Invitation Guest List Advice

I'm getting married at the end of September and will need to start ordering my invitations shortly.

However...i'm not sure what to do....i started working at my new job since February. By the time my wedding hits it's already going to be 7 months. Should I invite the people i work closely with? I'm a paralegal to 3 attorneys...

Not sure what to do.

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I am a paralegal too! Although I have been here for almost two years, so the situation is a little different. I think you should invite the people you work closely with, it's a nice gesture.. I recently had a graduation party and was unsure as to invite my coworkers and their spouses. I did and I was shocked to see how excited and happy they were about it! They really loved that they could come out with their spouses and hang out with everyone outside of work. HTH!

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I wouldn't. Not unless you're incredibly close to them. Otherwise, no.

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I'm in a similar situation. I will have reached my first anniversary at work a month before my wedding.

I've debating inviting my boss...which I've learned if you do, you should invite the team....I've decided to only invite a collegue that I actually consider a friend. We've become very close.

If you are having an intimate affair, only invite those you are close with.

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We're inviting 350 people so it's not going to be that 'intimate.' I hate being put in this kind of situation. I just don't want to 'offend' anyone and i don't know if it's too soon to invite them either.

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This is what I'm doing: I'm inviting the 4 partners and then the 4 people in the office that I socialize with outside of the office. I have been a paralegal for 20 years. Have been working with one of the partners here since the beginning of my career but at the time of my wedding, we will only be at this firm for 2 years.

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I was kind of debating the same thing... will have been here 10 months at the time of the wedding.

I was just going to invite my boss but not the team -- is that bad??

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Posted by Margarita

I was kind of debating the same thing... will have been here 10 months at the time of the wedding.

I was just going to invite my boss but not the team -- is that bad??

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It depends...how big is your team? If you don't invite them all, you'll appear like a brown noser- NOT calling you that but that's the impression your collegues will have. This is what I was told by several people. UGH- such a pickle

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It depends...how big is your team? If you don't invite them all, you'll appear like a brown noser- NOT calling you that but that's the impression your collegues will have. This is what I was told by several people. UGH- such a pickle

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Our team is 5 people (including the boss) but they all have significant others -- so that adds 10 people to the guest list! I would love to invite them all if we had a bigger place but honestly our ballroom can only comfortably accommodate like 120 max so we are already cutting the guest list.

I also thought about inviting them without their significant others and saying something like 'I would love for you guys to come as a team' but I think that would be weird/inappropriate, right?

On another note, my personal trainer asked if he was invited and I was like 'ummmm' and he was like 'what, you're not inviting me?' so i was like 'do you want to come??' and he was like 'yes of course' so i told him he was invited but now I think I have to take it back somehow. Ugh this is so annoying.

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I'm inviting my co-worker, we get along great; we're always going shopping during lunch, etc. And I'm inviting our boss, she's cool, the 3 of us are always go out together for lunch. I'm also inviting an ex-co-worker who I get along great with. But I'm not inviting anyone else from the office.

Invite who you are close to, but don't feel pressured to invite the attorneys just because you work with them.

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I am inviting my two bosses and a close friend from work, my FH works with a team of 7, he invited only his boss. You can't invite everyone and people do understand.

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Invite who you're close with or invite no one. I'll be gone from my current place before then and if I am close with the people at my new place even if I'm there for only a few months they wll be invited. At my current place which I've been at for a while I didn't even get a congrats from my boss on my engagement lol so yea no one would be invited from here..but that's my situation.

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Hmm I think it depends on what type of wedding you're having. If you're having a small, intimate affair I would say eh, probably leave them off. But if you're having a big party anyway, then I would strongly consider inviting them.

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

I'm in a similar situation. I will have reached my first anniversary at work a month before my wedding.

I've debating inviting my boss...which I've learned if you do, you should invite the team....I've decided to only invite a collegue that I actually consider a friend. We've become very close.

If you are having an intimate affair, only invite those you are close with.

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Ooops! Didn't get the memo about inviting the team if you invite the boss.

Oh well, the 'team' was 2 new people who were only here 2 weeks went I sent out the invites and I'm leaving this place when I get married. I think I'm in the clear... I hope at least

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Is it just 3 people you would have to invite? Or is there more?

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Posted by caligirl87

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

I'm in a similar situation. I will have reached my first anniversary at work a month before my wedding.

I've debating inviting my boss...which I've learned if you do, you should invite the team....I've decided to only invite a collegue that I actually consider a friend. We've become very close.

If you are having an intimate affair, only invite those you are close with.

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Ooops! Didn't get the memo about inviting the team if you invite the boss.

Oh well, the 'team' was 2 new people who were only here 2 weeks went I sent out the invites and I'm leaving this place when I get married. I think I'm in the clear... I hope at least

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Oh yea, you're fine

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I am inviting 4 out of an entire building of people. Its a bit uncomfortable becasue you dont want to hurt anyones feelings but you have to remember you have to pay for these people and their guests. People will understand....hopefully

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I think if you don't invite anyone you work with it will be fine. If you decide to invite one, you may have to invite them all.

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Right on R

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I definitely need to invite the 3 attorneys that I work with but I'm not sure about one of the partners. I think i'll just order more invitations and see how 'close' i get to everyone during the summer.