Is this the norm for showers?

Original post by mrsh2b

May 01, 2006 04:07 PM

I'm in my friend's wedding this fall. We are having her shower in July for 60 guests. Her MOH just emailed me that the cost split b/w the 5 BMs is $700. I think that's a lot of money to ask from each girl and they should have okayed it with the rest of us before booking the place. Am I totally out of touch and is this the average cost of a shower?

JPand TT Posted: May 01, 2006 08:41 PM

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Wow...that's a lot to ask for. They should have discussed it with everyone first.

ksl268 Posted: May 01, 2006 08:47 PM

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Posted by Mrs.CM

Posted by enjft

Posted by JazzyT

That is way too much to ask from 5 BMs especially since it a local shower and yes they should have consulted with everyone before booking the place.

I agree, then you have to pay for your attire. It is unreasonable.

I agree also. That seems like alot to me.

Iagree! Way too unreasonable!!!

Athee07 Posted: May 01, 2006 09:21 PM

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WOW!!! That is ALOT of money. I would def talk to her about it.

brittny817 Posted: May 01, 2006 09:27 PM

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Yikes! $700 per BM is A LOT of $$$. I have been in some 'over-the-top' bridal parties but that takes the cake.

NinaChris07 Posted: May 01, 2006 10:53 PM

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Posted by mrsh2b

I'm in my friend's wedding this fall. We are having her shower in July for 60 guests. Her MOH just emailed me that the cost split b/w the 5 BMs is $700. I think that's a lot of money to ask from each girl and they should have okayed it with the rest of us before booking the place. Am I totally out of touch and is this the average cost of a shower?

WAIT is it $700 EACH or $700 divided by 5?

NinaChris07 Posted: May 01, 2006 10:55 PM

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I would say something!

transamgirlie Posted: May 02, 2006 07:45 AM

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The way I read it was that the 700 was to be split between the 5 BM's. If that is the case then NO it isn't too much - quite reasonable actually. Putting up 140.00 isn't alot of $.

If I read it wrong and 700 is expected from each BM then heck no!

mskittynj Posted: May 02, 2006 08:02 AM

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Absolutely not!!!!!! $700 each is ridiculous!!!! When I threw my bewst friend's shower it was spit between me, her mom and her sister we each paid $500 for about 40 people. You should def. say something to the MOH ask her to book a place which isn't raping you guys for money!!
XOXOXO
Kitty

BrideChrissy Posted: May 02, 2006 08:32 AM

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That is ALOT of money. There is no way you girls should be responsible to come up with that amount. You guys should have disucssed a budget before anything was ever booked. That is out of control and you should tell her straight out. I know I would!

Das142 Posted: May 02, 2006 09:03 AM

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That is way to much.... I would be shocked

MNM7to7 Posted: May 02, 2006 09:05 AM

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Okay I've been in 7 bridal parties and was never asked to put in for the shower (is that the norm?). I think $700 is WAY TOO MUCH for a bridesmaid to be putting in. It's understandable if you're the maid or matron of honor but not a bridesmaid.

JenNDan07 Posted: May 02, 2006 09:57 AM

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I agree that is way too much!

mrsh2b Posted: May 02, 2006 09:57 AM

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WAIT is it $700 EACH or $700 divided by 5?

It's $700 each. AND to top it off, one of the BMs has a wedding the day of the shower so I'm sure she's going to throw a hissy about putting in that much $ to something she's not even going to attend. My FH FLIPPED OUT when I told him this morning. He was lividid that she didn't run it by us before booking. What IS the norm in your experiences? I'm thinking I'm going to cut her off at $500, inclusive of the gift. Is that fair or is that wrong to do?

ntunison Posted: May 02, 2006 10:14 AM

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WOW!! $700 is crazy!!!

Tiggeruth Posted: May 02, 2006 12:50 PM

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$700 EACH!!! THAT IS INSANE. I think you girls should say something that its just not affordable, etc...

My one friend and her mom through her sister an expensive wedding show but they did not ask for the BMs to contribute equally because it was something they wanted to do (making it a big thing).

You girls should really group together and say you can only realistically do 'x' and that its not fair to have to pay the $700 sicne you were not a part of the planning or something like that.

I thought if it was $700 divided by 5 that would be ok.

The last wedding shower I did we spent about $100 each before present and there were 4 of us. I am hoping my girls dont pay more than $100 each.

jennandrob Posted: May 02, 2006 12:53 PM

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Posted by mrsh2b

WAIT is it $700 EACH or $700 divided by 5?

more than fair, IMO.

MrsMichel07 Posted: May 02, 2006 07:07 PM

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Posted by enjft

Posted by JazzyT

That is way too much to ask from 5 BMs especially since it a local shower and yes they should have consulted with everyone before booking the place.

I agree, then you have to pay for your attire. It is unreasonable.

Totally agree....

Missladybug15 Posted: May 03, 2006 08:06 AM

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I agree that it is alot of money

hunnybunnyxoxo Posted: May 03, 2006 01:27 PM

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OMG! That is insane!!!! She should have consulted with the bridal party first to see what range everyone was comfortable with! I would think that no more than $200-$300
If it were me, I would contribute only what i can afford.