Is this the norm for showers?

mrsh2b Posted: May 01, 2006 04:07 PM

Is this the norm for showers?

I'm in my friend's wedding this fall. We are having her shower in July for 60 guests. Her MOH just emailed me that the cost split b/w the 5 BMs is $700. I think that's a lot of money to ask from each girl and they should have okayed it with the rest of us before booking the place. Am I totally out of touch and is this the average cost of a shower?

chrissyandvin Posted: May 01, 2006 04:10 PM

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ok wow!!! That is a lot!!! ummm no I don't think that is the norm!!! how many Bm's are there?? That's a little crazy! I was a BM in my friends wedding and for her shower it was 300.00 each and she had about 50 guests. We had it at a restaurant

JazzyT Posted: May 01, 2006 04:11 PM

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That is way too much to ask from 5 BMs especially since it a local shower and yes they should have consulted with everyone before booking the place.

enjft Posted: May 01, 2006 04:13 PM

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Posted by JazzyT

That is way too much to ask from 5 BMs especially since it a local shower and yes they should have consulted with everyone before booking the place.

I agree, then you have to pay for your attire. It is unreasonable.

sugarkube4 Posted: May 01, 2006 04:15 PM

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That's a LOT of money.. Plus you have to pay for your dress as well.. AND give a gift..

donegal419 Posted: May 01, 2006 04:17 PM

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WHOA! Not cool! $3,500 is unreasonable in my opinion for a shower. me and some other girls spent about $700 on a shower that we threw...that was the TOTAL cost. Granted it was an at-home shower, but we still had to pay for all the food, paper goods, decorations, incidentals, etc. etc.

stephanief Posted: May 01, 2006 04:18 PM

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That is alot but I know it is very expensive to be in a bridal party. However, I think that is unreasonable. When I was a BM in my friend's wedding like 5 years ago I spent like $1,000 (but that included a 300 gift as well)

thumper9878 Posted: May 01, 2006 04:33 PM

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Wow, that's ridiculous. The MOH should of consulted with the girls first and normally the shower is given by the family, but sometimes the BM's as well. But that's alot to ask for and it's not fair. Hopefully it works out at the end where you don't have to pay that much and 60 guests for a shower. WOW!! Good Luck!

Mrs.CM Posted: May 01, 2006 04:41 PM

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Posted by enjft

Posted by JazzyT

That is way too much to ask from 5 BMs especially since it a local shower and yes they should have consulted with everyone before booking the place.

I agree, then you have to pay for your attire. It is unreasonable.

I agree also. That seems like alot to me.

mrsh2b Posted: May 01, 2006 05:01 PM

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Okay, I'm glad I'm not going crazy. I'm more annoyed that they didn't at least okay it before they booked it. Not to mention, they booked it like in February. I would have appreciated a little more of a heads up on the cost so I wouldn't be hit so hard in the end.

bride_to_be_2007 Posted: May 01, 2006 05:01 PM

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i agree with all of the above....def. too much and you all should have been consulted.

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: May 01, 2006 05:38 PM

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700 from each BM is extremely UNREASONABLE!!!!

bride2b24 Posted: May 01, 2006 05:59 PM

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thats crazy most i ever paid was 300

RobbsWifey Posted: May 01, 2006 06:04 PM

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That was soooo wrong of her to do that to you, so sorry! And 60 guests!? That's a lot for a shower. You should tell her that is too much money and see if other places/options are still available. See what the other BM's say. WOW! That's crazy!

khofmann Posted: May 01, 2006 06:10 PM

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That is a huge expense plus you are trying to save I am sure for your own wedding. The average I ever paid towards a bridal shower was 300.

The MOH really should of discussed this with the BP.

WOW!!! That is really a CRAZY Amount of money

camposal Posted: May 01, 2006 07:25 PM

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wooooah. That is crazy. I would be really annoyed if i were you. I think MOH should have planned the shower with input from all BMs to be sure all of you are ok with it.

Unapearla Posted: May 01, 2006 07:47 PM

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that is rude! $700 is a lot of money to ask for.

lisaslove Posted: May 01, 2006 08:20 PM

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that is alot to ask for!!!. i wouldnt want my girls to spend that much each...

raema29 Posted: May 01, 2006 08:28 PM

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i think that is wayyyyyyyyy to much ... and to begin with she should have consulted with the whole bridal party .. now this may leave you feeling angry with her and ruin a special happy moment for the bride .....