It cannot get any worse...[long]

Wow, that took a lot of courage, and was very strong of you. I am SO SORRY you were laid off, but I am hoping you'll find an even better job!

Wow, I totally admire your courage. Things have a way of working themselves out. Hang in there.

You are very strong! I admire your courage! I have never heard a bride that cancelled her wedding say later 'Gee, I wish I hadn't done that' You did the right thing!

I don't know if it will make you feel any better, but I was engaged to my fiance before this time. We had been together a long time and we just sort of got engaged because it seemed like the natural thing to do.

We just weren't ready. There was too much going on, we weren't really financially stable, and everytime I thought about the wedding I felt stressed out and sad, so we called everything off and broke it to everyone.

When we called it off, even though it was devastating, and embarassing, it was also completely liberating to know that I just couldn't go through with it if it wasn't right. It just makes you trust yourself more!

Now that we are actually getting married, its so much better because it's a concious decision and not just something that we stumble into.

I promise it gets better!! I really do!

It is a fresh start. I wish that it were easier for you. But remember that the end of one thing is just the beginning of something else... and this new beginning could be the most remarkable part of your life yet.

I am so sorry that you are going through this, but remember, this is going to be a completely fresh start in your life. I know it is scary, but obviously you are a strong woman and you WILL be fine.

OMG I am soooo SORRY to hear you are going through all this ~ you will be in my thoughts and here are some for you...

You did the right thing for yourself. Like everyone has said, the end of one thing is the start of new and possibly better thing.

As far as your position goes, get your resume out to headhunters. Let them do the legwork for you. It costs you absolutely nothing. The company who hires you pays the head hunter.

OR, since you have travel experience, us LIW girls can use you as a travel agent for our HMs!!!

You'll make it through this difficult time. You have all of our support.

I'm sorry Losing your job on top of cancelling your wedding is a lot to take. I'm sure you will find a new opportunity soon!

SOrry to hear about what happened!!

As for jobs - try craig's list, and I believe Sat. or Sun. has a major section devoted to job opening you could look into.

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Posted by dgirl

I don't know if it will make you feel any better, but I was engaged to my fiance before this time. We had been together a long time and we just sort of got engaged because it seemed like the natural thing to do.

We just weren't ready. There was too much going on, we weren't really financially stable, and everytime I thought about the wedding I felt stressed out and sad, so we called everything off and broke it to everyone.

When we called it off, even though it was devastating, and embarassing, it was also completely liberating to know that I just couldn't go through with it if it wasn't right. It just makes you trust yourself more!

Now that we are actually getting married, its so much better because it's a concious decision and not just something that we stumble into.

I promise it gets better!! I really do!

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Wow that is really sweet!!!!! for you two!

wow... I give you a lot of credit. You're a very strong person for making a decision like that. What will be, will be - but for now you have to do what's best for you. Take this time to take baths with candles lit around you and a glass of wine in hand, go for a massage, take your adorable dog for a long walk... just relax and BE. And enjoy your boyfriend and each other's company without any stress.

As for the job, someone once told me that when God closes a door, he always leaves a window open. This happened for a reason, even if you can't see it yet. And thank God you have notice and some time to look around. Maybe this is an opportunity in disguise. Go out there and find and do something you LOVE so you never HAVE to go to work everyday. SEIZE this moment and make changes in your life so you live the life you WANT to live - in every way. This could be a very empowering time in your life, if that's what you make it.

As for the pain of it all (and as I realize that I will now be crowned the Queen of cliches), this, too, shall pass - and in the end, you will be stronger. Just have faith and rely on your family, friends and the man you love and you'll be fine. And you'll always have US!!

God bless you!!

Wow, I'm sad and shocked at the same time. It sounds like you are really thinking from your gut and that you are making a rational decision-- b/c you seem very (for lack of a better word) calm about it. If that is what your heart says to do then you should do it. It is going to be very hard though-- and you are going to need to be very strong.

Take a look at your life and see what you want to change and what you want to stay-- act accordingly and don't second guess yourself. Just follow your feelings... I'm sorry about your job (when it rains, it pours) but that just means that life will have to get better b/c you can only go up after you hit 'rock bottom'... So keep your chin up and try as hard as you can to focus on YOU-- take some 'me time' and search around for jobs... post your resume on careerbuilder... try to lean on your significant other, friends and family for support and it might be a good idea to see a therapist who might be able to help you get some feelings out and lead you in a healthy direction.

Hang in there, we are all here for you any time!!

ETA: 'What's meant to be will always find a way'

I strongly believe in trusting your gut and you did the right thing based on what yours was telling you and it's a testament to your strength that you made this hard decision. I'm sorry you are going through so much right now. I agree that this is a time to really take care of yourself and follow your heart. And if you need ANYTHING at all you have a great group of women who are here for you!!

I'm sorry to hear about your wedding and your job. At least you still have your man by your side to get you through all this.