Is it rude to...

simbacat Posted: Feb 11, 2005 07:32 PM

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go on our own after the wedding. We are having a day wedding so therefore, it will all be over by 6:30. FH's mom is having people at her house (out of towners) afterwards (she's not even thrilled about it either). We booked a cute honeymoon suite for us to go to afterwards and enjoy our first night together as husband and wife. I'm just afraid that FH would want to go and either hang out at mom's or w/his friends. I just think it would be nice for the two of us to be alone on our wedding night. What do you guys think? I'm I being a party pooper??

amy&anthony Posted: Feb 11, 2005 07:34 PM

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No I think 6 hours with guests is enough. You can always hang out the next day if they are around. The wedding night is for you! :) IMO

M&LSept1606 Posted: Feb 11, 2005 07:34 PM

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no...be alone.

FH wants to take the Ferry to Foxwoods with some family afterward that night, and I want to be alone too..

We'll see who wins!! hahaha

jpavig Posted: Feb 11, 2005 07:36 PM

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IMHO: I hope to continue the party after the reception, depending of course how tired we are. This happens only once (hopefully) in your life time and you want to have all the fun you can. You have the rest of your life to be alone. Plus since your receptions ends that early you can always spend some time with friends and family for an hour or so and then go back to the honeymoon suite. That's just my opinion, I can see your side too though. Maybe you can go back to the suite for a little alone time and then meet up with everyone later on. Either way, good luck.

simbacat Posted: Feb 11, 2005 07:38 PM

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You know us girls always win!! The next day we are leaving for Aruba

I too agree it should be just the two of us, but you know how men are. At least I feel better now and that I'm not being selfish.

JodiBabe Posted: Feb 11, 2005 08:40 PM

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Ours was over by 5:30 & we went back to the hotel. My MOH came there & took some pics of us there & then took my dress & his tux home with her. She returned his tux & took my dress to be cleaned & preserved. We had the rest of the evening to ourselves!!!!! Alot of my family went back to my mom's to continue partying & DH's family went back to my in-laws.

RedHead Posted: Feb 11, 2005 08:42 PM

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Of course is isn't rude!

chris605 Posted: Feb 11, 2005 09:04 PM

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Definetly be ALONE.....

coxmandi Posted: Feb 11, 2005 09:11 PM

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I vote alone, but if he insists on being with his family, then you should set a short timeframe to spend there.

gNi1125 Posted: Feb 11, 2005 09:13 PM

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I'd prefer to be alone.

princess99 Posted: Feb 11, 2005 09:53 PM

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We went right to the Hotel. We were exhausted and were overwhelmed from the whole day. It was the best thing we could have done. We did not know what to do first, LOL besides the obvious.... aside from that we were tired, my feet hurt , and also hungry, we barely ate at our wedding! Be alone you deserve it!

ckgmwedding Posted: Feb 11, 2005 10:10 PM

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My Fh would agree with you!!! We have a night wedding and I know our family and friends they are going to want to party afterwards. He wants to book a hotel room at an undisclosed location so no one can find us

xjulietx Posted: Feb 11, 2005 10:19 PM

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See how you feel that day. You may be exhausted and want some privacy. You may want to be with everyone a little longer. It is your day so you are not being rude or selfish in whatever you choose.

SomethingBlu Posted: Feb 11, 2005 11:02 PM

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I say alone...you can always go back out if you want to, but enjoy the moment by yourselves for a few!

JBKempf Posted: Feb 11, 2005 11:04 PM

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No not at all!!! You and your new husband will want the time together!

JimmysBride Posted: Feb 12, 2005 12:17 AM

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Not rude at all. That's what newlyweds are supposed to do!

germai68 Posted: Feb 12, 2005 12:34 AM

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I know my FH and I plan to go to the bar where we met after the wedding with some family and friends for a nightcap. We are trying to book a hotel right near the bar so we can slip out after just a bit. But we'll see.