happy. We got married by a judge but did it under a chuppah and my hubby broke the glass. We planned on doing the hora but decided a week or two before to nix it because we felt like we were only having Jewish stuff and nothing catholic so we didn't want to alienate my family. Honestly I thought it would be fun to do but my hubs was the one who said no even though he is the one who is Jewish.

Interfaith bride - Long Island Weddings

My FH is Jewish and I'm Catholic. We plan on dancing the Hora. Even though it's a Jewish dance, I don't feel like it's necessarily religious. It's more like a custom. Plus, I think it's a fun and easy way to get everyone up on the dance floor and mingling!

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Posted by cj52514

My FH is Jewish and I'm Catholic. We plan on dancing the Hora. Even though it's a Jewish dance, I don't feel like it's necessarily religious. It's more like a custom. Plus, I think it's a fun and easy way to get everyone up on the dance floor and mingling!

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Agree completely! I'm Jewish and FH is catholic we're having nothing religious at the wedding but the hora is more of a cultural thing. And it's so much fun!!

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Posted by Mindyepo

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Posted by cj52514

My FH is Jewish and I'm Catholic. We plan on dancing the Hora. Even though it's a Jewish dance, I don't feel like it's necessarily religious. It's more like a custom. Plus, I think it's a fun and easy way to get everyone up on the dance floor and mingling!

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Agree completely! I'm Jewish and FH is catholic we're having nothing religious at the wedding but the hora is more of a cultural thing. And it's so much fun!!

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This! Its definitely more of a cultural thing and just a fun celebratory dance. We had it at my non-religious interfaith wedding. I was raised Jewish but my Dad is Catholic and my DH was raised Catholic and everyone still had a lot of fun with it. Maybe you can include something cultural to represent the other side as well, if you are worried about it being even?

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Posted by ReadyToBeAMrs

We're not doing the hora at our wedding. FH is Jewish and I'm Catholic, and we're doing a rabbi/priest combo, chuppah, stomping on the glass, ketubah, etc. and I'm very excited to honor all of those traditions. I only put my foot down about no hora because I'm terrified of heights and I don't want anyone lifting my chair into the air. No thank you!

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This is how i feel about it. Thanks ladies for your input. It means a lot. Just so much to consider.

Interfaith bride - Long Island Weddings

I say if FH wants it, you should do it. the Hora is a lot of fun.