Invites...What would you do???

Ordered my invites and just received them. They are awesome. BUT, after 4.5 years my dad just made contact with me and wanted to settle old gruges. On my invite it says my name, daughter of (mother's name) and my FH's name, son of (his parents). Nothing about my dad. I didn't think I'd ever see him again. What do I do? I don't want to redo the invites and if I did I wouldn't include him anyway. How do I invite him without him getting offended?

I think it is GREAT that you just heard from your dad...let him back in but i think that you do not need to redo your invites and i think you should still send him one. Although it may be hard...tell him the truth...you didnt know when or if you would hear from him. Although it is hard, i think he would probably understand...even if he is a little hurt at first.

You should not redo your invites.
I don't think your dad has a right to be offended after 4.5 years, since he chose to step out of your life.
Tell him that you're glad he's back in your life and that you'd love for him to be at your wedding - but if he mentions his name not being on the invite, just explain the situation.

Let me begin by saying that you are very lucky to be rekindling your relationship with your father... I am in a similar situation - actually a bit more complicated as I have not spoken to my father in about 12 years (that includes all members of his family as well).

This is all JMO... if my father and I were to make peace in the next few months, I would not include his name on the invitations. I would feel bad but, he has not been a part of my life for a long time and particularly during this time when my FH and I have been dating and planning our wedding day.

I cannot give my advice on how you should handle your situation because the details are probably very different and I don't want to say the wrong thing.



I don't think that its his place to be offended if he has not been a part of your life for the past few years. I'm sorry you are in such a difficult predicament.

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Posted by lilqtny

What about putting him in the programs and having him do a reading or something along those lines???

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I think this is a GREAT idea!!!

What if you don't SEND him an invite ?
I know it might be tacky for someone else, but you could probably get away w/ being informal w/ you dad........