Hi everyone, We are on a very limited budget and a lot of people in my family are telling us that we don't have to give favors. They say especially at a Jewish wedding favors are often not given. We are having an interfaith wedding and would like to save the money but I'm afraid this might be a big faux pas. I would love some opinions. Is anyone else out there not giving favors? TIA! Dawn Reflections
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Not everyone gives favors. Your family is right that it is not generally a Jewish tradition to give them. You are fine if you do not. I am doing favors because I love getting wedding favors and I love sentimental mementos. Some people think it's a waste, though. Another option is breakaway flowers. You get an arrangement where the centerpieces can be separated into smaller boquets for couples to take home. I think that the florist charges more but I am not sure. There are some people on here who have done it.
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I have never been to a wedding where they didn't give favors. I understand budgeting issues. I personally wouldn't have a problem with not receiving a favor but some people WILL be and make comments. Trust me theres always someone. What you could do. just an idea. Make a donation to a charity, anything you can afford. It can be $50,$200, less or more. Then print something nice out that a donation has been made in honor of all guests, make it like a scroll and have one at every place setting. It is nice guesture and this way you did something. You don't have to worry about the fact that you didn't give favors.
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You could give something smaller like Jordan almonds wrapped in tule or Hershey's kisses. It doesn't have to be something extravagant if you want to give your guests something
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Not everyone gives favors, although most people on this particular website don't seem to agree with that . . . I've been to very nice weddings were favors were not given.
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I did not give out favors....didn't hear any complaints before or after the wedding.
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We didn't give out favors - we made a donation to the Make A Wish foundation and I printed up cards for the tables. All I heard were how beautiful the cards were and how thoughtful it was. Never heard a complaint. Seriously, if people were mad because they didn't get a three dollar frame, that's their problem, not mine. They came to celebrate a marriage, not get a goody bag!
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We are not giving out favors. We are making a donation. We are going to print out a little note for the table settings saying we made a donation...etc. You don't have to....its just expected.... and if your budget is tight even more of a reason not give out favors.....good luck
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Didn't give favors..didn't feel the need.
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You know I like the donation thing. Almost did that. But then I got sucked into the whole thinking I had to spend all this money on gifts. We still kept it low, and only got gifts per couple. If you feel you need to do more, you can get candy 100 candy bags for a little over a dollar and then you could put inexpensive candy in them that match the colors of your wedding. I have alot of ideas for that if you want any.
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I don't know if you call this a favor or not, but I'm giving my guests pieces of black cake (it's a West Indian tradition) to take home.
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We're going to make a donation. I don't think favors are absolutely necessary so don't drive yourself crazy over it.
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Oh, and I don't think favors are absolutely necessary, but with everything else it can add a nice touch (depending on what the favor is).
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probably not doing favors.
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Favors are NOT a neccessity, especially if it's not in your budget. There's going to be someone to say something whether you give out a favor or not. Half of them gets thrown out anyway. JMO
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There is ALWAYS going to be someone who says something about what you choose to do at your wedding ...grrrr....Anyway, back to your question. I was not going to give out favors, just the matchbooks with our names and dates, and maybe some almonds in tulle, but my DH wanted to do chocolate. I thought it was a waste of money, but he really wanted it, so I caved.
I personally don't care whether or not I get a favor at functions since I end up either throwing them away or giving them away later.
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Funny thing, I was talking to some of my friends on Long Island a couple of months ago and I was telling them how stressed I was about favors, nothing else. So there are two couples plus us. One of the brides asks me, what did we give you as a favor. I of course completely blush and say, 'I'm sorry I don't remember.' She said exactly, we didn't give you anything. The second bride asks the same thing, and responded the same way. You may have some of the older crew 'offended' that they didn't receive a token but overall, I'd say do what you would like to do. A lot of people (like me) didn't even notice
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IMO, favors are COMPLETELY unnecessary and a waste of money. more often than not they end up as dust collectors or in the garbage.
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Posted by dawnreflections
Hi everyone, We are on a very limited budget and a lot of people in my family are telling us that we don't have to give favors. They say especially at a Jewish wedding favors are often not given. We are having an interfaith wedding and would like to save the money but I'm afraid this might be a big faux pas. I would love some opinions. Is anyone else out there not giving favors? TIA! Dawn Reflections
I'm not giving out favors. I haven't seen favors at the last 3 wedding I was invited to. All of which were very nice affairs.
However, if I was doing favors, someone posted these awesome maple syrup bottles in the shape of a maple leaf that they're giving away. That is so clever... and would go with my fall motif. I would get those if I did anything.
But you should not feel compelled to give out anything.
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Posted by 12-3Princess
Not everyone gives favors, although most people on this particular website don't seem to agree with that . . . I've been to very nice weddings were favors were not given.
Same here. I went to a VERY fancy wedding at Windows on the World ( ) years ago and there were no favors. I didn't even realize that until much later - no one seemed to care.
