is it ok for the fh to see the dress

Original post by Redvelet2012

Apr 29, 2010 09:03 PM

I was out last weekend with my girls and we was trying on dresses. I saw 2 ladies with there fh. Trying on dresses. so when I told one of my girls I was going to let Dave decide which dress was nicer my girls said no he cant see the dress. so my question to you ladies are we still doing the traditional no seeing until the big day or honey pick one

LoveyDovey Posted: Apr 30, 2010 12:02 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

i showed fh pics of dresses that i knew weren't the one, pics online and pics of me in the dresses

i dont think i would ever show him the one

but i dont see anything wrong with it if another bride wanted to do this

sometimes i wishhhhhh i could show fh the dress...this way he could say he loves it and ill feel better about my choice

but its too risky..and i want him to be surprised..also...hes a BOY he knows nothing about style lol... and if he said he hated it, id be crushedddd!

cleokizzy Posted: Apr 30, 2010 12:08 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

i wouldn't say it's bad luck. but i still dont want him to see it because i really want to surprise him!

lisagail55 Posted: Apr 30, 2010 12:26 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

Not bad luck, but I know he wants to be surprised!

BriansWifey Posted: Apr 30, 2010 12:39 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

i voted no. i dont need his input, lol. but i dont wanna keep tradition either. i just want him to be surprised when he see's me walking down the aisle.

Lovebug2016 Posted: Apr 30, 2010 12:57 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

Its up to you, but the surprise of him seein the dress the first time when ur all done up at the church may be priceless!

canmigs Posted: Apr 30, 2010 07:28 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I have been struggling with this myself...I have not yet shown him the dress, I kinda want him to be surprised the day of, BUT I know that is so not likely to happen. We live together so it will be nearly impossible for him to not at least see the dress once I bring it home. Plus he will be getting ready in the same house as me so he will definitely see it before the ceremony.

Soon2BRomeo Posted: Apr 30, 2010 08:40 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I think I would die if FH saw my dress b4 the wedding!

jackieee Posted: Apr 30, 2010 08:41 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

Nope. I'm being traditional with this and not letting him see it. I dont know if I really believe it is bad luck, but I dont know. dont want him to see!!

I show him different styles to see what he likes hahah

AngnShaun Posted: Apr 30, 2010 08:46 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I dont think its bad luck... if thats what the fate of my marriage is based on, i find that kinda silly...

but i still dont want him to see it... i want him to see it for the first time that day...

Future Mrs H Posted: Apr 30, 2010 08:52 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I dont think its bad luck- I just want to see his face when he sees be the 1st time in it

MrsTarricone2B Posted: Apr 30, 2010 09:03 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I don't know if I would say it's bad luck for him to see the dress before but I definetly want him to be surprised when he sees me! FH won't even look at my wedding mags bc he's superstitous haha.

Deb627 Posted: Apr 30, 2010 09:28 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

No way... My FH doesn't even know I bought my dress... want to see his reaction as I walk down the aisle...

JAAMS Posted: Apr 30, 2010 09:33 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I don't believe in luck or things that are bad luck....however, I want my dress to be a surprise, so I'm keeping it secret.

regy_k Posted: Apr 30, 2010 09:58 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

Posted by jilliibabii

I say no, but not because it's bad luck. I just want him to be wowed and surprised when he sees me for the first time!

same here - and FH wants to be surprised too
my FH actually knows a lot about the dress: strapless, ivory, not mermaid and not ball gown LOL
but he doesnt know what it all looks like together

NewYorker09 Posted: Apr 30, 2010 09:59 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I know it's supposed to be 'bad luck' (if you believe in that stuff) for FH to see you on your wedding day before the ceremony but I never heard it was unlucky for him to see the dress. It really depends on your preference, a lot of girls really like the idea of 'surprising' him with their dress on the wedding day, and if you have your heart set on this then you probably won't want to show him.

I personally see no problem with FH seeing the dress, but that's just me. I'd rather he like the dress then be shocked by what I'm wearing (especially if he's picky and might not like the dress). If you and FH don't mind him seeing it, then I say go for it. I don't really believe in superstitions and I'm not even sure that one about him seeing the dress exists anyway.

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Apr 30, 2010 10:08 AM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

FH is actually reaaally opinionated about dresses which makes me nervous! I've shown him different styles and some dresses I LOVE he's like 'eh, it's alright'!

I don't believe that it's bad luck but I wouldn't show him the dress with me in it mainly for the surprise factor. Maybe I'll show him a bunch of stock photos including the dress I want and see his reaction lol.

I think it'll still be an amazing reveal the day of for any girl thinking of showing her fh the dress - it's one thing to see the dress on a hanger or a model, it's another to see it on his woman with glammed out hair and makeup!

Tetelove Posted: Apr 30, 2010 12:53 PM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

Technically my FH has seen my dress but he doesn't know that that's the one. I have a whole bunce of clippings of gowns and he started going through them saying which one's were pretty and ugly...so technically my FH has seen my dress but I don't think that it is bad luck...

Tromsugar2b Posted: Apr 30, 2010 01:47 PM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

I just think it ruins the excitement of it, plus men have bad taste anyways. Make it about you, not him.

Soon2bMrsH Posted: Apr 30, 2010 02:30 PM

Re: is it ok for the fh to see the dress

i am not letting FH see my dress, or hear any description of it. not even my headpiece, veil, undies, etc. the only thing that he knows, and already saw, that i will be wearing, is a bracelet that our jeweler is letting me borrow for the wedding. and its because i fell in love with the bracelet when we went to order my ring, and had to have it. luckily he loves it as well!
i just feel very traditional in this aspect of the wedding day. i want that to see his face when im walking down the isle.
but i totally feel that its a personal choice and some brides want their FH to help pick it out. i dont necessarily feel there is anything wrong with that happening if thats what people choose.