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We are trying to figure out our invitations & save the dates....problem is me & my FH both work together at a small office of about 20 people. He has worked there for 15 yrs & I for 2 yrs. He says its easier if we invite the whole office - but there is at least 1 person who I strongly dislike / don't get along with. Problem is this person is close to my boss & other co-workers. Should I invite the whole office & just not her?? There are maybe 4 people who we go out with after work, but a few people have helped me by giving me hints on where to get a dress, photographer, etc. but I don't necessarily hang out with them & 1 or 2 that invited us to their wedding. FH is worried that if I don't invite everyone or especially this person*&! that they will treat me badly after the wedding & make my life miserable (even though they already try too anyway - invited everyone else to a lunch but me last week :( ) I really do not want this person at my wedding, but find it hard to seperate people at work into groups & too exclude people. Can anyone help?? please!!
I personally would not invite somebody that I didn't like and that was giving me a hard time.
Posted by AdriandSteve
Don't feel obligated to invite everyone from your office. I've been at my current job for 2 years and I'm not inviting any of them. I don't see anyone outside of work and if I invite one I'm gonna have to invite all 7 in my dept.
If you don't care about offending her, then don't invite her. If it's going to make things awkward at work, and you're having a big wedding, just invite the whole office. You probably won't even notice her.
i have the same dilemma... some people at work were inviting themselves but i don't even chat with them or hang out with them at all and they're rude... i've been telling everyone it's a small wedding (which it is) and i'm only inviting people that i actually see outside of work... when it comes down to it i think invite those that are supportive to you and if she makes your life miserable already what's the difference IMO
Posted by brecken5
i have the same dilemma... some people at work were inviting themselves but i don't even chat with them or hang out with them at all and they're rude... i've been telling everyone it's a small wedding (which it is) and i'm only inviting people that i actually see outside of work... when it comes down to it i think invite those that are supportive to you and if she makes your life miserable already what's the difference IMO
We are not inviting anyone from work. This is a family & close friend thing for us. There are people at work we are close to, that we would invite, than, there are others we dislike. For the sake of a good working environment we chose not to invite anyone from work. We said it was economic reasons. That kept the peace at the workplace. Nobody was slighted or disappointed.
Way too much thinking involved. It's your wedding and you're not obligated to do anything that you don't like. How does FH feel about that 1 coworker?
Posted by Iluvpoodles
Posted by brecken5
i have the same dilemma... some people at work were inviting themselves but i don't even chat with them or hang out with them at all and they're rude... i've been telling everyone it's a small wedding (which it is) and i'm only inviting people that i actually see outside of work... when it comes down to it i think invite those that are supportive to you and if she makes your life miserable already what's the difference IMO
How are they inviting themselves? Just don't share any details of the wedding with them, and when the time comes and they realize you never asked them for contact info, I think they will get that they are not invited lol.
